Black History Month Series Vol. 6

An Open Letter to African-Americans Who Think I’m a White Supremacist Advocator…wait What?!?

A long-ass comment that deserves to be read- Part 2

Not all black folks are kinfolks. I had to learn this the hard way.

Some of these people drive me to drink. Cheers to being wrong about people!🥂

I have been getting pushback over my apparently controversial story that I wrote from my heart. I’m seeing the same kind of African-American misunderstanding of who I am and what my point is in some of my ‘Black History Month Series” stories.

It hurts my feelings when African American insinuates I’m a white-suck-up or a white supremacist advocator…I’m not.

I’m only human, my weakness is that I’m a people pleaser that's why it hurts but my strength is that I’m a people lover. That is why I am writing this to make myself clear about all the stories I write that are tagged “racism” that get 5–6 black people saying things like:

• “ It was cruel, meanspirited and didn’t add any value to the world except to give ammunition to White supremacists”
• “So what is your intent. This isn’t being written for a Black audience clearly.”
• “good luck on doing all the things racist white people love to see black people do”

For the record, I’m no white man’s plaything! (except for my husband at 2am/pm:)

This whole article is in response to a comment in this controversial piece:

I’m not going to name names so you can scroll through my comment section of the above article to see the essays people write to me. ( If they didn’t erase it already, that DOES happen)

What I will mention though, especially because what this other woman did was so impressive; she wrote an 11-minute response article to this story…wow:

Sidenote: I hate when people do not reply to my response to THEIR disagreement and dissatisfaction. After leaving an essay comment expressing your disagreement, when you don’t reply to me addressing YOUR concerns…

It feels like you just took a huge verbal shit in my comment section and refused to clean it up. It’s so rude, it means you have shut down the conversation and have no intention of understanding me. And if that is the case, why leave a long-ass comment, why comment at all if you don’t care to understand me?

Don’t get me wrong I LOVE long-ass comments too. Just don’t leave one if you have no intention of continuing a conversation. Here is one long-ass comment I wrote in response to people insinuating I’m a white-suck-up or a white supremacist advocator…I’m not:

You have missed my point entirely!

So I’m going to repeat your own words: “pay attention to what you are paying attention to.”

To be clear about what my points were, please pay attention to these points I made:

1) The content of a person’s character is more important than the color of their skin

2) Today, Black people have made more progress than they ever have before

3) I do not relate to the victimization of my race.

Heck, some people don’t identify with their own race or their genitals but who am I to tell them how to live. So why do you have a problem with what I don’t identify with or relate to?

I believe in respect, kindness and understanding which apparently you misconstrued in this article as well. (Wow, sometimes you just can’t win ’em all.)

Do you disagree with 1,2 or 3?

You didn’t seem to address any of those points. So, you vent & have made some assumptions about me that have nothing to do with, those points, who I am and how well I know my friends.

How do YOU know how well I know my friends?

And for you to go so far as to describe the possibility that I might not know that my white friend is a racist. Is just as bad as you apparently assume I am.

And You know the joke about the word ‘ASSuME’ :)

I encourage you to look at my 3 points and address those rather than writing about things I:

A) never said or B) assumed I must mean.

The premise I base my story is coming from personal experience I’ve had within the black and white community. You point out your experience, and I point out MY experience with my (black and white) friends. Which did happen and it echoes the sentiment of the fear many white people I know about calling black people on their BS…if you don’t believe me guess what …you don’t have to.

Do I question your experience? NO

So who are you to be questioning mine?

I value and love all races and do not advocate the degradation of black people or any person. I don’t see where in any of my stories that my promotion of character vs skin could be misconstrued as negative. Those are not my intentions nor the values I live by.

About never experiencing (white) racism; In church growing up, I learned that I am blessed and highly favored and I believe that!

AND that doesn’t mean that bad things never happen to me too. If it makes you feel better (it’s sad if it does), A movie about terrible things that happened to me would win Oscar awards. But I don’t identify with that either…I’m Still blessed.

I want you to know this about me: I’m not into the oppression Olympics, I’m pro the human race, not just the black race. I don’t see myself as a ‘black’ woman, I see myself as a woman. Sometimes, I don’t see what my gender has to do with anything or my sexuality. I’m into a soul of a person and promoting the best of them. When I talk about ‘black’ people or any person, I don’t see race.

And yeah I guess I’m lucky…

Just because I’m lucky to never experience racism doesn’t mean that I’m insensitive to it or even yours and any other human offense I’ve never experienced

Side note: I’ve experienced ‘black’ discrimination from black people. I believe that your life is your responsibility and living by this value, is the best way to live. I don’t go through my life feeling sorry for myself.

I’m not into the oppression Olympics, no one wins and everyone gets bruises.

Stats and links to the historical tribulation of black people will not change my belief in my 3 points. Of course, I care about history and the trauma of racial discrimination but as terrible as those things are, it still had nothing to do with my 3 points.

Again, as YOU said “pay attention to what you are paying attention to”

For even the bible says:

“ As a man thinketh, so is he”

And THAT is how I don’t identify with the victimization of my race.

Heck, some people don’t identify with their own race or their genitals but who am I to tell them how to live. So why do you have a problem with what I don’t relate to?

Your last words to me were very illuminating you said “This isn’t being written for a Black audience clearly” so do you mean:

I’m writing for white people?

I’m a white suck-up or something?

Do you think I’m suffering from internalized racism?

Even after I made my 3points clear

I’m not assuming, I’m asking.

Ha…the irony…if the answer is ‘yes’…because that would make you the very thing you hate. But enough of this black and white talk….I don’t know about you but I’m pro the human race, not just the black race. If the answer is “No” to those questions and you agree with my 3 points then we see eye to eye.

Your comments about me were packed full with ammunition of assumptions.

It just makes me tired — the so-called ‘oppression Olympics ‘ is not an event that anyone can win. They don’t give out medals — just bruises.” Cee Arr

In conclusion, please respond to my 3 points before responding to my specific questions. It would help me to know you understood my viewpoint and you are not just venting over things I didn’t say.

My last words are not the same as your last words, they are neither Black nor White …they are of Hispanic/Latino descent.

Vaya con Dios🙏 (Go with God:)

Although the African- Americans who think I’m a white supremacist suck-up write essays in my comment section; Thankfully…they block me right BEFORE my reply. I love long-ass comments but if you don’t have any interest in continuing this conversation or understanding me, don’t bother leaving one…Cuz honestly, what’s the point if you have no intention of listening to my reply?

When you don’t reply to me addressing YOUR concerns to your long-ass essay comments to your disagreements or negative reviews…

it feels like you just took a huge verbal shit in my comment section and refused to clean it up.

It’s so rude.

I guess, Treating ‘Black’ People Equally is The Quickest Way to be called a “Racist” after all.

Thank you for the 50 claps on that comment…you know who you are❤

In my story about social conditioning I wrote:

Why I believe some black people think I am a white supremacist's advocator

Sidenote: This quote is coming from a white woman whose views on race I actually do advocate:

All you see is racism. You seek it out. It’s an American narrative today. Understandably, it is steeped in American history. You want to find it and pin the tail on the donkey. And anyone who does not agree with the depiction of perpetual victim that the author of this piece upholds is on the “wrong side.” Americans cannot see beyond racism today. There can be no discourse. Someone is automatically a racist if they don’t adhere to the narrative. The goal is to create “discomfort.” Creating puppets from white guilt.”

- My WHITE friend Sophie Pascal

More Stories were written about this story. Thank you Maxwell Jordan:

More from me

“BLACK PEOPLE CANNOT BE RACIST” -Sonia Grace

Wait …What?!

I disagree, sometimes black people are the most racist of them all…here are some examples. My response to Sonia Grace who wrote a response article to this story:

Sidenote: If you can’t see the above response, it’s probably because she deleted it. This does happen!… This is why I screenshot the response and story response she made of this article you just read. As proof of the essays African-Americans wrote about me.

….The irony is, I’m African American too, I was born in Brooklyn NY, just raised in the Caribbean. To this woman, my views are seen as Non-African American. That’s a point I agree with. Here are examples of black racism:

History

To my tribe: I truly apologize for not getting in touch, I have been having problems getting to see my stories for 24 hours for some reason. I’ve been only able to respond to some of my tribe through email. I am finally able to access the 111 notifications I received …WOW as a writer with a small following, I am so excited that you guys responded in abundance. I’m used to maybe 9 or 10 responses but 111?…that’s the 2/22/22 energy I was talking about in my previous article.

I promise to answer everyone but it may take me 48 hours.

You guys know what God & numerology means to me…seeing the angel number 111 means to ‘not to worry everything is going to be alright’.

I guess that’s why I have been having problems seeing my stories for 24 hours just so I could see this when I finally did:

Sometimes problems serve you and bad can be good:)