Soul Ties and breaking free
How to Break A Soul Tie and Restore Your Soul
Where there’s a will, there’s a way
Your Soul = Your Mind, Will, and Emotions
A soul tie is defined as an emotional or spiritual bond or connection that unites you with someone else. When you have a soul tie with another person, your soul is knit together with that person. You literally become tied to another person on a soul level, and when that person is separate from you, it may feel as if something is missing from your life.
So many of us have gotten our souls tied to people we no longer want anything to do with and we are left wondering how to break free. I know what it’s like to hurt so badly in your heart and soul when you can’t get over the pain you’re feeling. Soul ties are not easy to break but it has been done. Spiritual work is required for an unhealthy tie that hold you back to be broken.
Your soul is comprised of your mind, will, and emotions. When you have a soul tie with another person, your mind, will, and emotions become enmeshed with that of the other person. You don't function from your own free will, your mind becomes corrupt, and you struggle with your emotions. Soul ties are formed through:
- Close relationships with people you spend a lot of time with, including children, parents, siblings, best friends, etc
- Vows made with your mouth like marriage vows.
- Sexual intimacy, which creates unhealthy soul ties that are extremely painful and difficult to break free.
The more intimate you are with someone, the tighter the bond becomes.
Signs of an Unhealthy Soul Tie
1. Confusion
When you are in a relationship that is outside the plan God has for your soul, you will feel confused. Your mind will feel foggy because your spirit is trying to tell you one thing and your mind is in disagreement. You'll feel confused when your emotions scream that it can't break free from a person you have an unhealthy attachment to.
If you feel confused about a certain person, God is not in it because He is not the author of confusion but of clarity. If it’s not part of God’s will, you should want no parts of it because pursuing such things opens the doors for the enemy to come into your life and create more confusion in your life.
2. Misery
As long as you're actively sinning, you will remain miserable. I know this all too well when I was stuck in a six-year-long relationship that wasn’t a part of God's plan for my life. I didn't listen, and a baby came out of the relationship. I felt miserable.
When you do or stay involved in something you know in your heart is not right, you become miserable. When you're without the person with whom your soul is tied, you feel sad, depressed, hopeless, or angry.
That's a clear sign that you have an unhealthy soul tie. Healthy soul ties empower you even when the person is away from you, but an unhealthy soul tie cripples you when that person is gone.
3. Torment
When you have an unhealthy soul tie, your mind, will, and emotions are entangled with that of another person or other people. That means that you may feel the things that are on the mind of the other person. When those things are dark, they end up tormenting your mind.
When you keep having sex with a person and that person is also sleeping with other people, your soul becomes tied to all those other people, and this is what makes soul ties so dangerous. You may think and feel things that don't even belong to you. It becomes a vicious cycle and you won’t understand why you battle with negative thoughts, have a weak will, and struggle to control your emotions.
A tormented mind is not a mind of Christ. The mind of Christ is a peaceful mind. When you have a peaceful mind, you wake up and go to sleep in peace. A tormented mind knows no peace. When your mind is tormented by painful memories that keep replaying over and over again, it may be a sign of an unhealthy soul tie.
When you have an unhealthy soul tie, your mind, will, and emotions are entangled with that of other people.
How to Break an Unhealthy Soul Tie
1. Pray and Confess
This is literally the first step you must take because unhealthy soul ties happen as a result of disobedience to God. Confess your sins and pray for help. How can you be free of something if you don't acknowledge and confess it? This isn't the time to hide your sins or pretend you don't know of them.
Acknowledge what has happened. Unhealthy soul ties when unacknowledged becomes a thing of the shadow and the only way you can be free of something in the shadow is to acknowledge and shine a light on it.
When you confess and bring it to the light, it loses its power, and the tie loosens up so you can set yourself free. When I was in an unhealthy soul tie, I went in front of God, acknowledge my sins, and confessed them.
2. Break The Lines of Communication
When you have an unhealthy soul tie with someone, it means the person is not good on your soul. It means that this person influences your mind, will, and emotions negatively and bad company corrupts the mind.
You don't want to keep hanging out or having sex with a person you have an unhealthy tie with. Partial obedience is still disobedience. The more you hang out with them doing things you're not supposed to be doing, the stronger the tie becomes and the difficult it is to break.
Once you're working on breaking a soul tie with someone, you want to cut off all forms of communication. You shouldn't be going to see them. You shouldn't be texting or calling them and you shouldn't be checking up on them on social media. You should be freeing yourself from them.
You should be freeing your mind, will, and emotions. If you feel called to have a final conversation with this person, do it to let them know that this unhealthy connection needs to end so you don't fall into the same trap and further entangle your soul.
3. Get Rid of The Memories
This is something I had to do when I was breaking an unhealthy soul tie. We had history and made lots of memories, but it was in the memories that my soul was bound.
Over the course of the relationship, I had gathered so many things that served as memories for that relationship. I had to get rid of pictures that were taken, gifts that were given, love letters that were written, text messages that were sent and received, and everything that reminded me of that relationship.
You don't want to conjure up memories when you are trying to break free from a soul tie. Memories trigger emotions, and the more emotions there are behind the soul tie, the tighter the bond gets.
Once all those things were gone, it allowed me to separate my mind and emotions from the relationship, which gradually loosened the tie and eventually restored all fragments of my soul.
He restores my soul — Psalm 23:3.
Where There’s a Will, There’s a Way
A lot of times when you're breaking a soul tie, it isn't just your soul that needs to be restored, but there are things within your heart that need to be healed. When you have an unhealthy soul tie, you aren’t whole and complete as God wants you to be. You've lost fragments of your soul that should be called back.
I had to go through a healing journey, in addition to breaking the soul tie. I was hurting so badly and needed to be healed of the pain and the hurt. And for you, there may also need to be a healing journey that takes place, in addition to breaking the tie.
God doesn't just want you to be free, but He also wants you to be whole and complete.
To reverse your corrupted mind, you must do something that fills your mind with the truth. You need the truth of God's word going into your spirit and that's what’s going to make you strong on the inside. If you're going to break something that has a tight grip on you, you're going to need to develop inner strength to regulate your enmeshed mind, will, and emotion.
If you're missing someone who isn't right for you, remind yourself that it's only because that person has parts of your soul, and it's not because you're so in love with them. If it was real love, you wouldn't be confused, miserable and you wouldn't feel tormented.
Your mindset needs to change about the person and the situation, your heart must be transformed and your will must be strengthened so you can break your way out of your unhealthy soul tie. Soul ties are broken every day, but it's something you choose. It’s something that must happen out of your own free will.
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