Great Conversation Is More Important Than Great Sex

Daters want partners who are good at using their mouth…outside of the bedroom

Obviously physical attraction is a huge part of dating, and we all want a partner we can connect with in the sack. However, a study by dating app Plenty of Fish shows that while bad sex can really put a damper on romance, bad conversation makes a terrible dating experience even worse.

In a survey of 2,000 daters aged 18 and over, 74 percent of respondents said that good conversation is the biggest indicator of compatibility during a date — even more so than any physical attraction that may have developed as people exchanged photos before meeting. In fact, conversation is so important to these daters that their impression of someone can be altered based on how good their first conversation is, with 83 percent of them saying they’ve found a potential partner less attractive after speaking to them and 87 percent saying a first conversation actually boosted a date’s attractiveness.

First conversations could even leave daters with their hearts all a flutter. The survey found that 60 percent believe they could begin falling in love with a person based on the quality of the first talk they have with them.

But what can stop love right in its tracks? According to study participants, bad grammar. That’s right, if you don’t know the difference between their, they’re, and there, you may not fare well on the dating scene these days, as 58 percent of people said that bad grammar is even worse than bad sex and they simply cannot tolerate it.

Also, people said they feel good conversation is more important than makeup sex after having a fight with their partner. Rather than hopping into bed to deal with a heated argument, 88 percent of respondents would rather have a constructive conversation to resolve the issue. Additionally, 59 percent of daters believe that talking about sex can be even more erotic than actually doing the deed.

The moral of the story: Conversation is key. Although great sex can bring a relationship to the heights of pleasure, a strong foundation built on great communication makes everything inside and outside of the bedroom much better.

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Sources:

Conversation Nation 2018. Plenty of Fish. https://drive.google.com/file/d/11uufDmFJc6Duq9_zrQuJzfXMpAuKIQwg/view

New Study Reveals Great Conversation & Grammar Are The Sexiest & Most Sought After Elements in Dating. PR Newswire. https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/new-study-reveals-great-conversation--grammar-are-the-sexiest--most-sought-after-elements-in-dating-300634584.html