6 Smart Ways To Act As if What You Do Makes a (Whole lot of) Difference
It’s time to get your efforts noticed.
“I’d meet you at the therapist’s office,” Alexis chanted loudly.
Marc, a 28-year-old Alexis’ husband, stood there trying to figure out a way to respond. His lips were sealed, and his palms were racing with sweat.
“Ok,” he said in a low tone.
Coming back home, Marc sat in front of this balcony, typing on his laptop.
“Therapists are like real estate dealers. They do make a difference. But with husband and wife fighting every day, I don’t think there are many therapists for the leftover 50 years I have.”
This is the story of Alexis and Marc. Marc wished he had the authority to solve problems without going to a therapist.
Who doesn’t?
Sometimes we only need a change of place to solve problems. Therapists inst the solution. So what is it?
Making a difference is a challenging game. Every day, people lose jobs and get divorced only because the opposite party thinks they’re good as gone. Like their efforts don’t reap a reward.
If you want to change that, below are 6 ways to act as if your words, action, and time make a difference.
Let’s get started:
1. Truth laced in drama: showmanship
Dale Carnegie, in the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” focused on the following:
“Merely stating the truth isn’t enough. The facts have to be made vivid, engaging, and dramatic. You have to use showmanship.”
Marketers use public stunts with drama if it makes you feel any better.
The mouth is a powerful weapon. Grammarly might change your writing, and AI might change your sound, but nobody can change the words coming out of your mouth.
Introduce showmanship in your dealings. For example:
- To arrange breakfast: induce the drama that you’re too tired, but you’ll make it for them because you care about them.
- Passing through: allow your student/junior employer to correct his mistakes and let them know you saved them.
- Showmanship 101: lace your truth in drama. Show off your time and efforts by making them realize your efforts.
2 . Use 80% numerical
(A simple question: subtract 80–26)
Answer 1: fifty-four
Answer 2: 54
The second answer is more appealing.
However, most people are fond of written numbers because of how it makes you feel while creating a cheque.
Use the numerical technique in your business, relationships, and partnerships. Learn the numbers. (I know this is hard,) but numbers do make a difference.
I am asking you to learn only some numbers. Learn these only:
- Date of creation (marriage, startup, friendship).
- One minute detail you think will make the person happy (habit, tic, favorite color).
- The date when their life changed.
Now instead of saying,
“I have changed since I met you, don’t you see it?”
Use:
“I have changed 75% since I met you, don’t you see it?”
Numbers carry an importance. Use them to appease people.
3. Join hands
There are two types of people:
Number 1: talks a lot, does less
Number 2: talks less, does much
If you don’t know how to make a difference through your actions, it’s only some time until people figure out your trick.
Instead, contribute.
Contribute to your relationship, marriage, and partnership. How come? Use the “one right thing” strategy to smoothen out contributions. For example:
- One right sentence
- One right gift
- One right trip
Think more and then take action. Take time to decide about (one) great thing.
Wear a robe of copywriters. Use the “one” strategy to leave a long-lasting impression.
Add more thought and less action.
4. Instant noodles
As a Genz, I always drank Bournvita before sleeping.
Though I wouldn’t say I liked it because these powders had slow growth.
People remember you for your instant action, for example;
- Instant noodles
- Instant cake
- Instant pudding
- Instant coffee
Change yourself and fit into the instant action bucket. I heard you ask how. Promise things you can do in a swift.
For example, we all can put in extra effort if the help is related to our field.
Start helping others related to your field of interest instead of jumping into everything. This way, you’ll gain the label of “helper.”
Instead of trying to fit into every bucket, take yourself to the correct bucket.
Only help when you can 100%. For example:
- If you’re a writer: help fellows start with a website, give your tricks and hacks, and give ideas.
- If you’re a reader: tell about your favorite books, interests, and authors.
- An artist: talk about your favorite brush and help others with their art models.
- A parent: talk about memories and techniques you used to nourish your child.
Find common ground to help.
5. Establish a friendly tone
Unfortunately, our tone reflects our work.
External things like our face, mouth, body, and tone say much more about our work than the work itself.
It’s the truth!
When you change your tone, you remodel your representation. Use your tone wisely. If you feel:
Sad
Preffered tone of voice: Confident, grateful, optimistic
Happy
Preferred tone of voice: Melodramatic, forcing, egoistic
Revenge:
Preferred tone of voice: In reality, “if” scenarios become greater by letting go
Try being optimistic. Your results won’t change, but your reaction to your problems will.
People believe in you when you believe in yourself.
It’s one of the most beautiful tactics from “Stock market 101.” Establish a friendly tone for your feelings. Now work your way up to showcase those feelings appropriately.
6. Give free advice
I have been writing for the past six years.
One thing that everyone should know, always: give free advice.
Those people out there won’t follow you if you don’t give a bait. For that, serve your lessons and mistakes.
Giving advice helps in a variety of ways:
- Showcases where you accept your mistakes
- You’re open to learning
- You’re truthful
- You want the best for people
Your motto must be helpful. Leader and helper go side by side. Always allow yourself to guide other people. Remember to make them feel like you’re doing a favor.
Steal the following examples:
1- “What do you think about trying a new sales technique this year?”
2- “Hi, I feel as if we could do more and be creative. What do you suggest we do?”
3- “Maybe we should skip this year’s annual; I don’t feel like it.”
We all know there are two ways to guide people. Unfortunately:
- Ordering is a shortcut, a terrible path.
- Advice wrapped in candy is an easy but long path.
Final thoughts:
The vampire cannot enter if you don’t invite them.
Similarly, these tips won’t start working unless you practice them daily.
Remember this one point: life is too short to waste time doing the wrong stuff.
Don’t you want to find out how a diplomat feels after wrapping people around their fingers? Experience the flavors of life.
It’s not too late to begin.
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