Feminism Series Vol. 1
Marriage: It’s Easier to Separate Than it is to Stay with It and Work out the Differences
But… If ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ were candies and nuts we’ll all have a Merry Christmas
My marriage was on the rocks and I told Julius Evans about it. To which he replied:
Credit to you both for remaining together. Even through the darkest hours. It’s easier to get fat than it is to lose weight. It’s easier to spend money than it is to save it (self-gratification and all). It’s easier to separate, to a degree, than it is to stay with it and work out the differences…
That is quotable poetry right there!
That wisdom is soooo true.
Marriages are so fickle nowadays. People get divorced if they don’t like the way you sneeze …lol
It’s not like my parent's or my aunties' days where marriages last 50, 60 years. To me marriage is like family, you can get pissed at them, temporarily not talk to them, and not like their opinion or idiosyncrasies. BUT you still love them so you eventually work it out.
I’m more old-fashioned than I seem.
Since marriage is not the same as it used to be. I really believe that the court system needs to keep up with the political climate change of women and feminism…cuz it’s pretty sexist right now. Seems like some women want to have their cake and eat it too.
The reason those laws favor women is that back in the 50s women stayed home and took care of the kids while the men brought home the bacon. Getting half of what the man had was a pretty fair trade; Because women didn’t have the kinds of opportunities they fought to have today.
Bravo for women!
Now today, marriages should have mandatory prenups and short-term marriage contracts to be renewed every 3 - 7 years. With government official licensed marriage counselors at mid-term or/and end of term. I believe that 7 years marks a chapter of life.
In relationships, we've all heard of the 7-year itch, right?
So the contract will help ask the question “are we good?”
That way, marriages have more of a chance to work.
Disclaimer: I’m not condoning abusive relationships or advocating staying in unhappy miserable marriages. I’m saying ask yourself if your spouse is worth it. Can you deal with their ugly or not?
Cuz, let’s face it, no one is perfect and sometimes you are ugly too.
If ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ were candies and nuts, we’ll all have a merry Christmas.
More from me
This one has another quote from Julius Evans:
A story about how I met my husband:
About our son’s mental illness:
