Finding My Ways To Live A Simpler Life
Sometimes Less Is More
Since my last birthday in July , I think there has been a change in the way I think and operate though I haven’t changed anything in my life. I am still living in the same apartment, my daily schedule is kind of similar as before. Although my surroundings are the same, I am not the same person.
I think I’ve gotten so much better at letting go, I don’t mean that I let go easily now. I don’t. Everything in me still wants to hold on. And I’ve stopped asking myself why the hell I would want that anyway.
Honestly I don’t know what a simple life means. It’s hard to know what exactly that means…or how to achieve it. But as I am learning my ways, I hope it can help you find your path.
We can start choosing ourselves.
I wish this part is easier.
We’re not supposed to be good at things when we’re practicing them. We’re just supposed to be improving, and no amount of pushing ourselves will make it happen any faster.
So very often, we add things to our life because we feel like others think we should, or because other people are doing it and therefore we think we should.
Once you realize that everyone gets to live their own life, you will find that decisions like this are easier.
Besides, you’ll probably find that no one is paying too much attention to what you own or don’t own, and the pressure that you thought was coming from other people is actually coming from yourself.
You might think that other people really care what you do, but they don’t care as much as you think.
We can do hard things.
Glennon Doyle said this, and it’s true. We are capable of more than we know. Sometimes, we have to do more than feel our way through them.
It can help to talk ourselves through them, too — to remind ourselves that we are stronger and braver than we could ever imagine.
Simpler doesn't mean that I am moving away from life hustle or shying away from hard work. No. I am not. And We all can do hard things even if we are living s simple life that is drama free.
If you wake up early and have a nice shower and hot cup of coffee sure feels great.
Find something, anything, that is hard work. Stop worrying about always trying to save time and money, and get to work. And watch how your level of satisfaction with what you have changes. This is how you find a way to not get what you want, but want what you have.
We’re allowed to think less is more.
At this point, I’ve been up, and I’ve been down in life.
Having more clothes or having the latest smart phone didn’t make me any happier. It didn’t change much about how I chose to spend my time, either. I’ve always been a relatively simple, very introverted person who likes staying home and reading or doing my own things.
In other words, I didn’t go out and buy myself a new life or try to impress anyone. I enhanced the quality of the reasonably simple life I already enjoyed living. If anything, I’m happier with fewer “things” and less space to fill.
There’s less to clean, less to organize, and less to lug with you when and if you ever decide to move.
We’re allowed to throw away the imaginary checklist.
I was the type of person who always had a checklist of things that I want to do or I aspire to do.
I was personally OK with the way my life had turned out, but I didn’t want to have to repeatedly explain to people why I’d never had children, or why I am single, didn’t bought a home, or gone out or travelled to different countries just to show off my numbers.
Everyone thought it was cool that I’d moved around a lot by choice over the years instead of staying put at one place. I didn’t really care that I didn’t have kids or a mortgage.
I realized there’s no one right way you have to live your life to be considered a “real” adult. There are only ways that are right (or wrong) for you.
You’re allowed not to want to work your life away.
I used to think that, If I don’t work on myself so hard, I haven’t earned the right to a halfway decent life. I certainly don’t deserve time off or any happiness.
I deserve it, because I work hard for what I have.
That is perhaps the biggest, most toxic lie people are fed — that if you don’t spend an ungodly number of hours toiling away in a cubicle somewhere to make someone else rich, you’re “less than.”
You don’t deserve to be able to pay your bills, feed your family, or afford things you need. And you better not even think about spending any of your money or time on fun.
Now, if you want to be a workaholic because that’s your jam, that’s one thing. But you have a right to enjoy a balanced life that’s about more than some job somewhere. If life’s taught me anything, it’s that a so-called “good” job and a steady paycheck aren’t worth much without time and space to enjoy them.
It’s also very possible to earn the money you need to live without destroying your health or exchanging countless hours of your life for the right to stay alive.
Learning to work smarter instead of harder is one of the better things I’ve ever done. I’m not rich, and I may well never be.
But I can take care of myself. I also make my living doing work I’m proud of and that fits comfortably into the rest of my life. I have time to learn about things that interest me, and enjoy all the things I love to do. I’m not going to wind up on my death bed one day feeling like I let life pass me by. That’s everything.
You don’t have to justify living the life you want to anyone.
You don’t have to justify it to your parents, and you don’t have to justify it to society in general. Yes, it’s essential to be able to provide for yourself and — if you have one — a family. But how you do that is up to you. So is the life you build for yourself and the people you choose to fill it with (or not). You have options. Explore them.
Growth is a process, and grief is a practice — but practice makes progress.
Looking back on my life so far, I realize it’s the little things that have meant the most to me, and maybe that’s as it should be.
It’s having a professional life that comes with enough freedom to allow me to cook a homemade dinner every night or taking a minute to appreciate the birds that come hang out in my patio. It’s having time at the end of my day to write in my journal or just simple having my green tea without any chaotic thoughts in my mind.
I don’t need a packed social schedule, or a ton of glamorous friends, or an expensive car I never drive sitting in my driveway. I need peace, quiet, creativity, and meaningful connections with kindred spirits who gets me. It’s OK if that’s “all” you want, too, and it’s OK if it’s not. It’s your call.
We’re allowed to decluttering everything even our mind
You can simplify your life by making your living space simpler. This doesn’t have to mean minimalism, but it can. Internal distractions are much like clutter in your garage or closet — there’s useful stuff in there, but it’s crowded and hard to get to what you need. The solution: clear away the clutter.
It seems like many people think of decluttering as the most important part of simplicity. It’s definitely the most obvious and most visible thing.
I started practicing meditation to declutter my deep thoughts, anxiety and anxiousness. What I learned so far is, mindset is everything. It’s been a game changer for me.
Lastly,
There is no right or wrong way on how you want to live your life, It’s your life and you know how to live. If someone else is telling you otherwise, maybe it’s time to think thru and work slowly, at the end of the day what you need from your life. It is not complicated.
Let’s just try anyway.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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