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p id="db15">For example, my husband put a stop to my way of trying to get our son to eat his meals and stop being fussy because it just wasn’t working. After a certain period of time of him implementing his own way of doing things, which was firmer and stricter than I would’ve liked, I started to see some changes in my son and how he would sit down to eat the entire plate of food in front of him.</p><p id="21fa">Now, Andriel looks forward to sitting down next to his parents and mostly eats his entire plate, including the veg. My husband was right, and I was wrong — at least for a period of time (because no one knows the future and kids are unpredictable!)</p><p id="60fc"><b>But my husband didn’t say “I told you so”.</b> He didn’t discredit me as a mother, even if I did question my own decision making. He understood that being wrong is not a bad thing, and also, that <b>I wasn’t “wrong” to begin with</b>. Some things work, and some things don’t work for our children. And some things work for a while and then need to be changed. And that’s OK.</p><p id="4e9d">Parenting, while continuous, is flexible.</p><p id="ec93"><a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-successfully-wing-it-d39222a3d808">And we are all winging it.</a></p><h1 id="101b">Lowering Expectations Is Empowering</h1><p id="cde5">I have this constant need as the main caregiver to simply know what to do and get it right — especially after all the research I do on many aspects of parenting. But the thing is, it is only because of my own expectations that we get upset when things don’t work out. We paint a picture of how things will go, and when they don’t go our way, we self-criticise.</p><p id="3b33">Recently, I have been struggling to make the decision of whether to send our son to daycare. Because of the recent lockdowns, I feared that he wasn’t getting enough social stimulation and he needed to spend more time with other children. We decided to send him to a local nursery two mornings a week.</p><p id="fec8">But that wasn’t my only reason for wanting to send him there. I also needed more time to really step up my game as a writer, begin marketing myself and really work on my book.</p><p id="fa4a">But I’m tired of questioning myself, and <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-get-what-you-want-1973fd008ecb">since taking the road to self-care</a> in order to be a better mother and person, I decided that my reasons were as good as any to send Andriel to daycare at the age of 27 months.</p><p id="d466">It has only been a few weeks, and so far, he does not look forward to going there. I feel in fact he has become shier and clingier than usual. This makes me question once again whether what I am doing is right, and whether the caregivers at the centre are doing right by my son.</p><p id="93a8"><b>I’m ready to assign blame and judge because this is what we do as people growing up in today’s society.</b></p><div id="5778" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/learning-to-enjoy-motherhood-guilt-free-966e7fa38d58"> <div> <div> <h2>Learning To Enjoy Motherhood Guilt-Free</h2> <div><h3>undefined</h3></div> <div><p>undefined</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*o44YftcYVXjSo_va)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="d0f8">But I have to remember that it will solve nothing. I need to readjust my expectations and remind myself that everything takes time and that obstacles are all part of the journey, including my son’s settling in time at daycare.</p><p id="1231">He will get there because he is a strong and sociable little boy. He will be fine because he will still have an abundance of love at home waiting for him when he gets back and throughout the rest of the week. But I cannot decide how and when he will be running happily into nursery in the mornings — that’s a picture I need to let go of, but treasure if it happens.</p><p id="b15a">Sometimes, it

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is our expectations that need change, not our circumstances. We have to be OK with hiccups in parenting. Rather, we need not see them as hiccups, but as part of the process of bringing up children. After all, we are only human.</p><h1 id="7806">Takeaway</h1><figure id="facf"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*0ZLtDIAU40LQtOeo"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@drezart?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Andrae Ricketts</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="f3a0">I believe in a mother’s instinct, but I don’t believe in the expectation that it will be there when we need it. If that expectation isn’t met then we will be more than ready to assign blame, and it won’t help us grow as parents or as individuals. In fact, I think that the constant need to meet these expectations is what causes us to feel like a failure at some point in our lives.</p><p id="b5d4">Instead, I recommend a more supportive plan, where advice can be handed out without coming across as all-knowing and dismissive of the parent. We can learn not to feel offended at others’ suggestions in the same way that others can learn not to be judgemental. I advise that others do get involved in taking care of kids, in a non-judgemental “I-told-you-so” way when the main interest is that of the child — not of themselves.</p><p id="1680">Most importantly, we have to learn that <b>mistakes are normal</b>, and most of the time, they’re not life-threatening. We are all human after all, and that makes us susceptible to countless errors over the course of time. In modern parenting, most parents are learning not to scold their kids when they make mistakes because it’s detrimental to their confidence building. <i>We should take that same approach with ourselves and other adults.</i></p><p id="93d5">So, let’s cut ourselves a little slack, and lower that pressure to get it right. Nobody is born a parent with experience.</p><div id="2a67" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/redefining-the-concept-of-happiness-16e5524c2b2d"> <div> <div> <h2>Redefining the Concept of Happiness</h2> <div><h3>How I’m learning about fulfilment from my toddler son.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*6xDaJcMnjn9r6Bow)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="88c4" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-battle-with-anger-as-a-parent-24e7837c5fac"> <div> <div> <h2>My Battle With Anger As a Parent</h2> <div><h3>Ensuring our son feels loved regardless of our feelings.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*Me4slkvdZGGCbsbjqQ_7bg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="c95b" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-husband-is-a-damn-good-father-de20d1ef2217"> <div> <div> <h2>My Husband Is A Damn Good Father</h2> <div><h3>And he deserves praise.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Oqw-YSI_IVOLn-k0)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="7dcc"><b><i>Sylvia Emokpae, thinker and philosopher, is passionate about self-love, relationships, and motherhood. <a href="https://medium.com/@sylviaemokpae">See more work like this</a>.</i></b></p><p id="f728"><a href="https://twitter.com/SylviaEmokpae"><b>Follow her</b></a><b> on Twitter.</b></p></article></body>

Metabolic and Mental Health

How I Keep Lean Muscles While Lowering Visceral Fat After the 50s in 7 Steps

A holistic approach to healthy weight management to lower the risks of physical and mental health conditions related to aging

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Purpose of the Article

This article introduces critical principles and sample protocols for maintaining lean muscles while losing visceral fat sustainably as we age.

Many subscribers over 50 (male or female) desire to know how to keep lean muscles and lower visceral fat to reduce the risks of metabolic and mental health diseases as they age.

In simple terms, these curious readers ask me to share my experiences and perspectives on healthy weight management, especially maintaining muscle mass while losing visceral fat as they age.

As these readers come from different backgrounds practicing different dietary regimens (e.g., following plant or animal-based diets), I provide a high-level perspective from a neutral standpoint by focusing on the key principles.

To clarify my points, I use myself as a case study. However, as one thing works for a person, that does not work for another. Therefore, my points also include my observations and reviews of the literature representing a broader population.

I documented many successful weight loss cases in an article collection titled Insightful Life Lessons from Personal Stories. Of course, each person used a different approach. However, principles are applied to all of them with no exceptions.

Key Points to Losing Fat While Maintaining Muscles

Understanding a few fundamental elements can be valuable to make sense of my points in this article. Thus, I summarize the essential items without going into technical or scientific details.

As we age, our metabolism gets slower, and our hormones tend to get unbalanced. However, muscles are more critical for aging individuals, and keeping visceral fat under the risk threshold is critical to preventing metabolic and mental health conditions.

Undoubtedly accumulated visceral fat passing the threshold as we age is a known risk factor. Likewise, declining muscle mass is also a cause of numerous age-related metabolic diseases. Thus we need to find ways to reduce visceral fat and maintain lean muscle as we get older.

Losing fat while keeping muscle are two different physical, chemical, electrical, and biological processes that contradict each other. It is like the metaphor of driving a car with an accelerator and brake.

Fat loss is catabolic, and muscle gain/maintenance is an anabolic activity. Different biochemicals are involved in each. Therefore, the critical point is balancing these biochemical activities.

Human anatomy and metabolism are highly complex. The details can include voluminous books. Therefore, I only provide a high-level perspective focusing on the essential items.

From a technical point of view, we need to allow lipolysis to mobilize fat molecules (catabolic) to tap into fat stores and to activate mTOR (anabolic) to build and maintain muscles.

Energy balance is critical to burning fat and maintaining muscle mass. However, the old model of the calories in and calories out model does not work in the long run, especially as we get older. Therefore, the hormonal aspect is more critical.

The essential items to losing visceral fat while keeping lean muscles are maintaining blood glucose levels, keeping insulin low, making the body insulin and leptin sensitive, boosting metabolism, and preventing elevated stress hormones (e.g., cortisol).

I conclude this section with seven mistakes in fat loss.

1 — Counting Calories Religiously

2 — Neglecting the Effects of Hormones

3 — Consuming Refined Carbs Excessively

4 — Fearing and Avoiding Healthy Fats

5 — Overstressing the Body and Brain

6 — Causing Nutritional Deficiencies

7 — Living a Sedentary Life in Comfort Zone

You might check the details of these items explaining each problem and offering practical solutions for them in the article titled Seven Mistakes to Avoid When Losing Fat.

I explained the importance of hormones for fat loss and muscle gain in multiple articles; therefore, it is not possible to repeat all of them here. Interested readers can check the attached articles for details.

Why Fat Loss Has Nothing to Do with Calories

Fat Loss Isn’t Complex But We Make It Mysterious.

Lose Visceral Fat by Understanding the Intricacies of Six Critical Hormones

Five Tips to Melt Visceral Fat and Have a Defined Belly

Reduce Abdominal Fat and Increase Lean Muscles with Two Practical Steps

Attain a Trimmed, Compact, and Defined Belly in Three Steps

Three Tips to Eliminate Insulin Resistance and Shrink Waistline

Six Lifestyle Habits to Skyrocket Fat Loss

Three Tips for Retaining Lean Muscles While Losing Visceral Fat Steadily

Seven Factors Helped Me Reduce Visceral Fat and Keep Lean Muscles

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In this section, I briefly touch on the key points that made a ripple effect in reducing visceral fat, maintaining muscles, and keeping a healthy weight as I get older. I also observed similar patterns in hundreds of people with whom I interacted in health and fitness communities for many years.

1 — Make Dietary Adjustments for Metabolic Advantage

As we are what we eat, the most significant contributor to my metabolic health has been informed and diligent dietary adjustments.

More specially, I personalized my eating regimen with input from literature, anecdotes, and guidance from qualified healthcare professionals such as integrative medicine doctors, dieticians, and naturopaths.

Diet is a personal and health matter. My situation improved when I shifted my mindset from seeing diet as an ethics or politics to a health matter.

Due to misinformation and unchallenged assumptions, my eating regimen in my younger years caused havoc to my health.

As a result, I failed to lose visceral fat and, unfortunately, lost precious muscles. In addition, I acquired a dozen of entangled health conditions.

As it is a broad topic, I can summarize my dietary shift under three topics: replacing carbs with healthy fats, increasing bioavailable proteins by consuming animal-based food, and consuming my food in a specific window.

These regimens made my body fat-adapted, using visceral fat as the main energy source. This approach also contributed to my mental health, boosting my mood with an abundance of energy.

My dietary adjustments helped me feel younger as I got older. I documented my experience in an article titled Six Reasons I Feel Younger and Healthier as I Get Older.

I documented my dietary protocols in various articles. Interested readers might check the relevant ones for details.

When I Skipped Breakfasts for Two Decades, I Gained Copious Benefits.

Here’s What Happened on One-Meal-a-Day After 15 Years.

Here’s What Happened When I Replaced Carbs with Healthy Fats for Two Decades.

My Perspectives on Keto-Carnivore Diet Based on Experience

Keto-Carnivore Diet 101: How to Benefit from Ketosis in Animal-Based Diets

Keto-Vegan 101: How to Benefit from Ketosis in Plant-Based Diets

Keto Diets and Intermittent Fasting Lifestyle Tick the Boxes of Health Goals.

Here’s Why I Choose Ketosis as a Lifestyle Habit.

Eating 200g Fats Daily for Decades Helps Me Thrive

2 — Personalize Workouts to Support Aging

After the diet, exercise is another critical lifestyle factor helping to lose visceral fat and maintain lean muscles.

Like diet, I also personalized my workout regimen. The exercises I performed in my younger years did not serve me after 50. For example, long-distance running was a problem for my aging joints, making them inflamed.

The key points for adjusting workouts were reducing excess cardio and replacing them with more resistance and high-intensity training (HIIT).

My adjusted workout regimen allowed me to burn visceral fat effortlessly and maintain my lean muscles and bone density.

Interested readers might check my workout regimens from the attached stories.

Here’s What Happened When I Performed Calisthenics for Decades.

Trampoline Is Not Just Another Fitness Tool

Why I Plank Every Day for Decades

Joyful and Effective Workouts — Chapter 2

How I Stay Fit While Traveling

Exercise is also critical to lowering the risks of metabolic diseases and mental health conditions. For example, I documented my perspectives on reducing the chances of cancer with exercise in an article titled Here’s How Exercise Might Lower the Chances of Getting Cancer.

In addition, exercise can be used as a method to reverse some health conditions, as I exemplified in a recent article titled Here’s How a Mature-Age Couple Reversed Diabetes and Trimmed Their Bodies with Lifestyle Habits.

3 — Maintain Recovery and Get Adequate Rest

One of the most significant issues in my younger years was elevated cortisol (stress hormone). The primary root cause was not recovering after excessive exercise and not resting enough due to workaholism, ambition, and focus on perfection rather than pragmatism.

When I learned and practiced full recovery after each intense session, my cortisol levels lowered, and my body had a chance to tap into fat stores.

I explained the side effects of elevated cortisol on visceral fat and muscle loss in an article titled Optimize Cortisol to Melt Belly Fat and Keep Lean Muscles with Three Tips.

The key point to maintaining lean muscles is always to recover before attempting to complete the next workout session fully.

In addition, restorative sleep is critical for a timely recovery. High-quality sleep also contributes to fat-burning by reducing cortisol and putting the body in a metabolically advantaged position.

I explained the role of cortisol in our metabolism in the following two articles.

Fat Loss Remains a Dream Unless We Manage Cortisol

The Critical Role of Cortisol in Sleep Disturbances

4 — Manage Stress and Inflammation

This section relates to the previous one from recovery and rest perspectives. Managing stress and inflammation is critical for healthy weight management, especially as we get older.

The critical point is stress affects us at a genetic level and makes epigenetic effects as micro stressors accumulate. I explained it in an article titled Although Stress Affects Our Genes, Lifestyle Habits Can Improve Them.

I experienced chronic stress and chronic inflammation, adversely affecting my metabolic and mental health.

When I achieved lowering chronic stress and inflammation, my body burned fat effortlessly and allowed me to keep lean muscles.

Working in a flow state, regulating my emotions, meditating regularly, having self-conversations, creating emotional self-defense, setting emotional boundaries, increasing my cognitive flexibility, and improving my relationships also reduced my stress and inflammation.

Interested readers might check my perspectives and experience on stress and inflammation in the linked stories below.

Here Is How I Defeated Chronic Inflammation via 9 Lifestyle Habits.

How to Deal with Three Universal Threats Causing Stress and Anxiety

How Not to Be Cracked by Toxic Emotions and Chronic Stress at Work

5 — Balance Hormones and Neurotransmitters

In my younger years, I had no hormonal intelligence and no clue about the impact of hormones and neurotransmitters on our metabolism and mental health.

Like many people, my focus was on energy balance by counting calories from food and expenditure from exercise. This approach was faulty and caused serious metabolic issues for me.

Our fat metabolism depends on hormonal effects. Muscle growth and retention are also hormonal matters. Our neurotransmitters (e.g., dopamine) set our motivation.

As hormones and neurotransmitters are critical for physical and mental health, I posted numerous articles about them. Interested readers might check the attached articles for details.

Hormonal Intelligence: Sharpen It to Achieve Optimal Health

Solve Hormonal Factors Preventing Fat Loss with 3 Tips

Fix Hormonal Sleep Issues and Improve Sleep Quality in 3 Easy Steps

Lose Visceral Fat by Understanding the Intricacies of Six Critical Hormones

Bioidentical Hormones For Longevity and Vitality

Adiponectin Matters for Fat Loss and Inflammatory Health Conditions

Lose Fat and Retain Lean Muscles with CCK Hormone

What DeltaFosB Is and Why It Matters in Solving Addiction Problems

6 — Leverage the Power of Thermogenesis

Thermogenesis is a less-spoken aspect of metabolic and mental health. As it has been critical for my success, I keep highlighting its importance in my health and well-being articles.

Cold and heat therapy can significantly contribute to improving our metabolism. Cold and heat have different hormonal and epigenetic effects on the body.

Thermogenesis, primarily through cold exposure, could also turn white fat into brown fat, as I explained in the article titled Reduce Visceral Fat and Increase Brown Fat with Two Practical Steps.

As a critical topic, I wrote multiple articles about thermogenesis, focusing on both cold and hot. Interested readers might check the details in the attached articles.

Here’s What Happened When I Experimented with Thermogenesis for Decades.

A Cold Shower a Day Might Keep the Doctor Away in My Experience

Health and Longevity Benefits of Dry Sauna

Saunas Might Improve Cardiovascular Health

Instant Mental Boost for Leaders

7 — Support Defense System and Activate Self-Healing of the Body

I left this critical item to the end as previous items all related to this point. For example, our diet, exercise, sleep, and rest can contribute to the activation of our defense system and self-healing system.

I used multiple approaches to improve my immune system. In addition to fundamentals such as quality nutrition, sleep, exercise, and rest, I also performed supplementary approaches such as time-restricted eating, thermogenesis, and activation of the lymphatic system to eliminate toxins and pathogens.

The two critical points for a self-healing system are autophagy and mitophagy. These natural cleansing systems helped me reduce the toxic load in my cells, contributing to cellular and mitochondrial health.

I documented my experiences and reviews in numerous articles. I link to recent ones explaining the autophagy and mitophagy processes.

Here Is What Happened When I Experimentally Initiated Autophagy Decades Ago

Here’s How I Initiate Mitophagy and Make My Mitochondria Denser in 7 Steps

Alan Detoxified His Body with 3 Self-Healing Mechanisms Lowering Health Risks & Accelerating Fat Loss.

Three Tips to Initiate Autophagy

Conclusions and Takeaways

Aging is inevitable. As we get older, our bodily systems get less efficient. Therefore, we must adjust our needs and create new protocols to support them. Unfortunately, methods and protocols working in our 20s do not work after our 50s.

Our hormonal profile significantly changes. For example, our body produces fewer sex hormones like testosterone for men and estrogen for women.

Due to the effects of these master hormones, other hormones also get imbalanced, putting us in a metabolically disadvantaged position.

Based on my experience, reviews, and observations, I offer the following key takeaway points that might help you customize your lifestyle habits as you get older.

1 — Recognize and accept the effects of aging on the body and mind.

2 — Adjust your dietary needs with support from qualified professionals.

3 — Personalize your workout regimen suiting your age, needs, and goals.

4 — Improve your sleep to lower stress.

5 — Watch out for inflammatory factors to prevent chronic inflammation.

6 — Consider using thermogenesis to improve metabolic and mental health.

7 — Improve the immune system and find ways to activate the self-healing system of the body and mind.

8 — Address underlying health conditions timely with support from qualified healthcare professionals.

9 — Stay optimistic and persistent by focusing on improving your lifestyle choices.

10 — Be open-minded and curious to learn from the experiences of others and consider customizing proven methods for your needs.

I hope these critical points can give you valuable perspectives on improving your healthspan and lifespan.

How an Elderly Couple Eliminated Anabolic Resistance and Lowered the Risk of Sarcopenia in 7 Steps

Thank you for reading my perspectives. I wish you a healthy and happy life.

As a new reader, please check my holistic health and well-being stories reflecting my reviews, observations, and decades of experiments optimizing my hormones and neurotransmitters. I write about health as it matters. I believe health is all about homeostasis.

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Disclaimer: My posts do not include professional or health advice. I only document my reviews, observations, experience, and perspectives to provide information and create awareness.

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