We Are Dead Men: The Price of Victory

Is there a perfectly developed man, Part IV: The Final Part

Sportsmen are injured. A drummer’s fingers bleed. A soldier dies. A mountain climber busts knees and tears fingers. A truck driver drives his life away. A king or prince will change a nation’s family dynamic by sending troops away. A leader will make a permanent mark on a company’s future. A doctor will study and train for 10–14 years before licensure.

Husbands will kill their urges and selfish options to instill life in generations.

Laying our lives down for betterment.

This 4-part short Medium series briefly tackles the analytics of the Designed Man. Part IV will finish up the mini-series by tacking this last principle.

Most men have the time and audacity to cry to friends, family, and therapists about situations that over half the world has never done in minor situations. In turn, while some make excuses for these, there are been-there-done-that men out there who do not share the same feelings.

Let’s begin. I’m already tearing up — tears of fulfillment. I’ve never thought I’d ever be able to write this type of article.

The Last Lions

This movie holds this great principle we are talking on today. I’ve never seen this on a TV screen. It is the greatest principle life has to offer. The finishing touch of masculinity.

Disclaimer: remember, this is in the Is There a Perfectly Developed Man Series.

Final Principle: Dead Men

Laying our lives down for betterment.

The price of victory is the death of your wants, desires, and your comfort. And a rise of skill and strength.

A husband will give up everything he has ever known to be the husband that she needs. And she will give up everything she has worked for, to enter into childbirth.

If he has possessed any negative trait, he will have strained her during this time of pain, uncertainty, vulnerability, and the separation of her pelvic bones. What he does in their relationship preps them for their future reality. Will it be good or bad?

The price to pay

The price to pay for a boy to achieve greatness is to learn:

• No one owes you anything

If you can live that, like really live that, you will free yourself from gathering validation from those around you. I’ve never seen a person who is healthy in the mind who thinks they are owed anything. I don’t even care if the government gives you aid and says you are a victim. All destruction in your life is, well, humanity. Grow through the cracks! Reach the sunlight and live! In my life I have tried to locate a wife for over a decade, I never settled for the sake of relationship and loneliness. Not once did I say, “this is not fair.” I wanted to, of course, but instead, I took the scar and said, “Each year that goes by, expectation will rise.”

• And die

No matter the fear, you enter in anyways. No matter if you learn what you thought was true was actually false, you adjust whatever you need to. You are as flexible to life as water, and you are as moveable to people as time is to you.

Time cares nothing for you. Anyone who has ever taken a test can tell you this and even someone who plays video games can, as well.

Science cares nothing for you.

Mistakes don’t either, there have been babies die and nothing could be done.

The man passing by you cares nothing for you, either.

And nothing owes you anything. Take your breath, accept the truth, and swim with the SEALs (pun intended). If you take handouts you will never learn to hunt. You never reach maturity.

You are as flexible as water and you are as moveable as time

The man you want to be is on the other side of futile beliefs, principles, and people. The man you want to be is a leader when all others follow their feelings. And you cannot be a leader until you have bled with the rest of us. Even if you fight alone — if Jesus did, none of us are special to not, if needed.

We’ve all seen:

• death
• sickness
• violence
• And deceit

Do you want a cookie?

Training to hike tall mountains, training for an NFL game, training with many of the great self-defense instructors, or training in the jungle or winter leader course during military service all teach people that success of these programs will not look and feel pleasant. Only the tough survive. In the greatest programs, the instructors tell the candidates to “just do what we say, that’s all we ask” and persuade candidates to leave, saying, “no harm in those of you who are second-guessing, you have a great career waiting for you and we need you right where you were, so as the group begins running again through the cold muddy field, just stay behind and be who are meant to be.” Don’t leave!

You cannot be a man without passing through the gauntlet, and only by your own revelation of life. You will be missing critical learning points.

In the Last Lions Documentary (above image), the mother lion and her male were attacked by 2 males and 5+ lionesses. She and her male had a heart of gold, they immediately attacked the intruders. No complaining. Her male succumbed to his wounds after a couple of weeks and the other lions were now possessing their lands. She survived by taking the eye of the lead huntress, and took off, bringing her cubs to a new home.

All the while, the other pride kept pursuing her. As a lone lioness in a world being ripped apart, she evaded, she hunted, and at the same time, she mothered properly. No complaining. She let the elements build her. The island she went to caught fire. She had to cross open water, turn back to the pride, or be caught in the fire. She took her cubs across open water — her first time across water. After they crossed, she was left with 2 out of 3 cubs (crocodile took the cub that hesitated).

She briefly grieved, but she did not let that hinder the survival of her or other cubs. She did not let death, twice now, impede her confidence, duties, and obligation. That’s maturity. She tried to hunt buffalo soon after, and while she rested in a tree not far away, the buffalo stampeded the woods where her cubs nested. She was left with 1 cub.

The cub she was left with had a broken back and could only use its front legs. She assessed:

• The other pride
• hyenas
• birds

Her cub will die. Humanity. Nature.

She was left with 0 cubs. She took a brief moment to grieve. It was heartbreaking. She grieved healthily. She respected humanity and nature, she did not push blame or let it take her, too. Nothing that happened in her life was her fault, maybe like yours. She was the lone survivor, after one life event — one pride attack. That one event spiraled death over and over again. She took the scars and learned from them.

In turn, she went after the leader of the buffalo with everything she had. She bled, she sweated, and she gave her all with no ounce of grace. Hundreds of buffalo and the other pride watched her fight the largest buffalo. The largest buffalo and her, both bleeding and tired, looked at each other for a moment with mutual agreement — this was happening. She was a predator in her prime and the buffalo leader had a buffalo horn scar up his face, proving he was the last buffalo she should be attacking. She did not fear large crowds, cry about seeing death once, or get all bent out of shape from being dumped by a jackapple she should have seen straight through long ago anyways. Those were none of her problems, but I can think of many people to who those items relate to. No excuses, no barriers.

Just then, one cub came out from the woodline! They heard their mother. Her eyes focused more, all of a sudden. She stood, looked over at her cub, then looked to other lionesses, and to the buffalo. In a rage, she took a breath and went straight into the buffalo again. This time was different, she spooked the herd and they went running. Nonetheless, the large buffalo was not fazed — actually, he looked to go after the cub.

With the heart she possessed through good development, the lionesses of the other pride ran over and joined her fight. They took down the largest buffalo while fighting some of the other buffalo who came to his rescue. It was all-out chaos.

She secured her spot as the pride’s lead huntress while not aiming for it, just doing her thing. Only through the right heart, the heart of a dead man, did she take queenship after the murder of her husband and two children (water accident and stampede), attempted murder on her by 5+ assailants, fleeing to another town which had a wildfire, and charging a child-bully in front of hundreds.

Deadman warriorship doesn’t care who or what is around, no barriers. If you have anything, even psychological, that hinders Christ-like decisions, it needs to die.

I was an ocean, lost in the open Nothin’ could take the pain away

So you can throw me to the wolves Tomorrow I will come back Leader of the whole pack Beat me black and blue Every wound will shape me Every scar will build my throne

-By Artist: Bring Me the Horizon. Song: Throne

Where’s your heart at? There’s no excuse to not get the job done, aside from an intellectual disorder or other severe conditions like cancer (not your family having cancer, you having it).

Every boy needs to be developed in the following areas:

• humility
• love
• sacrifice and facing fear: today’s principle
• not quitting, not even emotionally
• he needs to be active (if he has a physical disability he will need to find something to substitute it, such as physical therapy and what he can in the gym for mental and physical stimulation)
• he needs wins. Chris Kyle had won a rodeo belt, soldiers survive battle, David killed a lion and a bear, sport figures thrive when they win. So shall he, if he is to become a prime male
• learning when they lose and being malleable in order to grow and adapt
• understanding femininity and her strength and value, and respecting and honoring her — and defending her honor, no matter who’s the opposition, so he better be trained
• life skills
• leadership and teaching proficiency: can’t teach it until he’s been through it successfully.

Dead men hold fast during the chaos, not blinking, not getting high blood pressure, not opening their mouth, not letting the rain distract them and the winds take them, and they don’t lose their faith. Faith is something you die with. Stand firm in the rain until the rain is over, then open your eyes and say, “I hope you’re ready.”

It’s all about the brain. With a good brain, a dead man can be placed at the starting line, again and unfairly, and not give up and go back to jail, reemit themselves, quit, etc. They take the steps, accepting the scars, learning, adapting, following good leadership, and not crying about attaining a certain status before they die.

A dead man is ready to die at all times. Roger’s Rangers Standing Orders, point 2: “Have your musket clean as a whistle, hatchet scoured, sixty rounds powder and ball, and be ready to march at a minute’s warning.”

A man who lays his life down is godly — and only a man who lays his life down (doesn’t mean die at things men don’t really die at — it’s merely a heart posture that says nature cannot get me off my swing). No one can take his life and no one will. He throws all he has into the game. In a moment, his eyes obtain focus, his breathing gets controlled, his hands get ready, and his brain is developing.

Your Truth

“Holding on to an illusion of stability or safety is a prison.” Victoria Anteri, in https://readmedium.com/looking-for-stability-in-this-chaotic-world-f652ecb4faa2

So, we let go of all that is not true 100%. Why is your preference more important if it has the potential to be incorrect? Not something we want to teach kids.

We all cut back, relax, and have a good time. But, when it comes to who you are as a person, be the best. No illusions, known as “live your truth”. You can choose whatever you want, but at the end of the day, did it come to pass? You think your keto diet is the best diet in the world — but for what? For a runner? — Okay, do all Ethiopians do it? For fitness?— does Army Special Forces do it?

Look, basing a diet off of regular America does not make it a true fact — it must run the trial testing — you know, what a real sale-product goes through. Walking to work is the fastest!! Only in NYC and other big cities, and definitely not my job! Energy drinks are bad for your heart — sure, and I and many other veterans lived off of them while still running 4 miles a day for years. Don’t compare that to those whose only cardio is walking to their car.

I think now you are seeing my point.

Live by the greatest principles of life. Being selfish can help someone for a decade, but they’ll die alone and with many regrets. Falling from an airplane is a thrill, better than cocaine, but at the end of its lifespan, you’re dead. If keto is keeping you from enjoying what I’m enjoying and millions of others, and I have great doctor checkups with no health problems, then what’s it for?

Bridge the gap between Ethiopians and Special Forces, and you will have the life of your dreams. Obviously, I don’t mean physically, I mean in your call/purpose. Be the gap between those two in your selected area of life. Ethiopian runners run between 50–120 miles a week. There was this story of a former Special Forces Operator who had a dinner planned with his wife and another couple. He took a run up a mountain peak, went home to shower and get in proper dinner attire, and he still made it in before the rest of them.

If you cannot run laps around your coworkers, you don’t operate yet (unless they are all operators). And if you’re the smartest in the room, you better be in charge and you better have other offices to go to, to learn still. You’re still learning. Let’s get stronger. Time to continue ripping your muscles, destroying the weakness, and developing a spirit of dead men warriors of the past.

Christians

We mean “Christian” according to the Bible, not “Christian” according to a person’s public confession in America.

Christian means “a believer in Christianity”. Christianity says,

Matthew 20:20 Then the mother of Zebedee’s sons came to Jesus with her sons and knelt down to make a request of Him.

21“What do you want?” He inquired.

She answered, “Declare that in Your kingdom one of these two sons of mine may sit at Your right hand, and the other at Your left.”

22“You do not know what you are asking,” Jesus replied. “Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?”

“We can,” the brothers answered.

23“You will indeed drink My cup,” Jesus said. “But to sit at My right or left is not Mine to grant. These seats belong to those for whom My Father has prepared them.” [Jesus even explained to us how to answer a question we don’t have the answer to]

To “drink from [Jesus’] cup” goes to 2 grammar points. 1) when Jesus prayed “take this cup from me” before going to the cross. And 2) common sense. Jesus said they will suffer in life. It is up to them to keep the faith like in the Book of Job. Everything was ripped from the man Job and Job did not curse God.

To be Christian, one must be willing to give their life for the Jesus Life. King David did — and most named men in the Bible did. Jesus explained this very easy in Matthew 20:20.

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Conclusion

Nothing short of being a life after God’s own heart.

God said King David was a man after His own heart. King David was the best in his trade. And he was ruthless in pursuing God and did not take any crap from others. The former King Saul told David to bring him 100 male parts, essentially, and David brought him 200 — with a combat veteran’s humility.

Only God steers us. I don’t care what you have faced and will face, you have what it takes to take the scar and live in victory. But, only God steers. Remember we are as flexible as water in order to get the job done. We learn from our rugged instructors who are tougher than we are.

Be good to your child. Develop them. They deserve it.

Client Question: I’ve been asked by clients before, what the main point or the key would be to obtain this response to life’s disasters. My answer was, “if I had to give to a short answer, it would be ‘prepare’. In combat, preparation (and training) is the deciding factor of who lives and dies. If I am prepared for life’s disasters, if I understand they are coming, then nothing can catch me off guard. If something does and I’m trained, then I know the response for that to get me back in the game.”

Thanks for reading!! Thanks for positive comments!! Thanks for sharing!! Come back to read the poem associated with the finale!!