A Large List Of Reasons To Love a Small Penis
When it comes to sexual pleasure “no size fits all.”
Small penises are like ghosts, everyone talks about their existence, and nobody wants to get trapped in the same room with one. Either because you think you have a small penis or because you avoid them at all costs, having intercourse with a smaller penis is portrayed as a nightmare.
Before you keep reading I must warn you. I firmly believe that pursuing pleasure requires looking for novelty and strengthening your communication skills together.
So, if you’re looking to read material that confirms how “ashamed” a person should be by not fitting the same cookie-cutter idea of “perfect sizing,” you’re more than welcome to look someplace else. Buh-bye!
Now that I know you’re into rejecting social constructs, let’s rethink penis measurement together.
Does having a smaller penis have to feel like an irreparable curse? Not anymore.
Don’t let the metric system doom your sexual life:
In this article, I’m about to show you how penis measures aren’t that big of a deal. We’re going to be tackling three significant aspects of the “tiny dick” dilemma:
- How to get the most out of your equipment.
2. How to enhance your sexual pleasure through communication.
3. Why the paradigm of “the bigger, the better” is becoming obsolete.
I know you know:
Yup. Put the ruler down and hear me out; you already know what you’re packing.
Boys are frantically measuring their penises even before they know how to use them for pleasure. So whether you have an XXL, an XS, or a “One Size Fits All,” this guide will provide you with all the tools you need to become a better lover.
Bigger, Better, Thicker, Longer:
Everyone keeps talking about Michelangelo’s David to make jokes about small penises. But did you know that in Greece, having a big penis was reason enough to be mocked? That’s why that chiseled interpretation of perfection portrays an average dick, even a small one!
Now, more than 500 years later, we can’t stop watching porn movies recorded with a masculine focus on making the penis look bigger than it is because that’s supposedly what the people want… But is that really what we need?
“Immediately after you stop thinking with your penis, you become a better lover. It’s that simple.”
Trends are constantly changing, even in bed:
Beauty and body standards can be very painful to confront when you can’t change what makes you “unappealing.” Likewise, the small penis stigma can cause years of emotional pain and loneliness.
My first close encounter with a small penis happened over a decade ago.
I was in my early twenties, and he was by far one of the best kissers I’ve ever come across. He was stood 6 feet 25 inches tall with a thick voice and green eyes. After enjoying a rock concert together, we passionately kissed in his car and took things further.
Minutes later, when we were at his place taking off our clothes under the dim light, I discovered that his penis didn’t match his corpulent body.
At the time, I must confess that it was a rather uncomfortable experience since I did not know the tricks, positions, and concepts that I know now. Therefore, I can’t say I felt much, though we both repeatedly tried.
We are still in contact, but we didn’t have sex ever again.
What prevented us from keeping it going was having to talk about our bodies with honesty. We couldn’t keep having sex without confronting our fears and intimacy issues.
But, that’s exactly what you should try:
Talking about sex shouldn’t be so uncomfortable if you’re already naked and ready to jump in bed.
What’s your favorite position? Would you like me to touch you differently? What do you feel when I touch you with my fingertips? Am I tickling you?
There’s some awkwardness in sharing personal details. Nevertheless, talking can be uncomfortable, but it can also be arousing, sexy, freaking HOT!
Separating sex from intimacy makes everything easier, even repetitive. But, unfortunately, sharing preferences, demolishing misconceptions, and tearing up prejudices isn’t quite as common as tearing up lace panties.
Yet, after deeply opening yourself to another human, there’s an emotional investment that can lead you both to experience unknown pleasures.
Three game-changing tips:
Just as men with giant penises have to look for more comfortable positions for their partners, having a smaller penis requires you to consider these four tips:
- The level of depth and pleasure achieved is directly proportional to the penetration’s angle.
- Following this logic, positions such as the “doggy style” make penetration difficult because your partner’s buttocks act as a barrier. What works best in these cases are those positions that facilitate frontal access.
- Separating your partner’s legs is a great way to achieve that penetration style.
- Finally, the best trick I can give you is pillowing up. Whether you’re on top or bottom, placing one or two pillows under the hips allows you to achieve a level of penetration and maneuverability that will change your game. Trust me; you won’t want to do it any other way after trying it the first time.
Not everyone craves penetration:
I know this might blow some of you guys’ minds, but penile penetration isn’t everything. As far as we know, masturbation is a way more effective prelude to an explosive orgasm in which your penis doesn’t play a fundamental role.
Why am I saying this? Because there’s no rule about what size is necessary for pleasure. Moreover, some people are not particularly interested in penetration and, before you say it, that doesn’t make them frigid.
“The average vagina is about 3 inches deep and only about 4 inches deep when completely aroused, while the average penis is about 5 to 6 inches in length and about 5 inches in circumference.”
— Madeleine M. Castellanos
Sex paradigms are changing:
“Outercourse”. It’s pretty similar to foreplay, but it entails that having an erotic experience isn’t a prelude to penetration. Instead, it’s a pleasure all and of itself.
Let me put it this way:
Touching each other, kissing, bringing toys to the bedroom, and playing the kinkiest role games you could both think of is having a sexual experience together, whether there’s penetration or not.
The times are changing, and considering penetration as the sexual main dish is now the quintessential “thinking with your dick” statement.
That being said, does penis size matter that much? I mean, it is well known that 75% of women can’t get off with just penetration.
Immediately after you stop thinking with your penis, you become a better lover.
It’s that simple.
Let me prove it to you:
- If you consider penetration essential, you will probably end up rushing foreplay.
- When you think about penetration as a form of validation, you pair your sexual skills with having a huge penis.
- Having a huge penis won’t magically transform you into a sex god. It’s a misconception that punches down every teenager and adult that deals with the insecurities of having a penis between the legs.
Do you know how many women are complying with penetrative sex just because they think that’s part of “the deal”? I bet you would be amazed by the answer.
I’m not going to fool you; size does matter!
Think, for example, anal sex. Though anal sex can provide tremendous amounts of pleasure to everyone, trying to talk someone into giving a second chance to anal penetration is almost impossible when you’re on the gigantic side of the penile spectrum.
Yes, women in porn seem to enjoy ginormous dildos and world record penises, and they also wear plastic stilettos to bed. However, some penises can actually be too big for an average vagina, anus, and oral cavity, making sex uncomfortable in many ways.
No biggie:
One of the most recurrent feelings in men with average or below average penises is loneliness, fear of rejection, and low self-esteem.
There’s a hopelessness that comes with perceiving your penis measures aren’t ideal, that the way your body is shaped isn’t “perfect.” That is a concern that has haunted us all ever since we began to perceive ourselves as sexual beings.
Yet, we know for a fact that there are plenty of couples out there successfully connecting on a physical and emotional level. There’s a lot you can do to radiate that positive vibe that’ll change the course of sex as we know it, for example, try this:
1. Learn to love and like yourself.
Not only through acceptance but through hard work. Do you love yourself? Tell me more about your habits, goals, dreams, and what you’re doing to make them come true.
2. Rejection is part of life.
It shows you where you can thrive and when it’s time to throw in the towel.
3. Body positivity is much more than curves:
It’s also advocating for the acceptance of differences while including yourself in a discourse that’s systematically changing how we define what’s “beautiful and desirable”. Waiving the body-positive flag promotes a more inclusive environment in which many of us can finally fit.
4. It’s time to stand out:
At some point in our lives, many of us have felt inadequate. And if there’s one thing that can kill your mojo, it’s thinking that no one will find you attractive. If you don’t give yourself an opportunity, who else will?
Stop living in the shadows and give yourself a chance. Remember that pleasure isn’t about measures. Great sex is all about communication, paying lots of attention to the things that turn your partner on the most, and putting it into practice… very, very often.