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Woman’s Life: Am I Running Out Of Time?

Know this, you’re not alone.

Couple of days back, one of my friends made a comment on my singlehood and childless/free ( just to be politically correct ) life and shown the concerns on my lack of having a potential partner and suggested that I should “settle down” as quickly as possible before I lose time to become a wife or a mother and seriously start planning for my own family as I am running out of time.

What else can you say to a woman in her thirties, single with no potential husband. And I am sure the suggestion came from a good heart and intention might have been positive.

Now, I’ve officially hit the age where I am warned by well-meaning folks that I’m “Running out of time.” It gave me a different point of view on how other people see me as a woman.

I am sure I am not alone in this. As women, our worth is slipping away everyday.

This thought never occurred to me ( or maybe a few times) that if I don’t settle now I might lose the chance to have children. Sometimes I even wonder if I really want to have my own children or not.

It seems like women become invisible to society after they fit the thirty year plateau and most people start thinking that there must be something seriously wrong with our lives.

My friends who are moms and in seriously committed relationships lament, “Oh, you’re not getting any younger! Those eggs are slipping away!” Not that they are wrong. But even if my eggs are gone, the chance to have a baby is not.

Passing on my own DNA has never been the driving force behind my desire to have kids. In fact it might be a blessing on the world and the kid who’d get stuck with the genes for anxiety and anxiousness.

So hopefully one day certain people will stop treating me like a vegetable that is about to go bad. You can take the eggs out of the mother, but not the determination to nurture.

Remember — you still get to make this life what you choose. I’m expected to be strong, independent and contribute to society while also finding time to get married and have a baby, all before I’m 35. That alone is enough to make me go crazy. Or maybe, just maybe, I don’t want to have it all?

No matter what people tell you, no matter what society says, it is NOT possible for you to focus on every single area of your life and get optimum results in those areas at the same time. It is impossible.

What can we focus on right now? Ask yourself “what is it that is most important to you right now?”

Maybe it means reframing your perceptions on what motherhood, partnership and family means to you.

Whichever path you take, whether you choose to have children without getting married, whether you decide to wait for love or whether you decide to marry a man who is just available, the choice is yours.

Time may feel like it’s running out but it really isn’t. But there really is no such thing as too late and you have the power to help break the stigma!

Be Bold

Be Courageous

Be Your Best

You can join Medium to read all my articles, here.

Maybe consider being a Medium subscriber? It pretty much changed my life.

Subscribe to my weekly (free) newsletter about health, personal development and well-being here https://drthefit.substack.com/

Citation: https://readmedium.com/stop-telling-me-im-running-out-of-time-to-have-children-a39f32ccf6d1