Success
The 4-Part Success Pie: The Pie Chart Of Life
These are the 4 consistent ingredients, statistically, in every success story. Here is what they are
Pre-Success Foundation: Can you hold success?
Before we get into the success pie, we do triage. This is a must-have. It’s impossible to feel good if you’re in pain, psychologically or otherwise. In the past, we have observed people crashing down after a mental problem, not moving up. At least in mental health, the military, and finance, we have not seen it.
That’s not to say physical pain or issues has stopped everyone. It just has, statistically.
The science of success in life is the same for the military and for sports (many former members of Special Forces and SEALs have become business consultants, evaluating leadership). Just for personal success, not business success, a goal is required. The achievement of the goal is defined as success. All that is really necessary for this success is a brain. There was a man with an iron lung who became a lawyer. He succeeded in what he wanted to do; that’s success.
So, let’s cover brain health. In mental health, my clients have simple goals, and goals cannot be reached without learning and formulating steps.
First things first.
Triage
Steps:
- First: get to safety and secure the perimeter. Not necessarily your body, but psychologically. For some, that would also mean physical, yes, if there is physical abuse. Do you have trauma? Do you have any open wounds that if I touch, you will get triggered? That needs to be rooted out! You can’t be successful towards your product or goal if you can’t take feedback and instruction — that only works for like a year.
- Second: stop any visible “bleeding” (the largest problem or threat to the life of the goal). Also, this goes without saying, that also means protecting the wound. Women from abusive relationships: You don’t get to go back. Not until he successfully goes through this article and these steps, himself. Most men are not even in a safe place themselves. Only well-trained people can deliver results during a hostile situation.
- Third: Get more help. “Radio for help”. Contact specific professionals.
- Fourth: “Scan” the body for any other injuries. Treat as needed. When it comes to life success, you don’t get to say “no” to what treatment you don’t want. The only question is, “what treatment is needed?”
- Fifth: Follow professional guidelines for recovery.
Recovery
It is not wise to assume you are life- or combat-ready after an injury. There is a recovery time.
Just as children take many years to become independent and to obtain motor skill proficiency, it takes even more years to make wise decisions in adulthood. So each of us has to come to terms with the lies we believed in the past, regardless of why we did them. There is a truth to all situations, and it’s not mine or yours.
For example, I did a 15-page research study while in my criminal psychology program about the US border, because I knew nothing about it. I discovered that deporting just 10 million people who did not go through the immigration process like my many immigrant friends had to and willingly did to live in America would cost close to $100 billion. I have Malaysian friends, Pakistani friends, and many other friends from all over the world. Around 500 people die trying to cross illegally over a year (to note, that is more than AR-15 deaths per year), and 0 people die crossing legally.
Plus, this gives smugglers around $100 million in their pockets to feed right back into cocaine trafficking and human trafficking. Illegal border crossing funds the deaths of over 10 million people each year as a result of drugs. More drug trafficking and human trafficking result from open borders. All these numbers are lower than they actually are.
Principles That Support Success
Prevention is the best treatment.
Let’s cover some common things that promote success, and those are principles you need in order to hold onto the success you desire because obtaining it doesn’t mean you won't lose it. These things do not promise success:
Patience
Patience promotes independence. Click the link if that doesn’t make sense. Then practice patience 24/7. Patience also promotes justice and equality, because you don’t know if one of my former clients with a mental limitation will be the one holding you up. Should we make a little town just for them, so we don’t have to deal with them? I assumed we were providing equal opportunities to all.
In my story, “Patience Promotes Independence,” I share a story about a vehicle in a Taco Bell drive-through. One day when I was in a Taco Bell drive-through, this SUV was impatient and hopped the curb to get out of the drive-through. He ended up getting stuck, and when I left with my food, he was still there, stuck, and had flagged a guy with a truck down to help.
Be Persistent (but know it’s not all you need)
For this I use my story, Persistence Is Not The Root Of Success
I can be persistent in building a sand castle, using years of time and even money. But there is no guarantee. At some point, it will be destroyed. And rightfully so. Persistence toward something that has no value is useless.
Success is never obtained by trying to control things you would be diagnosed with a mental disorder for trying to control (such as controlling other people)
People don’t get the privilege of holding your validation. When validation is placed on someone or something, we become a leech. We require them to maintain our pride or security. This was from my story, "Giving Freedom Shows Their Heart."
Take Ownership
Taking ownership, not at a leadership level but a personal one. Ownership entails taking something with confidence, regardless of who is present. And if we are honest, women see a man taking ownership as sexy. Why do you think that is?
When people are in line at a gas station or in the gym, they are self-conscious. Self-consciousness is not ownership. For example, ownership is when you have the answer in class and speak up when no one else is—actually, we don't know no one would because you spoke up. Own your life. This was from my story, "What Taking Ownership Looks Like in Leadership."
You are not self-made and I will never believe it
This is from my stories Delegation and The Self-Made Man.
The most "self-made" person I’ve seen was someone who was reliant on a good marketing team.
Humility
Without humility, you will run people off. And without humility, you learn less. Essentially, you are on your way to being narcissistic and unreachable.
On a side note, ownership without humility is a male jock with a chemical imbalance in the brain who takes things that are not theirs. Without humility, you will be a bad person. A Scrooge.
Always remain teachable. Humility is characterized by a desire to learn and adjust to changing circumstances.
Don’t let someone else be better than you toward others
This is from the story, “When Strangers are More Supportive Than Friends and Family.”
Do not be a “diversity hire." Be the one with the most grit and certifications because fair means equality. Equality doesn’t mean given for diversity’s sake
This article will bring a new perspective, Forcing Diversity Sustains Racist & Discrimination Stigmas
Toughness
If you are not tough, you are either going to compensate for it and fail or you will cower and live with regrets. Tough and ownership are interchangeable by principle.
You will get triggered and that will stop you in your tracks from going any further. You will allow external factors to shape you and use the words like “this is just how I am.” You are never what external factors have shaped you, you are merely broken.
So, find yourself. Don’t get mad or take offense if you are broken. Wounded people are always easily offended. Be ruthlessly in love with yourself. If you have to do something to yourself (like surgery) in order to “feel” yourself, then you are broken.
Tough means knowing [fill in the blank, but it must be true/researched] and not moving for anything or anyone — like this story. Wanting people to believe something about you, that you are trying to convince yourself of, is the definition of “bleeding”.
“I’m not bleeding, the world needs to adjust to my situation and condition”
So, go back to section 1, step 1, above, and try again. You only hurt yourself if you don’t have humility.
Build resilience. Quick recovery times!
A true athlete will get hurt, but they heal quicker than I would and play on. You will also get hurt and others will pass you. When you do get hurt, let yourself be developed, say “I’m hurt, but I will go through the healing and recovery processes quickly and with success.”
Let nature teach you. Don’t run. Stand. Gather yourself. Then press forward. Falling is not failing. Getting hurt is not failing, it’s falling. Failing is failing yourself to the point of not actually being able to recover or win — an example is a male lion in his prime losing his territory.
From the stories,
- The Principles Inside the Lion King Movie
- After Many Months of Reading Weird Stuff: Here’s the World’s Most Simple Guide to Men
- The Appearance of being a Gentleman has never meant he was a Gentleman
- THE INNER WIRING OF A LONG-LASTING & HERCULEAN FAMILY
- Is There a Perfectly Developed Man, Part II: Childhood
Now, to what you have been waiting for!
SUCCESS
The success pie is made of 4 things:
1. A fighting spirit
2. Adaptability
3. Finance literacy & management
4. Research, implementation, and feedback
Not as in-depth as you thought, right? It really isn’t. Even children can obtain success. Learning to walk is a success. Learning to go to the bathroom without making a mess is a success. Paying off a house is a success. A child with a learning disability obtaining an education goal is a success.
Anyone can win.
These four pieces come into play when we become adults and want to succeed in life, in general. In general, we need to understand finances, especially if we have children and so all these come into play.
Fighting spirit
Without a fighting spirit, the rest of the list is futile. It’ll result in nothing.
From my story: The Fight of our Lives
Adaptability
Second, in this pie-baking process, is adaptability. The ability to adapt successfully to the changes and curveballs thrown at you is mandatory. Essentially, you must be a psychological athlete. Getting sick on a job interview day requires adaptability—do you have good enough communication skills not to lose your chances?
From my story, “The One Constant Successful People Navigate.”
Finance Literacy & Management
What are your basic financial needs for your goal?
You have to be able to manage what you have and also learn how to turn what you have into more. This is your flour.
Research, implementation, and feedback
This makes sure that your “creation” is stable. When a baby walks to his or her mother or father, he or she is rewarded with a hug. A reward indicates that the process was successful or successful enough.
And now, keep researching, implementing, and listening to feedback.
Now Your Goal is Met. Time for the taste test.
Congratulations!!! What’s next for you?
Conclusion
Remember, none of this is attainable by stealing it, running away from it, doing “faking it till you make it” crap, being scared of what other people think, or pushing everyone away.
You need all of those things. If you have ruined your reputation, there is no better time than now to fix that. That is "bleeding." And a “safe place” in regard to a tarnished reputation, such as prison, is excommunicating all things that have any common ground with law-breaking or those doing it.
Start over, meaning, time to go back to school, new music, new friends, new clubs, or church. No, literally, it’s college time. I have been an Employment Specialist for a few years, helping close to a hundred people, and if you want to crush a record, a master’s degree is the way to go. Too many junk people have a bachelor’s, so create more distance between them and you. That is the easiest way unless you go into entrepreneurship, and even there, you can lose out on life if you don’t know what you’re doing. It’s too easy to slip into the slimy salesman suit America did away with 10 years ago. Don’t be them, we don’t do that junk anymore. Don’t use what has been proven to not work.
Thank you for reading! Thank you for your positive comments!! Thank you for the claps!!! Thank you for sharing!!!! Thank you for sharing your success stories in the comments!!!!!