8 Ways You Sabotage Your Spiritual Growth

If you think you are awake, you may be surprised to learn, you are not even halfway there

Do you consider the spiritual awakening an intense lightning bolt moment? The one when something inside you clicks, and the world stops bothering you?

If that is your belief, read on. You might be in for a treat of a great awakening.

The spiritual awakening does not change your life. It transforms how you respond to it.

To discover our intuitive side throw the rational mind out the door and dive into trust.

Are you sabotaging your growth?

See if you check one or more of the boxes below:

You Are Quick to Criticize.

Whenever somebody offers a different opinion, instead of appreciating the diversity, you are eager to judge.

With judgment comes the feeling of inferiority.

We criticise because we feel less than others. It is how we justify snarky comments or sarcasm.

Here is the thing with criticism: it screws up your life.

When you judge, the ego takes charge. Especially at the beginning of your awakening journey, the mind would like you to remain in the old identity. The ego despises changes.

Judgment clouds your vision. Whenever you focus on the choices and opinions of others, you lack the clarity to evaluate your feelings.

When you cannot tune into your emotions, it is impossible to navigate your life.

Not everything is black or white. Not every event requires your response or comment.

Your only focus should be on your intentions and goals. When you don’t get sidetracked by the behaviour of others, you have unlimited resources of energy and attention to invest in your growth.

You Compare Yourself To Others.

Comparison has become a habit.

Social media’s allure has become an addiction.

Every time you scroll through the highlight reels of others, you neglect your growth.

When you compare your body to a fitness influencer, you are not investing in your health.

When you envy the success of another beauty guru, you are nowhere near building a successful business. Success requires confidence and self-belief. The best way to boost your self-esteem is to resist the temptation of comparing yourself to others.

When you compare, you become your worst enemy.

You have your own goals to accomplish. You will not be able to pursue them when engaged in the life of somebody else.

Everyone has their unique path to discover and stroll along. Whenever you try to copy somebody else, you are stifling your authenticity.

Let go of the need to measure up to somebody else’s expectations.

Everyone has a different vision and definition of success. Choose what feels good to you and what reflects your soul’s purpose.

You Fear Failure.

Let’s make it clear once and for all.

There is no such thing in life as a failure. The word should not exist in our mental vocabulary.

If I were to follow my family’s expectations, I would never give up my job to pursue the call of freedom.

Nobody will come up to you on the street yelling: Quit that lifestyle that makes you miserable! You have to ignore that fearful voice and listen to the intuition that urges you to swim deep waters.

Negative experiences belong to us, but they don’t define us.

Will every choice bring glory? No. But every decision will help you grow, especially when you dare to make mistakes.

A step in the wrong direction is better than staying in the same place all your life.

Your greatest breakthroughs in perception do not come from successes but from failures. Seeing rejection as a redirection makes for a spirited mindset.

If you want to achieve greatness, you must be willing to fall several times and don’t let your ego suffer from it.

When you feel okay with failure, it means you start growing.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

— Winston Churchill

You Follow Through With the Game of Pretending.

You became the master of disguise.

You excel at pretending to embody the person everyone wishes for you to become. The polite one. The fun one. The smart one.

There is nothing smart about your attitude. You rob yourself of the privilege to discover what you feel good at.

Do you allow yourself to mould your interests according to the preferences of your family and friends?

If you do, you are not alone. I have been there and done that as well.

I have subscribed to the belief that I should be loving and accepting towards everyone in my life, regardless of how they made me feel.

Here is the twist: if you want to skyrocket your spiritual journey, accepting yourself is the ticket.

Self-acceptance is a luxury you can afford if you are willing to look at yourself from a different perspective.

The quirks, the blunders, the freckles, and the cellulite make up your modern avatar. And you can change those things by giving up the effort to hide them.

It is not about ignoring what feels uncomfortable. But embracing the fact that the journey of your growth is not over. You are allowed to change and work on yourself.

The real self is always attractive. The phoney side is always rejected by others.

You Lack Boundaries.

Do you allow people to step into your sacred space messing up the inner work you have accomplished so far?

Do you feel the pressure to explain the reason behind your every ‘no’?

People-pleasing tendencies are blurring the lines of your authentic frame.

Boundaries do not create limits. They give you freedom.

When you keep toxic people out of your life due to self-respect, you feel better. When you feel better, you make better choices, and you become of service to the world.

If you find it difficult to set boundaries, perhaps, it is your biggest lesson to learn in this lifetime: standing up for yourself with love.

Why do we suck at laying down ground rules for our mental health? Because we are incompetent in the self-love department.

You will never be able to enjoy the deliciousness of true freedom until you release the need to please others and welcome the desire to please yourself first.

Your new mantra? Whenever you are uncomfortable with a suggestion, reply:

I am not feeling it. It does not align with who I am anymore. Please, respect my choices.

You Fear Desire.

Many people believe desire is the fastest way to misery.

Wanting things is the root of all evil — the opposition to spiritual growth.

I used to believe wanting something meant I was not satisfied with being enough or having enough. I felt guilty for having big dreams. After all, I should be satisfied with where I am today.

The spiritual path has taught me that you can be satisfied with your life and still be eager for more. When you become aware of your place on Earth and who you are, you realize you deserve more.

Once we believe we deserve the best, we dare to dream bigger.

Desire is not bad. Desire is an expression of who we are.

When you learn to recognize which cravings stem from ego and which callings derive from the soul, you discover a great skill that helps you navigate your life.

When you crave a change, ask yourself if the desire for a new life comes from boredom, an attempt to impress others, a need for validation, or will it skyrocket your development?

Desires are an indispensable part of our spiritual growth. They lead the way.

Desires are rich opportunities to experience yourself from a new vantage point.

— Candace Thoth

You Feel Unworthy.

Do you like yourself?

How do you see yourself? Are you a person who gives up easily or unabashedly goes after your dreams?

Holding a low opinion of yourself is not a virtue but a vice.

How you see and treat yourself will always show up in how others treat you as well. People approach us the way we trained them and allowed them to treat us.

Everything starts with how you treat yourself and feel about yourself.

When you start loving yourself, you can get from where you are to where you want to be.

Be bold enough to feel worthy. Worthy of love, growth, and changes. Most of us are in reality prettier, wiser and stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Levelling up the game of self-esteem makes you immune to the opinions of others. When you focus on how good your life gets, your journey of a great awakening soars.

Real self-esteem is not measured by great things you have done, the things you own, but by an appreciation of yourself.

When you start holding yourself in high regard, you develop more compassion toward others and stop engaging in pettiness that disrupts your spiritual growth.

You Are Impatient.

Many people consider awakening a destination. When in fact, it is the continuous process of life, a never-ending journey.

You are always making progress. Cherish where you are going while still appreciating the path you have travelled.

Meditate on your evolution so far: How has your perception changed since last year?

Spiritual awakening is the whole package, not the glam of a finished product.

We are always in a state of growth. Never forget to have fun along the way.

Fixating on the best outcome deprives you of childish joy. Don’t take yourself seriously.

Make mistakes. Learn from them. Play the fool. Make others laugh. Most importantly, cherish every step of your majestic adventure called life.

There Is Always More.

When you think that your self-growth has just reached its peak, you should remember it can only exceed your expectations.

The better it gets, the better it gets.

The momentum is rolling. More expansion. More experiences. More satisfaction. More fun.

Not every journey is physical.

For some, the milestone turns out to be the spiritual journey in the deep sanctuaries of the soul, which gifts us with a monumental change of mindset.

Thank you for being here, — Kate