6 Steamy Tactics That Will Turn Your Sex Life On

If applied, they will change your game forever.

What does it mean to be an incredible lover?

Is it the number of hookups you can score in a month?

Or perhaps it’s the glow on your lover’s face after a hardcore round of lubed-up orgasmic indecency?

We’ve all wondered how to go from “meh!” to “OH MY GOD!” between the sheets. But after reading confusing sex-related articles and studies full of useless data, the results are the same.

And I get it. I also thought I would become a better lover by mixing reading, practice, and lots of porn. But nobody became an Olympic swimmer without getting soaking wet.

So if you’re here looking for sexual tips that work, this list of advice will blow your mind.

These six infallible tactics will make your partner’s toes curl, and their thighs shake with pleasure.

1. Stop thinking about sex in milestones:

The first tip I need to share with you is that the secret to having an incredible sex life is not between your legs nor in the mirror.

It’s not about being outgoing or confident either. Instead, being a successful lover means honing your ability to connect emotionally with others.

Sex is tricky because we wrongfully believe that mastering some techniques or hitting the gym will give us full access to conquer eroticism.

But the fact is, seduction strategies and anatomic models won’t cut it when you’re naked in front of a stranger. Instead, you will need an ace under your sleeve to make someone melt with pleasure into your hands over and over again.

The real game-changer is your ability to appreciate others at a deeper emotional level.

Now, let me clarify why emotions are so important. It’s because sex is always better when you can ask for what you want with lustful specificity, without feeling ashamed of how your body will look while you’re getting desecrated.

That’s the factor that will get people flocking to you, lusting for more.

Nonetheless, this article isn’t about how many one-night stands you can score before turning 30; it’s more about being a sex magnet that leaves every hookup wanting to join the frequent flyers club.

But how can we eradicate shame from the sex equation?

How can you get from the occasional booty call to speed dial?

2. Embracing there’s no such thing as “normal sex”:

Normality is a statistics concept used to define frequent patterns that seem to be prevalent within a sample. The problem with statistics is that they can be manipulated and interpreted to favor the status quo.

I know we’re changing topics, but hear me out.

If you ask men: do you practice anal sex? Unfortunately, you bypass a ton of data that can help you understand their honest opinion on such a personal topic.

• Do they enjoy giving or receiving anal stimulation?
• Are they interested in anal play, but their partners aren’t?
• Are they interested to learned how to enjoy anal sex?

This shows that whatever a statistic show is normal doesn’t consider the marvelous complexity of human sexual interactions. Therefore, assuming all women climax with penetrative sex isn’t accurate.

It’s a red flag of wishful thinking, though.

Now, back to what we think is normal, the only thing that should be a common standard is having a sex-driven conversation with the person you’re about to fuck.

“What do you like when you’re having sex?” is a simple question that can do wonders for your sexual growth, and I mean that in every way possible.

Forget about instant recipes for pleasure.

Each person is unique, and the best way to leave someone begging for more is to know what they want and then give it to them over and over again.

But, how can you get honest answers?

3. Make your sexual partners feel safe and special:

Even if you’ve been in a monogamous relationship for years, there’s a lot you can still learn from your special someone to unlock sensations neither of you knew possible.

But first, try to avoid using comfy arguments to save face. Of course, I’m talking about the good ol’ “I’m too old to try new things,” or ’ “she’s not interested in sex anymore,” or “ having kids changed everything.”

What you need to do to save your sex life from boredom is:

• Re-connecting emotionally with your partner.
• Show them once more that you appreciate their uniqueness.
• Turn things on by asking them their most hidden and kinky desires.
• Let them know how you enjoy running your fingers around their naked bodies.
• Luring them to enjoy sex is an opportunity to free themselves from any prejudice and judgment.

You’d be amazed at how quickly you’ll have a second shot at enjoying pleasures you mistakenly believe were too risque or sinful.

A strategy like this might feel excessive for a one-night stand, but if you want to see that person again, take the time to know what fuels that person’s masturbatory fantasies.

By doing so, the only risk you will face is keeping up with the countless repressed sexual desires you’ll be fulfilling together.

4. Nevertheless, your goal isn’t to become a pornstar:

Let’s say you’re a passionate kisser.

Now picture yourself lifting me off my feet, pressing me against the wall, and pulling my hair gently with your hand while using the other one to grab me tightly by the neck.

That sounds like “the perfect kiss” to me, but it’s not the same for everyone.

Some women prefer having control of the situation, sitting on your knees while kissing you softly.

Others love biting your lower lip while hearing you moan. Unfortunately, there’s no cookie-cutter sexual recipe that works for everyone.

Listen to what your sex partner likes and take that as undeniable truth. Then, you can have fun adding variants, silk, and the occasional sex toy.

Some people like it hot, others cold:

I dare say that, as any Starbucks Barista can confirm, we go back to places where our necessities are fulfilled in detail.

That’s the type of sex everyone’s after.

We want personalized attention. And for the right reward, we go as far as standing in line every morning to get a mouthful of the addictive stuff of our preference.

I bet you want some of that action too, and the best part is your sexual partners will go the extra mile to pay the favor back, perhaps getting covered in whipped cream as well.

5. Change your script:

Unsurprisingly, the people who can give you the best sex of your life are confident enough to stay in touch with their wild side.

Look for open-minded people that aren’t afraid to talk about their feelings or struggles. Dial down the “lone wolf” speech, and stop bragging about how good you are at having friends with benefits.

Please focus on the person in front of you, and let them get to know the real, more vulnerable you.

Though there’s a part of us craving sex with random strangers, we are easily overwhelmed with emotions and expectations. If you present yourself as a person full of prejudices and fears, you can make your partner’s kinks sink into the shadows, never to be heard from again.

On the other hand, tick all the right boxes, and steamy sex will become the logical next step of a successful night out.

6. Change your idea of “the right one”:

Stop thinking that you’re not having great sex because you lack money, luck, or good looks.

The greatest lovers aren’t necessarily the most accomplished in their field or those with negative body fat percentages. Most likely, the funny guy that makes his wife feel special gets the type of action that makes you hard.

The people with a more satisfying sex life are passionate enough to connect and get emotionally involved with their sexual partners.

So much for our collective belief that players were great in bed, huh? It’s quite the opposite, and I can say that from experience. The best sex of my life has had more to do with whispered words, not pointless pounding.

It takes a little bit more than that. Trust me; I’ve tried more than I’m comfortable sharing.

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