Summary

The text is a personal and reflective love letter from the author to herself, acknowledging past mistakes and setting intentions for self-improvement and self-love.

Abstract

The author pens an intimate letter expressing deep regret for not having been more supportive and affirming towards herself in the past. They admit to having been critical and dismissive, which led to a loss of self-respect and internalization of negativity. The letter serves as a turning point, with the author committing to self-respect, self-cherishment, and the establishment of healthy boundaries. It is a declaration of self-acceptance and a promise to prioritize personal growth and well-being above all else.

Opinions

The author believes they have not adequately valued or appreciated themselves, instead allowing external opinions to dictate their self-worth.
There is a recognition that self-neglect has been detrimental, and that it is essential to be one's own advocate and source of strength.
The author emphasizes the importance of self-forgiveness and the need to release past self-criticism to move forward.
They assert that personal liberation and contentment stem from self-acknowledgment and the honoring of one's own needs and aspirations.
The author suggests that a healthy relationship with oneself is foundational for all other relationships and interactions in life.
They encourage others to join them in this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, as evidenced by the invitation to subscribe to their newsletter and read more of their work on personal development and well-being.

Love Letter To My Affinity Romance

I should have protected, defended, and cherished you

Dear You,

You and I go way back, to the beginning. We are one hundred percent connected in a way no one will–or could ever–understand. We’ve been there, standing together. Sometimes crying in the shower, laughing on silly things, but it’s always been you and me. Always and forever…

Or so it was supposed to be, but some time ago I left you– I left you floundering on your own, to rely on love and encouragement and strength from others–from strangers–when it was I who should have held you up.

When it was I who should have hugged you and praised you and appreciated you for the wondrous person you are–for all the beauty and life you bring to this world.

I should have told you to not care what others think. To not be afraid to be different. To not be ashamed of who you are.

I shouldn’t have cared what people thought. Because in doing so, I said horrible things to shame you. I took you for granted and dishonored you. I said you’re not enough. That if you’d only be a better women, a better wife, a better friend, a better writer, a better lover…then I’d love you.

If you were more confident, more social, more assertive, then I’d respect you. I’ve said things to you I wouldn’t say to my worst enemy and you’ve taken it, and internalized every calloused word I said.

And for that I’ve lost you.

Lately, I’ve been doing some thinking and understood that, yes, it is okay to have clear boundaries and to know what I want from others, but it would be childish to ignore the most important person in the equation of my life:

Me.

I know I have been a mess. And that’s probably okay, because that’s what I needed at the moment or, perhaps, it was the only thing I had in me to give. But I do need to get my shit together. And this is what I expect from me in the process.

I seldom tell you how much I love you. How much I admire you. How beautiful and caring and intelligent and strong you are. That you are my hero.

From me to me

This is what I want. It seems to me I should allow in my life only people who can understand this and support me while telling me the truth and not just what they think I want to hear.

For so long, I made an effort to make sure others were comfortable and at ease. I was the host, sometimes willingly, other times involuntarily. It was important to make sure the people around me reached their potential, felt safe and experienced joy.

Yeah, everyone was important, except the woman in my mirror. I left her down so many times. But now I know what I want from her.

And something tells me she will deliver.

Together WE are enough. WE will conquer this new future. I’ve got you and this time I’m not letting you go. Ever. This time, I will put you first.

I will respect you and honor you and cherish you. Always and forever.

Love for eternity,

Be Bold

Be Courageous

Be Your Best

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Citation: https://readmedium.com/what-i-want-from-me-cf8f96ac2163 and https://www.lifehack.org/378821/love-letter-myself

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