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Finding This Type of Christian Man will Benefit You: By Jessica and Josh (J & J)

Even if you’re not a Christian

Disclaimer

Josh

The reason for finding this type of Christian man will be elaborated on, pretty clearly, as you continue reading and naturally will come down to life functionality.

At the end of the story, there will be more Medium links about this type of man I’ve written on.

The Nitty Gritty

To first start talking about this gorgeous man, let’s start with a heart examination.

Jess

We start in the heart because everything he is is linked to the heart. His heart is what makes him show up, believe what he does, etc. That’s the starting point.

A Christian man, according to his own system:

From Titus 1, in the Christian Bible, “no criticism of this person can be made” “is a husband of one wife, with good children” “does not walk in insubordination or any manner of sexual activity outside of marriage” “not a drunk” “not arrogant or quick-tempered” “not greedy” “hospitable” and “trustworthy and disciplined.”

I’d like to hit on a few grammar points:

• It said “husband”, meaning he must fulfill being a husband and all that is meant by it, looking like all good men on this planet do
• “Not a drunk”, meaning it’s not a regular thing and it does not interfere with responsibilities
• A quick-tempered man is a man that is not developed, it’s a boy, it’s a child
• Part of hospitality is confidence in self and knowledge about being hospitable
• Disciplined, meaning developed into a good well-developed man

Josh

Jesus said “let the dead bury the dead”, “those who have been given much, more will be given and those who have less, lesser they will be given”, and “they will surely suffer with me.”

Jesus did not make stuff up, He literally put an expectation on men.

• “Let the dead bury the dead”. Jesus said this when one of His disciples talked about going to a funeral. For those that think Jesus was being mean, well they lack understanding. This is discipleship. This is, for military, training. Jesus said in other words, “what we are doing today is more important.” That’s it. And He was right. He is the Christ, why would someone not be in attendance? I can only think of one type of person who would be in attendance — someone who has an understanding.
• Dr. Jordan Peterson describes what Jesus said about those who have been given much, as the harshest thing Jesus has said. I would agree, but only monetarily. Other Bible translations refer to this Bible verse as wisdom or biblical understanding. That’s true, too. Those who show up to get it, get more. For those who play video games, credits and awards inside a game are what they get.
• “They will suffer with me”. Jesus said this when a mother asked Jesus about her sons sitting at His right and left hand. He said it is not up to Him who sits beside Him, but if they want to be with Him in Heaven, they will suffer in this life. So a man without scars is a boy who has yet to get scars. Scars are not wounds. They are healed wounds. For example, those that thought “let the dead bury was dead” was mean and I said they lacked understanding, if that hurt their feelings, there is a wound that is not healed yet.

Love

There is a lot to say about love. So, I’ll just do it this way:

• Love means learning who a woman is, by reading or listening to the book, The Female Brain, by Louann Brizendine, Ph.D., and acting accordingly. Also, reading books by Elisabeth Elliot
• Love is being strong enough to go last. In all aspects of the meaning. So much, that going first just seems mean and rude.
• Love means giving time, no one cares what you’re sacrificing.
• Love means giving a place for a wife and children to thrive and to find a place they can call “home”. A home is a place of belonging and becoming. Home is NOT a place where those not invited ever get in. A man that will benefit you, is a man that has the courage to face lions. In order to create that place, a man then must be able to meet the needs of the place and those in the place. He must be a listening ear, a hug, a kind word, a repairer, a vicious protector (not bully; the last time I checked “protect” did not mean “weak and thin”) (a good woman does not facilitate or manage his righteous anger, that is not who a woman is), and he must have humility in order to create and a design a home
• Love does not mean letting a crackhead stab him in the neck. Love for family comes first, so that means he must make it home. So, don’t get in his way.
• Love means leading well.
• Love means learning.
• Love for man means being a father if God wills it. Children help greatly with developing motherhood and fatherhood in a way they will not have been developed.
• Love means walking the floor with the baby at night, regardless if he’s the one working a job.

The Non-Christian Man

With the non-Christian man, you will not know his basis. Will all of his basis be covered? I doubt it. With Christians, you can compare man with the Bible. A Christian man reads the Bible and adjusts himself accordingly. He will not be Jesus, but you will be able to see clearly that he’s a great man to have a life with.

With the non-Christian man you might have a lot in common, but let’s say 5 years down the road, you find out his children's philosophy is not yours. Christian man, easy, God say yes, unless otherwise specifically told not to.

Conclusion

Josh

We have decided to write another story, part 2 because this just covered a Christian man’s heart.

I know that we can all find a man that says he’s a Christian but doesn’t line up with what this story says. Needless to say, most men who were not prepared for the battle back the sword and shield days died. I see their point, but it’s not a point, it’s an excuse. I don’t care how man men die saying something. I look at the heart.

Men will fail, at times, yes. Women will not have shaved legs at some point, also. And at times she will forget her body is powerful. It’s life. Your man will not epitomize this story all the time. If he does, he’s hiding his true self from you. All men could hold a sign that reads, “construction zone”.

I said, “love means walking the floor with the baby at night, regardless if he’s the one working a job”. I never said, “love means walking the floor with the baby at night, regardless if he’s the one working a job, and it’ll be easy with no frustration, inner battle, etc.” A man’s life is a battle. It always will be, unless he’s a quitter.

Thank you for reading!! Thank you for your positive comments (my wife will read them, too)!! Thank you for sharing!!

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