The TRUE Sexuality of Feminists (and why it’s a good thing)

You know, if some men were to listen to some feminists talk, they would think that they weren’t sexually attracted to men at all. They might even suppose that most of them are undercover lesbians! However, that might not be quite accurate.

So how can we make sense of this apparent discrepancy? Well, I think a possible answer is this: Many feminists fit under the umbrella label of demisexuality or of being demisexuals. No fellas, being a demisexual doesn’t mean being sexually attracted to Demi Moore (not that I would blame anyone for being so).

Rather, it’s a type of sexuality where a person is more attracted to another person’s mind and may become sexually aroused later on based on a person’s mentality. According to Wikipedia, the definition is the following:

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which an individual does not experience primary sexual attraction — the type of attraction that is based on immediately observable characteristics such as appearance or smell and is experienced immediately after a first encounter. — -Wikipedia

Now, for many men, that’s a pretty alien concept because a lot of men, fortunately or unfortunately, aren’t demisexuals. Many men can look at a woman and know immediately if they are sexually attracted to her or not. Since that is the case for men, the point of confusion is that many men assume that such is also the case for women.

Granted, there are obviously some women who can look at a man and know whether or not they are sexually attracted to him, but those women generally don’t lean towards the more radical aspects of feminism (such as the idea that it would be great if men didn’t try to approach or hit on random women, for example). Those women have what one might say is normal or masculine sexuality (for lack of better terms) and are the ones who actually don’t mind the concept of men approaching women simply because they find those women attractive.

In fact, due to men’s lack of understanding of demisexuality, they don’t see why a woman would be offended by a man finding them physically attractive enough to want to strike up a conversation with them. This is because men think it’s normal to be able to simply look at someone and know whether or not if you find them physically or sexually attractive.

They don’t understand why straight women would be offended by men talking to them mostly because they find them physically/sexually attractive since a lot of men would be more than happy if women found them physically or sexually attractive off the top, but obviously, that doesn’t happen too often for a lot of men, but you can read my blog explaining that men aren’t meant to look good for more information on that.

But even if it is normal for a man to know whether or not he is attracted to a woman on sight, ideally for demisexual women, it should serve as no more than an initial motivation to get to know her better to see whether or not they are actually compatible enough to have a relationship, instead of it being a thing where he just wants to have sex as soon as possible without caring that much whether or not he actually likes her as a person.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, might be what upsets many feminists. Because even if a man isn’t looking for a serious or committed relationship, some demisexual women might still go for that as long as the man has sense enough to still treat them well and with respect and not be the type of douche bag to yell and tell them to get out right afterwards, block their numbers, talk trash about them to other people just because they “gave it up” (when that’s what he wanted in the first place), etc. That kind of dirtbag behavior is probably what causes some women to be wary about dealing with men in the first place, but I have another blog titled, “Men, as a whole, probably deserve the hate we get” that you can read for more information on that.

And that’s why demisexual feminists (who don’t speak for all women, by the way), get so pissed off about guys trying to figure out how to approach and pick up random women because, in their minds, they feel that if a guy is talking to them based solely on physical attraction, he must be a horn dog that sees them as a vending machine for sex and isn’t really interested in them. How could he be? He doesn’t know them.

Like I said, for them, it would at least be better if men approached women with only the intention of seeing if they are compatible enough to be more and to get to know them better beyond what they look like (what they refer to as treating them as actual human beings). They might be more accepting of that, although some would probably still rather men not approach random women at all.

Whether you want to call them demisexual, sapiosexual, “mentalsexual” or whatever, all it means is that they tend to have a more gradual attraction for people which has to grow and is based on things that are more internal about a man than external, which might make it more unlikely for them to be immediately and sexually attracted to a stranger, even if they are a “Chad.”

And so men, largely having typical or “normal” sexuality, may assume that a lot of women naturally think that men are ugly just because they don’t show immediate returned, interest or because they reject them after their random approaches (or dating app swipes, as the case may be), when in actuality, some women are simply demisexual and won’t be sexually attracted to a man unless he thinks a certain way, makes her feel a certain way, and/or displays certain characteristics. For women with that type of sexuality, attraction can grow.

This also explains why many feminists seem to have a disdain for men in general, because certain attitudes and things about a lot of men tend to disgust them, especially if they feel that the way those men think upholds the patriarchy in some way. It’s also the fact that a man can even be sexually attracted to a woman to begin with, without even knowing her, that makes them feel that such a man only sees women as bodies/holes for pleasure, vending machines, or whatever when, actually, that’s not necessarily the case with all men.

It’s just that men know whether or not they at least find a woman physically (or sexually) attractive on sight. The difference between most men (along with the non-demisexual women) and the demisexuals is that the former can have a sexual relationship with a person without it necessarily having to be a relationship beyond that, however, that doesn’t mean that is the plan for every man. Some men aren’t going to go all out just for a pretty face, they actually vet women to see if those women are worth their time and energy as well. In fact, having such a mentality may garner more respect from women for in general.

And now for the grand finale, we need to finally talk about why many feminists and other women being demisexuals is a good thing!

See, according to a lot of red pill and incel philosophy, a lot of women are superficial. In other words, they espouse the idea that women want only want 666 men. No, not THAT 666 (we’re not talking about the antichrist or anything). Rather, the idea that a man has to be six feet tall, makes six figures, have a six pack stomach, and all of that junk.

Unfortunately, some women (those with a more masculine or typical sexuality, for lack of better terms), might be on that tip, which can be quite discouraging for the men who don’t fit that mold and fuels the ideology that women only go for the top 20% or so of men.

However, if men become aware that there are actually women who are more attracted to who a man is and how he thinks, it can actually give average men more of a chance and more hope when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

Only thing about that is, when some men are told that not all women are on the more superficial spectrum, they don’t accept it and think it’s bogus. That is why even when women, typically feminists, tell men to look outside and see that there are short men, bald men, not very good looking men, etc. who are in relationships, they kind of shrug it off and suspect that many of the women in those relationships must be settling for them or using them in some way because they can’t fathom the idea that women can be turned on by someone based largely on their mentality as opposed to their physical looks or financial status.

It’s hard for men who aren’t on the mental/emotional sexuality spectrum to comprehend, so if they themselves are more superficial (for lack of a better word) and can’t possibly see a reason for being in a romantic or sexual relationship with a woman they don’t find physically attractive (other than settling or using them in some way), they assume that women are the same as well. Projection, if you will.

Before I conclude this, I just want to say that some of this might relate to why some men’s marriages become sexless over time. Some men feel that if a woman had attraction towards them in the beginning and their appearance and financial status doesn’t change for the worse, then they might feel that the woman’s attraction towards them shouldn’t change that much either.

However, IF a woman was attracted to him on a more mental/emotional spectrum and he gets lazy to where he doesn’t show a lot of affection anymore, doesn’t do his part around the house without being asked, becomes insufferable in different ways, etc., then that can obviously affect her sexual attraction towards him. Hell, some men might not want to have sex with a woman if she was being insufferable, overly critical, bullied him, embarrassed him in front of his friends and family, etc., yet acted like nothing was wrong and still wanted to have sex.

In conclusion, I want to say that it’s not really that a lot of feminists are undercover lesbians or man haters. It’s just that, unfortunately, they probably don’t like a lot of men as people (irrespective of what they look like), because either those men support the patriarchy or are assumed to (guilty until proven innocent), until proven otherwise.

Their lack of interest in men may also be a result of a bad cycle, the cycle being that the more men espouse their beliefs about women (about women being superficial, only going for the top percent of men, and all of that jazz), the less interested demisexual feminists, who don’t fall into that category, might be in those men.

But the good news is that it means that if you are a man who proves to be a decent human being, there might be a chance that they will like you for who you are enough to be willing to date you and even fall in love with you 🙂 And, in spite of the bad rap that modern feminists get from a lot of men (and even from some women), that kind of sexuality and attraction, if it’s actually based on solid principles and things that actually matter, is a good thing.

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