4 Sex Positions for When He’s Too Big

Because sex shouldn’t be uncomfortable

At some point in their lives, most women fetishize big dicks.

At the very least, they assume that finding a guy who’s well hung is basically hitting the sex jackpot.

They imagine a huge cock just feels better. Maybe it makes the sex more intense. Or they’ve just heard so much praise for big dicks that they want to see what all the hype is about.

Sooner or later, they end up fucking a guy who’s above average and that’s when they realize it’s not always the picnic they thought it would be.

I’m not saying that sex with a big dick is bad — it’s not. Like fucking a guy of any size, it can be passionate, pleasurable, and incredibly exciting.

But there are some challenges that come with more size.

That’s something I know very well. I married a guy whose cock is longer and thicker than average. Both have given me some trouble, but it’s the length that was especially difficult to handle at times.

There were some positions that we couldn’t do — or couldn’t do easily, at least.

Doggy style was especially hard to pull off. That was a real let-down for me because I love getting on my hands and knees so I can be fucked hard. But with Mr. Austin, it was usually too uncomfortable to enjoy.

I didn’t know how to explain it at the time, but I remember feeling like he was just way too deep inside me.

Thankfully, it wasn’t an insurmountable problem. We’ve learned ways to work with his size. That includes finding a few reliable sex positions we can enjoy even when his length is an issue.

Dealing With a Big Cock

When you have trouble handling a guy’s size, the position you’re in will definitely make a difference. But there are a few other things you should deal with first.

Get Your Arousal Up

One of the biggest problems with fucking a guy with a big cock is that it jabs your cervix. Some women find that intense and pleasurable, but for a lot of us it’s just plain uncomfortable.

That’s why being aroused matters so much in these situations. It doesn’t just make you wet — it also makes your cervix shift its position.

As you get hornier, your cervix moves up and clears out of the way. That lets you take more dick without having it jab that sensitive spot.

So whenever you’re with a guy who is packing more, make sure you have lots of foreplay — more than you would normally need. It’s going to make all the difference.

Take Your Time

Getting fucked with a big dick is kind of like having anal sex — anything too abrupt is going to be really uncomfortable.

Eight inches slamming into you out of nowhere is a lot, even if you’re really wet.

So go slowly. Work up to it. Take in his cock one inch at a time so you can get used to the sensation of him going deeper and deeper.

Regulate the Depth

When a dick is too long to fuck comfortably, you can do a few things to regulate the depth so you’re never taking every inch of it.

If he’s got the discipline and self-control for it, you can ask him to just give you half his shaft.

If you’d rather take matters into your own hands, you can wrap your fingers around his cock while he’s fucking you. That doesn’t work in every position, but if you can manage it you’ll be creating a buffer that limits how deep he can go.

And he’ll get to find out what it’s like to fuck your pussy and your hand at the same time. You can give his cock a gentle squeeze while he thrusts into you so he can experience multiple sensations at once.

If you want a hands-free buffer, you can also get a product called the Ohnut. It’s made of a stretchy plastic and worn like a cockring at the base of the cock so you can get pounded hard without having to take him too deep.

Once you’re properly aroused and taking things slowly, all that’s left is finding a position that works well for you.

Spooning

Spooning is hands-down one of my favorite sex positions. And it’s probably the one I’ve relied on the most since I married a big dicked guy.

Spooning makes deep penetration more difficult, which can be a big advantage when his cock is a little much.

I personally love holding my leg up (or having him hold it up) when I’m being fucked like a little spoon. It makes his cock hit me in all the right spots, it makes it easier for his fingers to reach my clit, and it feels like a pornstar pose.

But it also lets him go deeper. So when I want to avoid getting fucked with his whole length, I’ll keep my leg down.

Tucking your legs up also makes it easier for him to go deep. If you want to keep the thrusting a little more shallow, keep your legs straight and untucked.

Reverse Cowgirl

Any position where you’re on top will let you regulate the depth yourself, which can be a big advantage when you’re fucking a well-hung guy.

I personally love the part of cowgirl sex where I get to be lazy and he takes over. It’s usually when I’ve fucked myself so well with his cock that the pleasure is overriding my muscle control. That’s when he takes over and pounds me from down under.

But if you’re trying to avoid the extra depth, that’s the last thing you need.

That’s why going reverse cowgirl is the way to go. Regular cowgirl is basically an invitation for him to hold your ass firmly and thrust up into you. Facing the other way makes that trickier. You can even keep your cervix extra safe by pinning his legs down with your hands so he can’t bang you hard even if he tried.

Standing Doggy Style

Doggy is a bitch when you’re dealing with a long cock. It’s deep thrust city. Whenever I think of someone going balls deep, I picture doggy style sex.

But there are ways to modify doggy so you can handle it. The best one is to do it while standing.

I still find it really hard to accommodate my husband’s cock when I’m on my hands and knees. But if I’m standing up and leaning against the wall, he can fuck me without any problems.

Like spooning, standing doggy makes deep penetration a lot harder to achieve. Plus, getting fucked against the wall will make you feel like you’re in a late-night cable softcore porn film.

Flattened Prone Bone

Prone bone is another position that you can modify to keep the depth manageable.

Getting fucked in a prone position is my finishing move. It’s the position I ask for when I’m ready for a massive orgasm. I’ll lie on my stomach, arch my back, and push my ass up. It’s a great way to take some deep dick when I’m ready for it.

But when I’m not, I keep the arching out of it. If you lie flat instead of presenting your pussy to him, you’ll get to enjoy some shallow thrusts.

It’s a nice position if you enjoy being submissive or feeling his weight on you. It’s also the perfect lazy girl sex position when you’re struggling with a big cock, because all you have to do is lie there and take it.

Enjoy That Big Dick

You can have great sex with a guy who has a big cock. But it’s not the kind of thing that just happens.

Sometimes, you’ll get lucky. The stars are going to align and everything will just fall in place. You’ll be crazy horny, the foreplay will be incredible, and you’ll somehow manage to get in the perfect position on the first try.

Other times, though, you’ll need a little more conscious effort. You’ll have to ask for more foreplay. You’ll have to monitor your arousal to make sure you don’t start fucking before you’re horny enough. And you’ll have to make sure you stick to a position that keeps the penetration a little more shallow.

That might not sound as sexy and romantic as just tearing each other’s clothes off like a pair of animals and fucking in whatever position feels right. But if you’re with the right guy, it’s going to be worth it.

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