“Women aren’t vending machines!”

This is a statement that is typically said from women who don’t want men to feel that there are tricks to the trade, so to speak, when it comes to attracting women. They don’t want men to have the idea that they can say certain words, do certain things, exhibit certain behavior, or press certain buttons, and “cha ching!”… coochie comes out.

Perhaps the idea that there are tricks to the trade makes them feel dehumanized in some way or takes away from the individuality of women, since they say that they are not a monolith. And that’s understandable to a degree. After all, people are individuals, and some people have their own unique quirks. There may indeed be some things that one woman likes that another woman may not.

That being said, fortunately or unfortunately, people tend to be sheep to a high degree. People are social creatures and many people want to fit in in some kind of way. And when it comes to women in particular, they tend to like what other women like, at least when it comes to men.

Many women blame men for wanting a trophy wife and for wanting to be with a hot woman to impress other men (supposedly. personally, I just want to be with someone who turns me on to a high degree, but I digress), but a lot of women do the exact same thing. They want to date guys who they feel that other women want so that they can feel that they have a prize and maybe even so that they can make other women jealous or something. Or it’s simply something about a man being able to have options that’s attractive and it probably makes her feel even more special if he has options, but so happened to choose her. Interestingly, enough, I just read an article that touched on that topic.

So the point I’m trying to make is that, seeing as how people are social creatures and seeing as how people tend to be sheep, there may indeed be certain things that generally work when it comes to attracting people (women in particular). Some of this may deal with psychology, some of this may deal with emotional intelligence, etc. In fact, fortunately or unfortunately, the guys who are better with women may simply be the guys who are better at manipulation, for lack of a better word. They understand the secrets, even if perhaps subconsciously, on how to get into a woman’s head. They may understand that, for women, attraction is largely mental. They know how to pull the right strings and they understand that, just like a lot of women say, you have to make love to their minds before you make love to their bodies.

There is this field known as dark psychology. It’s not necessarily popular, perhaps because, as it sounds, it’s controversial. And though it might do me some good to learn that kind of stuff (if only for my own protection to know what to look out for), I just feel like I can’t be bothered to try to do so much to change who I am, to be a chameleon, manipulative, and this, that, and the third just to get women to like me or whatever, although dark psychology can be used for more than just dating. And if a person knows it well, they can probably have a lot of power in the sense of getting other people to do what they want. They may no doubt even be able to go up the corporate ladder and all of that stuff. Indeed, there seems to be studies that suggest that psychopaths tend to be quite successful in a lot of ways because they simply don’t give a damn.

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So basically what I’m trying to say is, not only women, but people, can be like “vending machines” if you know how to press the right buttons and if you know what motivates a person. A lot of people have similar motivations, it’s just a question of knowing the specific nuances of those motivations when it comes to individual people. So it may not be altogether untrue that there are tricks to the trade for men to attract women.

I think the frustration comes for some men when they don’t know those tricks and/or have been taught wrong or unclear information (such as vague things like “just be yourself” “just have confidence” or non-working advice like “be a nice guy, a gentleman, and treat a woman like a queen”). That’s not to say that those things don’t work or aren’t true, it’s just that they aren’t very clear, especially with the last thing, since there are nuances to even being a nice guy and how one should go about it.

In conclusion, I suspect that there are certain things that work, it’s just that a lot of men haven’t been taught those things. In fact, it may have been an agenda, perhaps even a feminist agenda, to keep that information from being easily accessible sense, understandably, some women may feel that men will use the information in the wrong way, simply to sleep with multiple women, but not necessarily commit. Then again, do a lot of women want to commit?

Anyway, even though the use of “dark psychology” or whatever may seem unethical, ultimately, it may be better for society as a whole if more men actually knew how to make women tick than the society we are in where there are so many angry and enraged men, incels, and such, in addition to the amount of largely frustrated women who are allegedly scrambling for only the top 20% of men OR the few other men who aren’t the top 20% on paper, but who somehow “get it.”

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