Going Out As A Single Woman
Table for one?
There is NO Reason You Can’t Get Out There By Yourself.
I celebrated my birthday ALONE this year. Yes, you read it right. This is the first time in my entire life when I didn’t have any friends or family around on my birthday.
Of course, it was a bit scary, to begin with, and was not sure how I am going to spend the day. And honestly, It turned out to be one of the most satisfying days in recent time.
Liked most people, I am worked-out, Netflix-ed-out, and tired of the walls I’ve been so busy decorating in the last few months. I’ve cleaned every surface, and then cleaned them again.
It came as quite a shock to realize and was even harder to admit to myself, that I was bored. I need the external stimulation of smiling faces, the sounds of people that aren’t coming from the latest binge-watch.
I need to get out of here. Even if just for a little bit. Even if I go alone. It’s ok to have fun, alone.
Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not ok to do things alone. It’s NOT socially weird, at all, and we need to get over that notion altogether.
Everyone’s path is different and may take unpredictable turns along the way. The problem here doesn’t lie with timing, but a route I went down that impacted my perspective of many things and how I see myself.
Learning to be completely self-dependent, physically, and emotionally, in novel situations is an invaluable skill that will pay dividends far into the future in both your career and your personal life. — The EveryGirl
Ask any single, independent woman, who’s mastered the art of singlehood. Sometimes, you have to take yourself out.
When you live alone and work from home, your schedule revolves around deadlines, Zoom calls. Not much else. Well, The Bachelor or Too Hot To Handle airing schedule — there’s that.
When you find yourself staring out the window, feeling caged — in any way, it’s ok to get out there — Alone? YES! — and find the things you need.
We will all be at peace with ourselves. One step at a time.
You’re responsible for your own life
Being single taught me that I’m the only one responsible for my own life. I’m responsible for achieving everything I want to achieve.
I’m responsible for my health, my wellbeing, my finances — and everything in between.
No one can do it all for you. If you’re waiting on someone outside of yourself to help you make progress or get started, you’ll continue being behind.
You’re the only one responsible for giving yourself the life that you want. Once you realize that, it almost feels like a weight is being lifted off your shoulders.
I can honestly say I have found nothing more liberating and empowering than traveling solo or in fact doing things alone. Learning to be completely self-dependent, physically, and emotionally, in novel situations is an invaluable skill that will pay dividends far into the future in both your career and your personal life.
Being alone isn’t lonely
For some, being alone with your thoughts is one of the scariest things in the world that can give a bit of fatigue. However, when you’re single, being alone with your thoughts is one of the things you do the absolute most.
Sure, you have friends you can talk to, but when it comes down to it, you go to bed with yourself, you watch TV while sipping wine on Friday nights by yourself, you go grocery shopping alone, you take baths, and pamper yourself alone, you see the sunset alone, and you know what? The more you do it, the better it gets.
I took myself out to restaurants, social events all the time when I was living in NYC — it was pre pandemic time. There were nights I’d go to a nearby bar or lounge and sip on a glass of wine while secretly people-watching.
Sometimes men would ask me what I was doing by myself, and I’d tell them I was married or waiting for a friend, whatever excuse getting them to go away. It was my time with me, and I never once felt lonely. My solitude was so sweet that I found the company of others a bore.
Happiness doesn’t depend on another individual. It depends on you. Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely; sometimes, it simply means you’re comfortable with your own company and your own thoughts.
This is a place that I believe every person on earth should come to before settling down. There’s no better feeling than knowing you can be happy on your own.
Let’s get out. It’s not all bad.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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