4 Signs To Believe That You’re Doing Amazing In Your Life
And Start Looking For Them.
Yesterday, I spoke to a friend after a year and after casual hellos, she asked me if there is anything new with me. When I honestly told her about my current life — she pointed out it looks the same as the year before.
Her reference was for the apartment I lived in a year before and still lives in the same one, I still don’t own a car, and still not able to find the one.
It made me a bit sad and I kind of felt low for a day after.
But then, I read the journal that I have been writing this year. It made me focus on intangible improvements I have done this year.
I made my apartment a little sanctuary where I belong. I worked on my mental health, and anxiety, and dating a few bunches this year made me develop a new perspective on love.
These things I was unable to tell her and I thought it shouldn’t even matter. Because everyone’s life journey is different.
It may not look like it. But it’s the ultimate truth.
So if you have ever encountered a similar situation of thought that you are not living the life from the society textbook or not leveling up to other people’s expectations, you should read this article.
I’ve always had enough, even if my enough and your enough are as different as an elephant and a minaret. — Catherynne M. Valente
#1 You are not affected by other people’s expectations
You become aware of your strengths and weaknesses. And it becomes your superpower.
You liberated yourself from the burden of other people’s expectations and what they think of you.
Instead, you try to be your best possible version and know of your limitations.
You know what you don’t need.
It’s so easy to make a list of things that you want.
But it’s hard to make a list of things that you don’t want. Because most of our life we all focus on what we want.
Good grades, high-paying job, marriage, kids, big house, fancy car, exotic vacation, big fat bank balance to enjoy all the possible luxuries this world has to offer.
You spend your life chasing one thing to another.
Knowing what you don’t want is equally powerful to live a happier life.
“If you don’t find any difference between what you think you are and what you tell others, then maybe you need to look deeper within.”― Dr. Prem Jagyasi
#2 You genuinely feel happy about other people’s success
I had a friend who used to get jealous of even the smallest thing whenever she saw someone posting an update online or sharing their good news.
I broke up my friendship with her because I don’t feel jealous of anyone today and know which path I am going.
I genuinely feel happy when I see other people succeeding in their life and congratulate them with a meaningful message.
We all need to stop believing that we need to constantly compete with colleagues or friends while the truth is that we all can win.
The world has enough space for all of us.
This realization was a game-changer for me to grow my mindset.
The world is full of abundant options and opportunities for everyone, and we all may do well in life.
“The world has enough for everyone’s need, but not enough for everyone’s greed.”― Mahatma Gandhi
#3 You are not hyped by what’s new
Every year a new iPhone is getting released, newer car models coming up, fashion is getting revolutionized every day, or some new tik-tok trends are enough for you to feel behind.
But the truth is these things will come and go and it’s humanly impossible to catch up with everything.
You have all the power to say no to materialism and instead start living a simpler life.
I used my iPhone 5S for 5 years before buying the other one.
I used my HP laptop for 10 years before buying the new one. I would have continued to use the same one but the laptop battery and performance given up their life.
Most people drown themselves in various mortgage payments and loans to meet their social status.
Genuine happiness comes from within. If you don’t have time, and good mental space to enjoy it, all can become obsolete very quickly.
Instead, you believe that you have enough in this very moment. You feel content and genuinely appreciate the things that you currently have.
And even just being aware of this fundamental truth is a step toward living a better life.
#4 You are over with resentment and anger
Life can be so simple and good when you overcome resentment or any anger that you may be holding for years.
Maybe your parents were not ideal, your life didn’t go as you planned, or your best relationship didn’t work out for any reason.
It’s easy to blame other people, situations, or life in general.
Peacefully accepting your mistakes and taking responsibility for your actions instead of blaming others shows that you can let go of the past.
Also, it helps you to work towards a better future to live happier and healthier.
You can accept your mistakes and help you to identify your behavior.
And your own choices and actions have led you to be more self-aware and emotionally mature than most people will ever be.
Final thoughts
You may not be where you may have planned for yourself.
But you know how to enjoy every moment and the beautiful journey that you are on.
You are allowing yourself to take certain risks, discovering things about yourself that will eventually lead you where you want to be.
Appreciate the progress you have made so far.
Watch the sunset, drink that beer, and listen to Bob Marley.
That’s exactly I am doing while writing this article.
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