Law of attraction

3 Simple Steps to Shift Your Identity and Change Your Life

Your outer reality will not change unless you do

1. Become Aware Of the Way You See Yourself

How you see yourself is how I’ll see you. It's how others will see you. Most people aren’t aware of this. Most people don’t know they dictate the way the world sees them. Everything in your life is a reflection of the way you see yourself.

The way you see yourself is projected out based on your vibration, which is the combination of the way you think, feel and act. People feel your vibration. They pick up on those cues and respond to the energy you are putting out.

Sometimes we put out the things that happened to us in the past. The things that happen can change the way we see ourselves. We internalize its meaning. Somebody dumps you and you think you are not worthy. Your father leaves when you are a child and you feel everybody is going to leave. You don't fit in as a kid and you think you don't belong here. Someone wrongs you, and it makes you feel as if something is wrong with you.

Your ego will do everything it can to remain consistent with the way you see yourself. It’ll keep running those stories in your head repeatedly until it becomes who you are.

If you always think, feel, and believe that life sucks, bad things are always happening to you, and people don’t like you, other people will pick up on that energy and respond to you depending on that.

Your reality is a reflection of what you think, feel, and act.

If you want to change how others see you, you must first change the way you see yourself. You must become aware of the old stories you’ve been telling yourself, observe them as the bullshit stories they are, crumble that paper and toss it in the bin. It’s a false identity. The way people treated you in the past isn’t who you are. It’s who they are! Did you forget? The way it made you feel isn’t who you are.

You are who you say you are.

You must take full responsibility for the way you’ve thought, felt, and acted in the past based on the way you were treated and then let it go. You must take responsibility for the person it has turned you into.

You can change the meaning you give to these stories. A simple meaning that really works is that painful things happened so you can grow. Another meaning is that your soul chose those experiences so it can evolve. Other times it has nothing to do with pain or the soul and has everything to do with the fact that the person who hurt you is a jerk.

The way you see yourself is projected out based on your vibration, which is the combination of the way you think, feel and act.

2. Show the World a New Way to See You

You are who you say you are and the world will go with that. People only perceive that which you are a vibration of.

If you start thinking, feeling, and acting like you are worth it, that's how I’ll see you. The world will see you as worth it. You'll become worth it. It’ll become your new identity.

So who do you want to be?

I wanted to be a writer, so I showed up every day and I wrote. I was consistent and persistent and people started to see me as that writer girl. I made them see me that way when I showed up.

How do you want to become?

I wanted to be bold and confident, so I spoke and wrote boldly and confidently. You can’t help but think I'm bold and confident. You must go along with that because it's who I say I am and I prove it!

How does that new version of you think?

That bold and confident version of me thinks there’s nothing she can’t do. There are no mountains she can’t climb and no waters she can’t cross. There’s no darkness she can’t get through. The new version of me is powerful, so my friends see me as such. What other way is there? They have no option but to believe me.

What are the habits of that version of you? What are the actions? How does he or she feel? How does that new version of you walk and talk? Be and do those things. Think that way. Feel it in your bones. Act like it!

Who are you?

Tell me who you are, and I’ll see you that way. The world will too. Don't worry what I’ll think about it. Don't care what the world will think about it. The only thing that matters is what YOU think about it. It's all about you.

Give yourself permission to be the person you'd like the world to see you as. When you do this, you wire in that vibrational resonance and it becomes who you are. Then other people will respond to you depending on the way you've started to show up in the world.

If you want to be seen as a leader, you must act like it. Look for every opportunity to show the world what you got. Show them your leadership skills and you'll be the leader.

It’ll be hard for me to love you if you are nasty to yourself. If you talk down to yourself like you don't matter. Honestly, I’d want nothing to do with that. You can’t love me if you don't love yourself.

Do you want to be loved? Show love. Love yourself like you're the most important person in the world and I’ll love you like you're the most important person in the world. The world will too. Love other people and we’ll all love you.

People only perceive that which you are a vibration of.

3. Repeat the New Story Every Single Day

If you show me today you're a leader and tomorrow you've chickened out and backed out from an opportunity to lead, then I won't know how to see you. It'll seem like you're confused and I can’t take you seriously. You're not sure who you are, so I won't be.

Show me you’re confident today, and tomorrow hold that same energy. Vibrate in that same confident frequency, and that's what you'll be. Confidence becomes your new self-image. It becomes your new identity.

The more you show me who you are, the more you wire in that new identity. There must be a repetition of thinking, feeling, and acting to lock in your new self-image. Make the choice to be that version of yourself every single day, even when you're terrified.

Do something every day that wires it in. For me, it's writing every day. For you, it can be making a new YouTube video every single day. It can be loving yourself more and more every day.

The key is to give yourself permission to be that version of yourself.

If you become, think, feel and act as the new version of you, eventually, your outer reality will reflect that. It doesn't work any other way. Everything starts with you. Your outer reality will not change unless you do.

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