9 Tantric Masturbation Tips

Expert advice to enhance the tantric masturbation experience

Tantric masturbation is all about exploration, and touching our bodies in ways that give us sensual, orgasmic pleasure as we become more connected with ourselves. If you’ve ever considered trying tantric masturbation, the following expert tips can help guide you through the process.

Focus on the Breath

Oftentimes, individuals neglect breathwork, especially if an orgasm is coming. Try to incorporate a steady breathing pattern as you begin. As energies build, you may notice natural pauses within the breath. It can be helpful to bring your attention to these pauses, and to the subsequent releases. Notice also where breathing moves you from the inside out. Try to move the breath into areas you are consciously touching. You’ll be surprised at how varied and dynamic the breath can be in your body, especially as you bring a higher level of attention and soft focus.

-Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education for Satisfyer

“This is the center of tantric masturbation — luxuriating in every bit of your masturbation journey.” — Prismila De Guzman Kristensen

Forget Your Goal

Let go of the goal. Set yourself a challenge to not ejaculate or come on your clit. If you have been habitually used to the goal-oriented approach to masturbation, with a five-to-ten second peak orgasm every time, try rewiring your experience to focus more on the present moment and a sense of exploration and curiosity. Over time you will begin to have deeper, longer, more full body orgasms.

-Libby Sheppard, Intimacy Coach and Pleasure Educator

Use Oils

Anoint your body in oil. Using a massage oil, or natural lubricant, can be especially helpful when you are practicing tantric masturbation. Oil helps in supporting your nervous system, reducing friction, and heightening sensations, while inviting you to become more viscerally connected. The wonderful thing about natural oil, like coconut oil, is that it can act as a carrier oil for essential oils. Essential oils are also known to have many positive benefits for the body and mind. Choosing particular oils for your experience can further enhance your intention and help in cultivating a richer experience overall.

-Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education for Satisfyer

“Invite your body to guide you as you explore.” — Megwyn White

Appeal to All of the Senses

Tantra literally means to weave, and what you keep around you can become part of your internal experience. Consider your five senses and organize your space and accessories with things that are pleasing to each of your senses. Perhaps dim the lights, or clean up your room, so your line of vision doesn’t land on the pile of laundry begging to be put away. Pick up a candle or air freshening agent to tickle your olfactory senses. You might consider making a playlist of erotic music or soft sounds, so you are not distracted and taken out of the moment by commercial breaks or DJs on streaming platforms. Get a soft blanket, fluffy pillows, or crisp bed sheets to lay on, whatever textures allow you to relax. You might bring some flavored water, wine, fruit, or chocolate to get your taste buds in the mood too.

-Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D, Founder of Modern Intimacy

“Lend a sense of sacredness to the way you relate to yourself, your body, and your pleasure.” — Libby Sheppard

Set a Comfortable Scene

Get comfy. Use pillows, bolsters, or whatever you need to relieve tensions in your body. You also want to make sure the temperature is right, which might mean getting comfy under a blanket, wearing socks, or inviting a heating pad to the experience. Creating a space of physical and emotional comfort will allow your body and mind to become more open to the experience, as tension and discomfort can be a huge distraction.

-Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education for Satisfyer

Make Masturbation An Event

Set time aside, light candles, prepare your space, make it a self-pleasuring ritual rather than something that happens by accident. Lend a sense of sacredness to the way you relate to yourself, your body, and your pleasure.

-Libby Sheppard, Intimacy Coach and Pleasure Educator

Pick a Special Spot on Your Body

Choose to explore specific erogenous zones. By honing your attention to a specific area, you are inviting a deeper journey into the layers of your body. Some popular choices include the breasts, belly, perineum, G-region, or simply holding your vulva with the entire hand as you breathe. Take time to explore different angles, directions of touch, and invite your body to guide you as you explore. This last piece is perhaps the best and most powerful tool within tantric masturbation practice, as it is about bypassing your logical brain and tuning into the intelligence of the physical.

-Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education for Satisfyer

“Bring some flavored water, wine, fruit, or chocolate to get your taste buds in the mood.” — Kate Balestrieri

Take It Slow Throughout the Process

Take your time. Since tantric masturbation is meditative, it is centered on self-love and self-discovery. Be patient with yourself. By being kind to yourself, you are on your way to self-discovery, which is the path to achieving the full, deeper benefits of tantric masturbation.

Also, keep things slow. Whether you are just using your fingers, a vibrator, or a dildo, each movement should be slow, making sure that you feel each and every movement and enjoy every second of it. This is the center of tantric masturbation — luxuriating in every bit of your masturbation journey.

-Prismila De Guzman Kristensen, Founder and Owner of Noti Philippines

Maintain a Sense of Curiosity

This is perhaps one of the most important assets when it comes to tantric masturbation. It’s easy to compare your experience and get caught in the mistake of having expectations. As you focus on curiosity, you naturally peel back the layers of where the body and mind connect. Staying curious will also help you to try new things, whether it be exploring a new part of the body, experimenting with your breath, or inviting the natural processing of an emotion that comes up.

-Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education for Satisfyer

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