3-Step Formula to Become a New Person and Change Your Life

Your life is not fixed. And you have the power to change it.

We don’t see things for what they are. We interpret them and give them meaning.

Our beliefs and assumptions from childhood colour how we view the world.

Those beliefs are responsible for how we act and react to events.

For any change in life to occur, you cannot wait for something to happen — for happiness to fall into your lap, for people to start treating you better when you don’t even prioritize yourself.

To change your life, you have to do something different.

To change how you respond to life, you need to shift your emotions. Emotions come from imagination and thoughts. They construct your personality.

Personality consists of memories, behaviours, values, beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions that we either show to the world or hide from people.

Your set of habits is not random.

Your habits reflect your personality ➡ Your personality runs your life.

However, your personality is not fixed. You can change who you are.

Start with small steps. Society glorifies huge leaps, but baby steps will give you long-lasting effects.

1. Change 3 little morning habits.

2. Think about what you want — the relationship status, the dream job, your desired lifestyle.

• How would a person, having already achieved the goal, start their mornings? What would be their habits?
• What would that person eat? What content would she listen to?
• What kind of people would she surround herself with?
• What would she talk about?
• How would she treat people?

3. Design your day accordingly.

To create a different reality, you need to think and feel like you are already living it.

Doing things you would do when living the life of your dreams will help you think and feel like a satisfied, fulfilled and successful person.

When you feel different, you act different.

The person who already is/has XYZ is not worrying, doubting herself, criticizing the reflection in the mirror, is not playing the victim. She is the embodiment of a successful mindset.

She has a strong self-concept.

She is her biggest cheerleader and believes in herself even if nobody else does.

What is the theme of your life?

Look at patterns re-occurring in your work life, health, and relationships.

What situations repeat themselves over and over again? Do you trust in the good nature of people? Do people cheat? Do they hurt you? Are you satisfied with your job?

It is difficult to break out of the rut of old thinking patterns.

After all, if nothing exciting happens in our lives, how are we supposed to feel the excitement?

It is the secret to believing before you can see it.

When you become excited about your future, before the event occurs, your brain releases dopamine. It creates a snowball effect — more thoughts, and more emotions. Eventually, your state of being dictates how you feel and react.

To create a change in your life, you need to feel new emotions.

To feel new emotions, you have to think new thoughts.

In his book, Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One, dr Joe Dispenza emphasizes the importance of becoming aware of our thinking patterns. Only then can we produce a new state of being, creating a novel personality, thus designing a new reality.

The only way we can change our lives is to change our energy — to change the electromagnetic field we are constantly broadcasting. In other words, to change our state of being, we have to change how we think and how we feel.”

― dr Joe Dispenza,

Use imagination and all your senses.

• How would you treat your neighbours if you felt you had enough resources?
• When lying in bed in the morning what would you think about knowing you love what you do for a living?
• How would you talk to people knowing you were enough and in a loving relationship? Would you be desperate to attract attention through buying things you don’t need?

Visualization creates new circuits in the brain. It changes how your mind works. Visualization can teach your body what the future will feel like.

When you continue to mentally rehearse a new idea of who you want to become, you start reflecting it through your thoughts and behaviour. You create new habits and a new personality.

Here is the truth: You can do anything with your day.

You can choose to blame people and circumstances. You can choose to disempower yourself by negative self-talk.

You can also spend that time and energy on thinking better thoughts, cheering yourself on, using breathwork to calm down your nervous system.

Instead of complaining, worrying and doubting yourself, start implementing habits that rock your boat forward.

As long as you focus on things that are going wrong in your life, you will be stuck in the same unfavourable circumstances.

Switch from coming up with negative scenarios to believing in yourself. When you change how you think about yourself, your environment responds.

Change your routine. Pick a different route to work. Start reading new books and listening to new podcasts. The content you consume with your mind influences how you feel.

Unless you change how you think and feel daily, the same patterns and themes will run your life. Nothing will change.

You will attract the same people.

You will sabotage your relationships.

You will give up before you think about starting a new business venture.

Be conscious of how you spend your day.

Good habits build you up. Unimportant ones suck you into the vortex of complaints and dissatisfaction.

The better you feel about yourself, the more confidence you have to tackle the day. Then, you start viewing yourself differently and believing in achieving your goals. One small victory fuels another.

With mindfulness, you can conquer the world.

When you are unconscious of how you think, you become unconscious of how you live.

When you become aware of your habits, and thinking patterns, you get to change them. You can implement new routines, affirmations that support your goals and build your self-esteem.

As you let go of old programming, your view on life broadens.

The colours are brighter. The food tastes better.

What you once enjoyed doing no longer satisfies you. Situations that once caused you discomfort, no longer bother you.

Take ownership of how you view your reality and the fact that you are creating your life.

Observe your thoughts. Question them. What is life without awareness?

The quality of your focus determines the quality of your life. The most profound change comes from self-awareness.

Build habits that align with your vision of who you want to become.

Take it one day at a time. And tomorrow, appreciate getting one step closer to your new personality. Your new life.

What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.

― Buddha

Thank you for being here, — Kate