5 Extremely Difficult Decisions That Transformed My Life For Good
From my heart

I grew up in India in a typical middle-class family where concepts like mental health, personal development, and self-love were not common.
I was underweight for most of my growing-up years and if fat shaming is a thing I can tell you thin-shaming is also a thing.
Maybe it’s not publicized the way obesity has been done.
With constant commentary on my weight and appearance, I grew up being so conscious about my own body and had all kinds of body image issues that resulted in low self-esteem and zero confidence.
Now, as I am outgrowing those issues, I understand that maybe I was meant to go through everything to share my story with other people and help them to navigate the similar issues.
Here are five decisions that were terrifying for me to even think of and extremely hard to pursue, but changed my life for better.
#1 Battling body weight issues
Whenever anyone sees me, the very first thing they notice is how thin I am and make fun of my being underweight with rudimentary comments.
It resulted in self-deprecating humor and before anyone comments; I will comment harshly on myself. It was part of my coping mechanism.
It didn’t feel good.
So when I started my job, I started working out and learning to be healthy rather than fitting into some absurd beauty standards.
I started eating wholesome, protein-based, and healthy alternatives to fuel my body.
Getting physically fit helped me get a healthier body and spiked my confidence and helped me over come body image issues.
Most importantly it changed my relationship with my body.
#2 Discovering the mental health concept
To live a sustainable life, the body and mind connection should be healthy.
Your outer world and the inner world should be in sync.
As I started focusing on my physical health, I learned that mental health is equally important.
I recognized, I constantly put myself down without any reason and downplay my strengths.
With that thought in mind, I started with light yoga, meditation, writing gratitude, and affirmation.
It took me a while to get it right and after 4 years I can say it can positively upgrade your mindset and how you deal with your day-to-day.
It really helped me discover my life-purpose and commit to my actions to pursue it.
“If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.”- Beyoncé
#3 Practicing the Power of Giving
I know it sounds cliché, but give me a minute.
You look at a friend’s pictures, and updates on various social media platforms, and you feel jealous and think why you are lacking behind.
You think how you’re not as good as others and probably not deserving.
And it’s enough to put yourself down and procrastinate your things.
That’s a terrible way to live, you know?
Love starts from you, and only then it can reach to others.
Create a healthy relationship with yourself and with the universe.
Give the things that you want in your life.
One easiest way is to be kind and compassionate in whatever you do and with the people around you.
Love travels without any conditions and boundaries.
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” — Anna Tylor
#4 Moving on from past
I have had bad relationships in the past that left a scar for a very long time. And it led me to believe that I am not worthy of love.
And my parents were not ideal role models either to show me what a healthy relationship looks like.
It led me to stay in toxic relationships way longer than necessary. This is enough to affect the deep level of our subconsciousness.
Even today, just thinking about it gives me a chill. Slowly, I learned to move past my experiences and leave them as it was for the better.
I want to be free of blaming and resentment.
It’s a waste of my time to think about what you can change in your past.
I can’t change the past and I don’t need to loathe them in my present and future.
This is for sure what I can control.
#5 Writing on Medium
I have been writing journals since I was a kid but writing online was never my thing.
Perhaps what people may think was a driving factor not to publish anything online.
But I took a bold move to write about my fitness journey and how it has changed me for good.
And to help other people who may be in a similar situation.
It changed my mindset.
It gave me a
- a definite purpose
- learned that I thrive on helping others
- becoming self-aware
- abundance mind
“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” — Eckhart Tolle
I hope it helps you to look at your life and take away some of this and include it in your lifestyle.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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