How to Have Great Sex Even When He’s Way Too Big

Top tips for taking it all in

I had to take a moment to collect myself after I undid his pants.

His size took me off guard. I was so surprised, all I could do was whisper “Oh wow.”

I stroked it softly, getting a good sense of his length and girth.

I was sure I’d be fine. Some of the best sex I had up to that point were with guys who had even bigger cocks.

Still, it was long and thick enough to be intimidating.

I quickly got over the shock and the sex was really fucking good. I was horny and in love, so my body was ready and willing to take just about anything. And even though I had trouble fitting him in my mouth, I sure as hell did my best to give him a good blowjob with the room I had.

I loved his cock because I loved him. It didn’t really matter what size it was.

A part of me liked that it was so big, though. I enjoyed bragging to my friends that I was the one with the well-hung boyfriend.

For a while, I was really into my boyfriend and his big dick. But that didn’t last.

Don’t get me wrong, I still loved him very much. But a couple of years into fucking him, his cock started to be a little much.

Our new relationship energy was gone. Even though I was still attracted to him, he couldn’t make me wet just by holding me close. And I wasn’t so horny that I was spending every waking hour thinking about fucking him.

All of a sudden his size was a challenge.

The girth made it harder to get started. I’d have to spend more time getting warmed up before his cock could go anywhere near my pussy.

Once we got started, his length became the major issue.

I couldn’t take him all the way in anymore. Whenever he got close, it felt like he was hitting up against a wall — an uncomfortable and sometimes downright painful wall.

And forget about blowjobs. I was tired of making my jaw sore trying to get him off.

I wasn’t bragging about his size anymore. If anything, I wished I could shrink his cock.

Then, it got even worse.

Whenever we tried to have sex, it would be painful. We took our time, used plenty of lube, and went slowly. It didn’t matter. I would wince the moment his cock was inside me.

Powering through the pain left me in tears, and crying after sex isn’t my idea of a good time.

We stopped having sex entirely because it just wasn’t worth it.

Eventually, I figured out that I had developed vaginismus. Once the sex started causing me discomfort, my body basically created a reflex because of the painful penetration. As soon as anything would start going into my vagina, it would clench and tighten to prevent it from happening.

My pussy basically developed a self-defense mechanism against my boyfriend’s big dick.

It took years, but I overcame it. I retrained my body to accept and enjoy penetration instead of guarding itself against it.

After losing years of my sex life, I managed to enjoy sex again, even with all the size he was packing.

But I could’ve avoided all that trouble if I had known how to fuck a big dick properly. It would’ve still been a challenge, sure. It would have taken a few adjustments. But it didn’t have to be uncomfortable.

Now, I want to share the things that helped me actually enjoy sex again. If you ever find yourself fucking a guy with a big dick, this is what you need to do to make sure it’s still really pleasurable for you.

Use Plenty of Lube

You should be using lube for all sorts of things. To make sex and masturbation more pleasurable, to make anal sex feel great, to make blowjobs taste better.

And you most certainly should be using it if you’re fucking someone with a big cock.

You’re not necessarily going to need lube every single time. I had a one-night stand with a guy whose cock was so massively girthy I could barely wrap my hand around it. And I was so horny and wet that it slid into me without any trouble.

But there are going to be plenty of times when you’ll need it. Like when you’re turned on and want sex but you have trouble getting physically aroused and can’t produce enough natural lubrication. There are going to be times when you’re struggling no matter how much prep you’ve had and you just need to slather some lube on that cock before it goes inside you.

It never hurts to have some on hand — but it might hurt if you try to fuck without it.

Using a high-quality silicone lube is the best way to get anything thick inside you. It’s slicker, lasts longer, and just plain works better. The only downside is that it can damage silicone sex toys, so if you’re using any you’ll have to go for a water-based lube.

Water-based lubes are all-purpose and can be used for anything other than sex in water (it washes away too easily). But they’re not all made the same. I’ve tried some cheap lubes and they just don’t work as well — they’re not as slippery, don’t last as long, and start to feel tacky soon after you apply them. I’ve had much better luck using brands like Sliquid and Jo.

Or you can get the best of both by using a hybrid lube. It’s basically a water-based lube with enough silicone added to make it slicker but not so much that it will damage your sex toys.

Have Lots of Foreplay and Patience

One of the big reasons I was going through uncomfortable sex is that I wasn’t having enough foreplay.

That’s because I never needed a whole lot of it before. In the first few months of my relationship, I was ready to fuck at the drop of a hat. I practically could’ve straddled him and rode his cock on a moment’s notice and been fine.

We still had plenty of foreplay, but mostly because it was fun — neither of us wanted to skip the cock stroking and pussy eating.

Once we started getting settled, though, ten minutes of foreplay just wasn’t enough anymore. If I was going to be able to enjoy his cock without any pain, we’d have to spend a good deal of time prepping me first.

It’s not just about wetness, either. Getting wet will help you have more comfortable sex and accommodate his girth. But it won’t really help you if his cock is also long.

That was my problem. Even if I was wet enough to get it in with ease, I wasn’t horny enough to take all those inches without it hurting.

And that’s all because of my cervix.

The cervix sits at the back of your vagina and it’s what his cock bumps against if he gets deep enough.

Some women find that kind of cervical stimulation pleasurable. But for plenty of us (myself included) it’s uncomfortable or downright painful.

That’s why foreplay matters a lot when you’re dealing with a longer dick. Once you’re fully aroused, your cervix will move up and make more room so you can take extra inches without a problem.

But it can take time to get there. Even if you’re already wet, you might not be aroused enough for your cervix to have moved out of the way.

So always give yourself lots of time for foreplay. Get as turned on as you can. Be breathlessly horny if you can manage it. Get him to edge you until you’re so aroused you can’t wait for him to fuck you any longer.

It take time and patience, but the foreplay’s fun as fuck anyway so there’s really no downside to making sure you get enough.

Get Comfortable Communicating

Communicating during sex is an essential part of having a really good fuck, but it’s harder than it seems.

You might freeze up and have a hard time finding the words to ask for what you want. You might suddenly feel too shy to say anything — even though he’s balls deep inside you. Or you might have people pleasing tendencies, which makes it hard to ask anyone to do anything for you even when you’re having sex with them.

But if your partner has a big dick, it’s something you have to work on.

Communicating during sex is really the only way to have enjoyable, pleasurable sex with someone who’s well hung. There are going to be plenty of times that you have to ask him to go slower, ask him not to put it all the way in, or tell him you can’t do the position he just put you in.

And the most difficult thing will be to say that you need to stop completely.

That’s how I wound up in tears. The sex was painful, but I didn’t want to put an end to it. In part, it’s because I wanted to get fucked. I knew I was close to an orgasm and I figured I could tolerate the pain long enough to get it. But mostly, I kept quiet because I felt bad cutting things off before we were done.

If you want to have good sex with a big dick, especially if you want to have it repeatedly and consistently, you have to practice voicing your needs during sex and voicing them often.

It can feel awkward at first, but once you get the hang of it you’ll be able to get exactly what you want in bed without having to feel weird about it.

Pick the Right Positions

There are a lot of sex positions that are really good for getting deeper penetration. If you’re fucking someone with a big cock, those are going to work against you.

If his dick’s long enough, even something standard like missionary can feel like too much.

Instead, you’re better off using positions that let you have more shallow sex.

Spooning’s my favorite for this. It’s a great lazy girl sex position that also makes it hard to go deep.

Reverse cowgirl is good too. You’re on top so you’re in charge of how much dick goes inside you. And you can hold his legs down so he can’t give in to the temptation to thrust and go deeper.

Keep experimenting with new positions until you’ve got a few reliable ones you can keep using whenever you want to take less of him.

Regulate His Depth

If you want to avoid taking his entire cock inside you, there are a few ways to regulate his depth so you don’t have to.

If he’s got the willpower, you can just ask him to fuck you with half his dick. That can be difficult to pull off, though. He might get carried away in the moment and fuck you a little too deep. He might get distracted by your gorgeous tits and accidentally give you a few extra inches. And he might slip, which is almost never pleasant, but especially sucks when he’s packing too much.

A better way to do it is by using your hands.

If you’re in a position like missionary, reach down and wrap your hand around his cock while he fucks you. That will create a buffer so only part of his dick can actually reach your pussy. And he gets to enjoy something that feels like a combination between a handjob and penetrative sex.

If you want to fuck in a position that makes it hard for you to hold your hand in the right place, he can use his hand instead. If he’s fucking you from behind, it makes more sense for him to wrap his hand around his shaft than for you to try to reach around like a contortionist.

And if you want a completely hands-free version of that, you can try using an Ohnut. It’s basically a set of thick cockrings that you slide over the base of his shaft to create a literal bumper that will keep him from going too deep.

I haven’t personally tried one, so I can’t fully vouch for its effectiveness. But it looks like a really fucking cool product and I wish I had one back when I was struggling with uncomfortable sex.

Rise Up to the Challenge

At some point in her life, every girl hopes she’ll land a guy with a huge cock.

Some of us do and love it so much we become size queens. Some of us keep a preference for thick nine-inch dicks even if we’re happy with a lot less.

But most women are like me. Once they actually have enough big dick experience, they realize that fucking one can be challenging — and not always in a fun way.

It’s not impossible, though. You can have tons of pleasure with a cock of any size. But you might need to make a few accommodations.

Once you do, though, you’ll be able to have completely pain-free sex and fuck that big cock like a champ.

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