Women’s Response to Men’s ENERGY! (The Secret)
This article is inspired by the following video that I saw:
Granted, the dude takes a little minute to get into the main point of the video, but after you watch it, you can kind of see why he had to do a little backstory for it.
Anyway, to summarize the following video for those who probably won’t watch it, it had a guy talking about how he met some guy who was good with women, and wanted the guy to show him how to be good with women as well. So the guy just casually approached women on the street, asking them simple questions like where they were going, what were they up to, etc., and it mostly went well with him. But when the other guy approached women in the same manner, he wasn’t as successful as the first guy who he claimed was less attractive than him. He didn’t understand what went wrong.
However, he said that years or whatever later, he was approached by another man who he said talked to him in a masculine and calm manner to ask him a question about some apartments or something, I can’t remember. Anyway, he later saw the same guy talk to a woman who was working in the customer service office area or whatever, that he asked her some questions about something, but the first guy (the YouTuber) said that when talking to the woman, the man’s emotional state seemed to rise (and maybe his voice a little bit as well) and the guy observing said that he sensed that she was disgusted with the man and that she was being polite, but only because it was a professional situation, and that she may have acted meaner if he had tried to hit on her outside of the professional situation.
Basically, he noticed that the man’s demeanor changed from when he was dealing with him and from when he was dealing with the woman. It seemed that he was just normal, calm, collected, and masculine or whatever when he ask the dude (the YouTuber) for information, but was less so when dealing with the woman. That change in demeanor, perhaps due to increased fear, nervousness, and discomfort must have turned her off.
The YouTuber also mentioned how some guys act when they are with women they aren’t all that attracted to, how they are just totally comfortable with them, and how they don’t overthink what they say with them. And so because they are comfortable in their own skin around such women, it may be easier for them to be with such women. I alluded to this in another article when I told men that maybe they should stay within “their league” for that reason.
Basically, he was saying that every man has a base emotional state or something, that women can sense nervousness, the raised emotional state, etc., and that when women feel that from guys, they perceive it as weakness. He also said that it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are bad people per se, but that maybe they can’t control that it causes them to react so harshly towards such men, claiming that it’s probably instinctual or evolutionary or something. Not that I buy into the theory of evolution, but that’s another lesson.
I recall listening to a clip from a strong man known as Jordan Peterson, who said that harmless men aren’t good men or something along those lines and allegedly implied that women hate harmless men, even to the point that they want to tear them apart!
So what does all of this mean? Ultimately, it may not be about pickup lines, games, or even money and physical attractiveness. Maybe attracting women isn’t that hard IF… a man gets to a point that he’s totally comfortable with himself, totally comfortable in his own skin, and doesn’t feel and, consequently doesn’t act, as if a woman is out of his league so that he can’t communicate with her normally, naturally, etc., without overthinking what he has to say or being too afraid to offend her or “make her mad”.
So for any men reading, as a man, you need to get to a point where you really don’t care what people think and to where you’re really not uncomfortable around anyone. And you have to get to the point that if you have something to say, you will say it, regardless of people’s mannerisms, but if those people get out of hand, you must let them know that such is not necessary.
Ultimately, you need to be comfortable enough with yourself. You don’t need to put on an act, so should you decide to talk to someone, be comfortable while doing it, be vulnerable enough to directly express your interest, but be unattached to the outcome enough to where you don’t really care that much one way or the other. A wise man, known as Mark Manson, spoke about search wisdom in his great book Models, one of my favorite books.
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Try not to be too attached to anything, especially to what people think about you (even hot women). It’s really not that important.
You know, a lot of men tend to want to know a formula. Perhaps that’s a part of the “logical male brain” or whatever, working to try to figure out a direct solution to a problem. I alluded to this in another article that offended a couple of people about women not being vending machines, saying that some men do seem to want some “cheat codes” to know how to pull the attraction triggers of women.
However, though it may be hard to explain to men, it’s not a logical thing of X plus Y equals whatever. It doesn’t work that way. It’s more of an energy/intuition thing. And I guess some women simply want an authentic connection with someone that they are attracted to. But here’s the thing though, like I said in another of my articles, it’s not really about looks though. In another video, a guy was saying that there are ways to attract a woman sexually, even if she doesn’t like you and even if you don’t fit the preferences that she thinks she has.
It may be a bit difficult for guys to understand, but look at it this way: In the same way that you can see cleavage, nice legs, nice feet, a nice butt, or whatever it is that you are into on a woman and be sexually attracted and turned on, even if you don’t know her or even like her that much as a person, women can be attracted to a guy, even if they don’t like certain things about him. This may explain why some women go for so-called bad boys because, whether people like it or not, sometimes the sexual attraction that people have for others is stronger than their moral judgments of them, for lack of a better phrase.
The difference with women is that, unlike men who can get easily turned on by just looking at women, women can get turned on by certain characteristics and a certain vibe or energy that they feel around a guy, even if they don’t think the guy is that hot. In fact, if a guy has the right energy, the right characteristics, charm, or whatever, the requirements that some women claim to have will go right out of the window for the right guy.
Indeed, I think I read someone say on another article or something that either they or a woman they knew was in a relationship or fell for a guy who they would have rejected if they had initially seen them on a dating profile, which further goes to show that, like I said in yet another article, why online dating doesn’t work that well for women, because the things that make men attractive in real life doesn’t always translate as well over an online medium.
In conclusion, how women respond to men may be a reflection of how those men feel about themselves or how comfortable they feel in their own skins. And so it behooves you men, as top priority, to feel so comfortable within yourself to where you are not intimidated by women, because some women hate weakness and even attack weakness, the same way a dog would. So the whole elusive “just be confident”, “exude masculinity”, etc. stuff might simply have to do with you having your energy right (since women respond to men’s energy), and having the right energy may simply be a matter of you feeling comfortable enough with yourself and accepting yourself enough to authentically express yourself, who you are, and your true values to the world, without fear of judgement and without being intimidated.
