Preparing for marriage
3 Things to Do While You’re Single and Waiting
Being single is the time to build a solid foundation for a new relationship and your future
1. Get Out of Debt
You can't wait till you're married to start working on getting out of debt. You can't wait until you're married to someone who is also drowning in debt to get out of it together.
Being single is an opportunity to free yourself from debt and start saving money for the future. Taking care of your financial situation while you are single is a great idea because it’s when you don’t have too many things going on and in doing so you'll have the freedom to enjoy your married life instead constantly of worrying about your debt.
Being single isn't the time to be getting into debt. It's the time to get out of it. Don’t get into a lot of debt because your debt will become a burden on you and your future spouse.
If you’re going to school that's great but look deep into your heart to make sure school is part of your purpose and you're not just doing it because it's what you’re told to do. If you find that it's what you're supposed to be doing, be smart about it. Learn to write essays and apply for scholarships and grants so you don't complete school with a huge burden on your shoulders. Don't go into marriage while you're drowning in student and other debt.
Being single isn’t the time to be getting into debt. It’s the time to get out of it.
2. Know Yourself
Many people get married to fill a void. They get married so they won’t have to feel or be alone. They go into marriage and they don't know who they are on a heart and soul level and wonder why they struggle to better connect with their spouse.
If you don't know who you are, how can your spouse know you and how you want to be treated? How can you expect someone to know you if you don’t know yourself? How can your partner love you the way you need to be loved if you don’t know how you need to be loved?
Know your identity. Figure out who you are and what you came here to do. What's your purpose? What are you called to do? What makes you happy? What makes you cry?
You must know who you are on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level. You must know what you're here to do, so when you meet someone who would be a distraction from what you're here to do, you can recognize that from the beginning.
Know your worth. Build your self-worth while you're single so you'll feel worthy in a relationship. Be okay with yourself and where you are right now. Avoid comparing yourself and your life with the next person by understanding that your journey is unique. Be content and happy with yourself, where you are in life, and what you have.
How can your partner love you the way you need to be loved if you don’t know how you need to be loved?
3. Heal Your Past
The more you can heal while you’re single and waiting, the better. The more you can heal, the better it’ll be for your spouse when you’re not projecting past hurts and fears onto them. And the more you’ll both get to enjoy your new relationship.
If you are looking to be happily married, you must heal yourself and your past before jumping into the relationship.
Heal especially if you have some hurts and pain from previous relationships. When you don't heal your past and you jump into something new, you transfer old baggage into a new beginning.
Make sure you aren't joining souls with your new spouse when your soul is already tied to other people from your past. Heal your past and break any soul ties from the people who are no longer in your life.
Forgiveness is part of your healing journey, so forgive the people from the past who have hurt you so you can let it go. Forgive them so you can be free and happy again.
You want a relationship where you are healed and your partner is also healed so that you can come together as two souls who are whole and complete, ready to carry out your god-given duties and responsibilities.
When you're healed from any past hurts and disappointments, you can allow yourself to relax and have fun instead of being grumpy, moody, and angry all the time.
Bonus — Have Some Fun
Why wait to find a husband or wife before you have some fun? Live now. Enjoy yourself now. Travel now. Explore life now. Have fun now while you’re single and waiting.
You should wait for God to prepare your spouse for you, but you don't need to wait to have fun.
There's a whole world out there waiting for you to explore and you don't have to wait for a man or woman to do it. Being single is the time to have fun because you may not have too many responsibilities and children who need your attention and care all the time. Being single comes with a level of freedom, so take advantage of it.
The time to enjoy your life is now while you're waiting. Take on a hobby. Learn a new skill. Learn how to dance or cook. Learn how to clean the bathroom properly. Learn how to make friends if you don't have any. Find friends to do fun things with.
You don't have to wait till you're married to live your best life. Live your best life and live it now. This is not to say have sex with a bunch of people or go to the club every night. No.
Don't waste your sexual energy. There are many other ways to have fun and do it safely while you're single and waiting.
Tomorrow is not promised. If you never got married, you don't wait to lie on your deathbed with a list of things you wish you did. Do those things today with or without a partner.
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