What Turns Your Partner On? Research Shows You May Have No Idea

When people keep their bedroom preferences under wraps

Do you know what your partner likes in the bedroom? Are you sure? According to a study conducted by LELO, there’s a good chance that if you haven’t been with your partner long, you may not be aware of what they prefer sexually.

In a survey of 2,000 people, the sex toy company found that 53 percent of respondents prefer to talk about their sexual turn-ons after being in a relationship for at least three months. The reason for remaining so secretive could be fear, since almost 15 percent of them said they are concerned about being judged for their sexual proclivities, and 22 percent admitted that they themselves have been judgmental about someone else’s turn-ons.

However, this is not to say that people are keeping completely schtum about what they want in their sex lives. In fact, 49 percent of study participants said they talk about their turn-ons with their friends, and 67 percent of them said they have no problem admitting their kinks to someone during a one-night stand since they will never see that person again.

“There is always a bit of reluctance when it comes to the most intimate topics, and talking about someone’s turn-ons and turn-offs is one of them.”

But admitting to kinks in relationships can be a much different story: People tend to become more comfortable sharing what they like in the sack only after their relationship has progressed. As a result, 77 percent of people think these conversations are important to have if they’re going to commit to someone and 75 percent said they view the turn-ons talk as a milestone in their relationships — which, of course, goes a long way toward strengthening a couple’s bond.

“Honest communication between partners is crucial in any relationship,” said LELO’s chief marketing officer Luka Matutinovic. “Of course, there is always a bit of reluctance when it comes to the most intimate topics, and talking about someone’s turn-ons and turn-offs is one of them. This is understandable, but we always encourage people to speak about it openly when the right time comes — and you will feel that moment. All should be aware of these conversations’ significance for the relationship; they lead to more trust in each other, create more confidence and respectfulness, and make a key to a healthy and safe bond between partners.”

In fact, this bond created when they do disclose their sexual turn-ons may even leave couples pleasantly surprised. Although 28 percent of study participants said their preferences differ from those of their partner, 57 percent found out they actually shared the same kinks when they had this sexual conversation.

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Source:

Melore, C. (2022, November 5). Fetish fears: 1 in 7 afraid of being shamed over the things that turn them on. Study Finds. https://studyfinds.org/fetish-fears-shamed-over-what-turns-them-on/