Women are Like Children: Trying to Please Women and “Make Them Happy” Will Drive You Stone Crazy!
When looking at the modern dating landscape, it should be obvious that trying to constantly please women, make them happy, and get them to “like you” may be a wasted effort. This is because it’s either impossible or they are making it increasingly difficult. In fact, trying to please women, putting them on a pedestal, trying to always make them happy, etc. may actually be against the natural order! I know that making such a statement sounds misogynistic, but hear me out. First of all, many women know that they are attracted to men who know how to take the lead. Many women simply aren’t attracted to passive or submissive men. So already, that goes to show that perhaps there is indeed something to the idea that men aren’t meant to be putting women on pedestals and trying to work too hard to please them to begin with, but, rather, that men are meant to lead.
To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
Genesis 3:16 NIV
This doesn’t mean that a man shouldn’t make a woman happy, but there is a nuance to it. I’ll explain further, but suffice it to say, it should be something that largely happens naturally, not something that a man should try to make happen through force and extreme effort.
Another thing is that trying to constantly please women and make them happy can be like trying to fill up an infinite hole! It actually seems that the more men try to live up to women’s expectations, the more they’ll want. Obviously, that’s not a good position for men to be in, yet this neo feminist, gynocentric society seems to be leading men in that direction… yeah, right off of a cliff.
I’m going to say something else that may sound controversial, but if you look at the logic behind it, it will make sense. First of all, some say that the natural order of the human family is the man leading, then the woman, and then the children (who aren’t supposed to lead anything unless, perhaps, the dog or something). Now, the controversial statement I’m about to make, which another man said in a video, is that a lot of women are like children. And to know how to properly deal with them, men have to be something like a father figure. Not in a creepy way, but man has to be the more firm, disciplined, level-headed person not getting caught up in the emotional, dramatic, or craziness that some women engage in. And I think that if men were to see a lot of women as largely being like children, it will help them to at least deal with them in a better way. A man doesn’t have to say to a woman that he sees women like children (nor should he), but if he can keep it to himself in the back of his mind when dealing with women, it can become helpful in his interactions with women because of how child-like a lot of women’s mentality can be. If you prefer… audio stimulation, you can listen to the following video for a thorough explanation on the subject. Dude came with some real game on that one:
In any case, look at it this way ladies and gentlemen: suppose a man and a woman had kids right? The kids may not even be that old, but old enough to speak, say what they want, etc. Now imagine if the parents were always listening and catering to the kids’ demands as if the kids were the bosses. Imagine if it were actually the kids standing over the parents telling them what to do! How do you think that would go? Do you think that the parents would be able to reasonably meet those kids’ demands, especially if the kids feel like no matter what they ask for, the parents would strive to get it in order to gain to those kids’ approval and make them happy? You already know that such would be a disaster!
Yet that’s pretty much where we are at in the dating arena with this whole “strive to give women everything they want” thing. The more men keep putting women on a pedestal, not only do the women lose respect for them (let alone sexual attraction), but the more ridiculous some women’s demands will become! And then men wonder why so many women are saying that men must be so much taller than them (even when they themselves are wearing 6-inch heels, making it that much harder of a demand for some men to meet) or how women can talk about how they want equal pay, yet the only eligible men they’ll actually date are the men who just have to make more than them, and all kind of other stupid shit. This is because as much as it’s against the natural order for parents to succumb to children’s demands and let the children be in control, it’s against the natural order for men to keep succumbing to women’s demands, lest they be driven stone crazy by trying to meet them! This is not to be misogynistic, it’s based on the evidence that I just showed you when you look at how unreasonable many women’s demands can be and will continue to be if men actually keep trying to meet those demands and kiss their butts.
Now, this doesn’t mean that a man can’t make a woman happy, just as it doesn’t mean that parents can’t make their children happy. But it has to be done in a certain way. It has to come from a certain place. It has to come from a place of doing it because a guy thinks that a woman deserves it (perhaps because he genuinely thinks that she is a cool person, that she has a dope personality, etc.) or because he feels that she has earned it and doesn’t mind doing something kind to her to show his appreciation (rewarding her, if you will) for her being as supportive, kind, or whatever.
On a related not, it may be that the reason why women are disgusted by nice guys and simps is because of the place those men are coming from. Instead of doing it for the reasons previously mentioned, they do so from a place of seeking approval. Even some women have clearly articulated that they simply do not respect those men because those men are being nice in the hopes of getting something from them (approval, validation, love, sex, etc.) instead of just being genuinely nice and doing something helpful because they actually like those women (not just attracted to, LIKE her) for who they are.
In the same vein can parents do some nice things for their children and love their children. Obviously, they should do so out of love for their children (hence from the right mental place), not out of a desire to earn or buy their children’s love and affection in some way. They can do things to show their love to their children and try to make their children happy at times simply out of love and to show their appreciation, but they must also not let those children get out of pocket and start demanding shit like they are the ones in charge! And if parents start cow tailing to the children, trying desperately to make their children happy and buy their children’s love, unfortunately, those children may not only not love them in return, but they also might not respect them either.
A man also has to not be too scared to “make a woman mad” when something isn’t right because, again, you have to consider it in the same way that parents must deal with children, even teenagers. If a child or young teen comes into the house and slams the door very hard while cussing and shouting at the top of their lungs, do you think it’s more effective to grab them by the throat and ask them what the hell is their problem (kidding! lmao!), but seriously, do you think it’s more effective to tell them that such will be the last time they pull a stunt like that and tell them that regardless of how upset the are, they still need to turn it down a notch and control themselves while living under your roof, or do you think it would be more effective to walk on eggshells around them, be afraid to “make them mad”, and be like “Calm down, Billy. What do you want us to do to make you happy so that you won’t be so upset?”… just so little Billy can say “Fk that!” and knock something off of the table? What do you think would be the more… effective strategy?
Sure, bad ass little Billy might “get mad” when he’s told that he can’t be pulling that shit just because he’s upset about whatever he’s upset about. Little Billy might also “get mad” when you tell him that he can’t smoke in your house just because he’s having a bad day and needs to blow off steam (assuming you let him smoke at all), etc. But as uncomfortable as a fight with one’s child or teenager may be, in the long run, a parent would be better off putting a stop to such nonsense from jump street instead of trying to appease them and, in the process, losing their respect and probably making them a lot more of a headache to deal with later on.
In the same way, men need to stop worrying so much about “making a woman mad” when a woman does some bullshit and even speaks or acts disrespectfully to them just because she is having a bad day or whatever and let those women know that it ain’t that type of party. And, like children and teens, some women may KNOW that they are acting out without a good or valid reason, but then eventually come to their senses later on if a guy firmly establishes boundaries, calls her out on being wrong, and says it in a direct enough way so that she can marinate on how she messed up, even while “she’s mad.”
See, some men are so strung out on trying to get sex that they can’t even see the big picture! They walk on eggshells around women, not wanting to make them mad (even when the women are clearly in the wrong) and assuming (however logically, though incorrectly) that if a woman is “mad” at them, she’s not going to want to have sex with them. Maybe not in that moment. But if she later realizes that she was trippin and realizes that a man was strong enough to hold firm, not waver, and not give in to her little temper tantrum, she might actually be turned on enough later on to give up the drawers! Because here’s the kicker guys, it isn’t sex in itself that you should be seeking from women, what you should be seeking is respect. If a woman respects you, sex can naturally follow. However, if she doesn’t, well, it probably won’t. Which is why I said in my most popular article to date that a lack of respect is the REAL reason why wives and girlfriends stop wanting to have sex! You might do well to save and read that article by clicking on the link below:
So there is nothing wrong with making a woman happy, but it must happen naturally and organically. What I mean is that a man should live life on his own terms, according to his values, according to whatever he thinks is right and fair, and isn’t willing to buckle on those things just to try to make a woman like him. Therefore, if he is being himself and a woman genuinely likes him (without him trying to get her to like him by doing things to earn her affection), then that in itself can make her genuinely happy, just being with him. Hell, that’s how it should be! And if a man, because he thinks she is cool, wants to do nice things for her to make her happy (you can even see it as rewarding good behavior if you must), NOT just because he’s trying to get some coochie, well, that’s fine too. But trying to kiss a woman’s ass and do this, that, and the third just to live up to the ridiculous demands and expectations that some women claim to have (and will continue to have just because they can) like children? Naw. Don’t do it to yourself.
Trust me, the more you try to live up to women’s unreasonable demands just to get some love and some coochie, the more you might drive yourself stone crazy and end up in a severe depression. Live according to YOUR standards, show interest in a woman in a matter-of-fact way (“I like you, what’s up? Let me take you out to eat tomorrow at such and such a time” etc.) and letting it be, not begging, pleading, or striving to get a woman’s interest if it’s just not there. Occasionally man may “win a woman over”, but more often than not, it’s either a waste of time or takes too much energy instead of focusing on the women who are at least open to dating them and seeing what shakes.
I think it’s horrible that men have fallen so far. I mean, I get it to a degree. Men are attracted to women, men obviously want to attract those women in return, and probably figure that being nice to them and trying not to ever piss them off is the answer. The problem is, just like with friendship, the more you put someone else in a powerful position over you, the less respect they might have for you.
Finally, as to try not to make this article too long, think about how it is when you want to befriend another guy. Unfortunately, some of you guys may kiss up to other men as well, but I’m talking about you guys who don’t do that and may not think it’s extremely important to make friends with random guys anyway, yet feel that if it happens, cool. How do you act around other men? Do you kiss their butt and always try to do things to make them happy or to make them like you? Hopefully not. It may be more than likely that you just happen to talk to them, such as if you work with them or frequent the same spaces as them and realize that you all share things in common, whether sports teams, video games, or whatever and may decide to meet at a bar one day and shoot pool or grab a beer or something.
As counterintuitive as it may sound when it comes to trying to attract women, you may have to deal with them in a similar manner, it’s just that you can add a dab of flirtyness in it to see how a woman responds. But whether or not she responds favorably, it only means that either you can keep it up (if she responds favorably) or you can stop with the flirting and just talk to her regularly from then on while looking at better prospects, but don’t try to bend yourself to please her, try to “win her over”, try to get her to like you, or any other junk. I mean, it may be that it will simply take her some time to warm up to you (especially if she doesn’t even know you), so you don’t have to write her off entirely. Just ease up on the flirting and ONLY “try it again” if you actually get to know her better and you both get along to test the waters and see if their is potential after she got to know you or if you are in the friend zone. The friend zone isn’t a big deal, just don’t wait around for her to change her mind.
Anywho, this concludes this particular article. Thank you for taking the time to read it and, as always, thanks for any claps, comments, and any support. More recommended viewing below.
