4 Ways to Become Your Crying Pillow When Life Hits You With Problems
Waiting is not worth the wait.
Plato’s life revolved around Socrates.
According to Scotty Hendricks:
“Socrates was a weird man of nature. Even though Socrates had all the information, he refused to note it down.”
Years after the death of Socrates, Plato took it upon himself to grieve his teacher’s death (Socrates) by creating a book, “The Republic,” preserving his knowledge.
Plato knew his life marked a major turning point after meeting his teacher, Socrates. So, one by one, Plato dedicated all of his written work to “Socrates.”
But Plato wasn’t the last luckiest man on earth.
We also have starting points, which we deem as troubles and problems.
As Plato copes with his problems through writing, you and I also can get out of problems.
Use the 4 methods below to get back on track and restart your life without guilt.
Let’s get started…
1. Apply the lion king strategy
Theory: the lion is the king of the jungle
Hypothesis;
- Lion isn’t the strongest: because that’s the elephant
- Lion isn’t the cleverest: because that’s a cheetah
- Lion isn’t the fastest: because that’s leopard
So what is a lion, if not strongest, cleverest, and fastest?
Lion is the king due to its mentality.
For ages, the lion has been the king of the jungle. Lion roams freely like he owns the land, and every other species pays him to live on his land.
Your mentality makes you rich or poor.
Similarly, when you think you’re weak, you appear vulnerable.
Change your psyche.
How to apply?
You’re not a powerless person. Instead, refer to yourself with strong labels such as:
- Confident
- Able to bounce back
- Adaptable
Find your best quality, and use it to convey yourself.
Locate the one label you want to go with. Use that label again and again with your friends to register the word in their minds.
For me: (I am strong as I am 21 and ready for all the challenges I may face.)
Find your one!
2. Become bald
We pay much attention to our hair.
Ask me, and I have a Middle-Eastern background.
Because I live in North America, the water here is hard, and the chemicals stick to your scalp, promoting unwanted dandruff, premature graying, and tangles.
For that, I sometimes use lemon water to wash my hair.
I wonder,
- What if we had no hair? Would life be easy?
But John F. Kennedy believes that problems unite us with people we may never meet.
It’s problems that become common ground. If you didn’t have problems, you wouldn’t be here in the first place.
How to apply?
- Problems are important.
- Everyone has them.
Some have nice ones — some have hard ones. But all problems have solutions.
Shave the problems’ heads using the journaling strategy to find the right solutions.
Use the Kipling method, which possesses six questions to help you solve the problem:
The Kipling method is:
- What is the problem?
- Why is the issue important?
- When did the situation arise, and when does it need to be solved?
- How did the problem happen?
- Where is the problem occurring?
- Whom does the problem affect?
Write your answers, and you’ll find a starting point for your problem. After that, locate the endpoint and solve the problem.
3. The renewal method
Life is lonely.
- Because life is meant to be lonely.
Materials only serve as distractions.
Who says you cannot use materials and other things to distract your thinking process?
I have a timetable on my whiteboard that indicates my furniture’s movement. Now and then, instead of buying new items, I change the place of my things.
The transition enables a clear mindset.
Because when we see the same things again and again:
- We become bored
- Acclimate our comfort zone
How to apply?
Spice things up!
Nobody can go ahead and buy new things again and again — that’s also against minimalistic life.
Instead, change the placement of things like:
- Books on your bookshelf
- Introduce some new lights or make your own using the lamps (I have a Wiz)
- Change wall frames
- We also sometimes change hard furniture like coffee tables and sofas to give a new look to our home.
This way, the previous problems go into dust. I no longer feel the same pain because nothing reminds me of the last hard times.
So, always change.
4. Start a new day under the sun
It’s always going to suck!
Because when you don’t try new things, you’ll feel bad.
The human body is conditioned to try new things like a baby. Even though the infant is sleepy, it loves to play.
Toddlers don’t get bored of arguing about how the cloud moves when they walk. Invoke your creativity again. It’s going to suck one time, but you’ll get used to it.
One day will be hard, but it will smooth your life.
As Haley Hoffmansmith, the songwriter, says:
“It will suck one day, but it will get better.”
How to apply?
Utilize the “first-time suck day” strategy anytime you like.
Doing it early guarantees you’re out of the mess sooner.
Also, by becoming ready to face challenges, we become:
- Quick to solve problems
- Super reactive
Staying in bed and crying quantize nothing — it’s a waste of time.
Instead, get up and do something about it.
There’s a 99.9% chance that grinding and pushing hard through dark clouds will solve your problem.
Try
It
Final thoughts:
“If you are tired, learn to rest, not quit “— Banksy.
If you want to cry, clutch a pillow underneath a notebook, and note solutions.
You can’t solve problems because you’re applying the same previous strategy that doesn’t solve a problem.
Instead, do the opposite of what you were doing.
Get rid of your dirty tricks and find (new) ones.
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