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style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*MvxGbGFavTRFzG0t)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="77c6">I’ll update as this grows. Thank you for following along.</p><p id="ee15">Love,</p><p id="225d"><i>Clara</i></p></article></body>

Who Came First?

Well, I did, of course. But here’s a reading order of my articles to date.

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A few people have asked about where the next part of the story is. Or how does this all fit together?

I tend to write after I process. If something happens, I need a while to think about the event, my part in it, and my thoughts. When I first decided to cheat, that wasn’t a quick decision. It was a long hard road that had many steps.

I had cheated months earlier. Before I decided to write.

I had met Teresa J Conway 🧚🏻‍♀️ online last fall, and her advice and help were invaluable in the first months of what I was doing right.

More importantly, what I was doing wrong.

She was also the one who nudged me into writing. I learned about Medium, MonalisaSmiled, and The Scarlett Letter through her. One night, while I was bitching, “I can’t make this shit up,” to Teresa online.

Teresa wrote back, “why don’t you write it down then and share it?”

Nudge received.

I started thinking about creating and putting my actions and misdeeds there for everyone to see. Parts were tough to write, especially about my marriage and coworker. But that was where I needed to begin.

So in case you want to see how this has progressed, here is the reading order of my stories so far:

I’ll update as this grows. Thank you for following along.

Love,

Clara

Adultery
Reading
Cheating
Writing
This Happened To Me
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