Men have made women their gods!

Summary

The article critiques the societal expectation for men to seek validation and attractiveness in the eyes of women, suggesting this pursuit can lead to the detriment of men's well-being and self-worth.

Abstract

The author reflects on the pervasive societal norm that pressures men to strive for approval from women, often through self-improvement efforts aimed at increasing their attractiveness. This dynamic is exemplified by the proliferation of resources such as seminars and pick-up artist literature. The article argues that this quest for female validation has become akin to worship, with men prioritizing women's approval over their own happiness and authenticity. It points out the irony that some women may not favor men who seek their validation and that men might be more attractive when they are true to themselves and not overly concerned with female approval. The author suggests that the pursuit of self-improvement should be for personal growth rather than to meet the expectations of women. The article concludes by advocating for focusing on personal values and spiritual fulfillment rather than seeking human approval.

Opinions

The author believes that men's disproportionate focus on pleasing women has reached a level akin to worship, where women's approval is the primary goal.
There is a critique of the pick-up artist industry and similar resources that profit from men's desire to be attractive to women.
The article suggests that women's expectations can be unrealistic and that their behavior, such as initiating most divorces, indicates instability within the demographic.
It is proposed that women may prefer men who are authentic and self-assured rather than those who seek validation.
The author challenges the notion that men should change their lives dramatically to meet women's standards of attractiveness.
A controversial suggestion is made that men who prioritize being with a woman might consider occasional visits to a prostitute to satisfy their needs without altering their lifestyle for validation.
The article emphasizes the importance of personal growth and self-improvement for one's own sake, rather than to gain approval from others.
Finally, the author encourages a shift in focus from seeking human approval to striving for spiritual fulfillment and pleasing a higher power.

Men have made women their gods!

I was reading another article on Medium, this one, that was basically telling men how to be one of the top 10% of men or how to be a “high value” man to attract women or whatever, and it dawned on me how much effort and how much money has been put into all of these seminars, pick up artist books, etc. on how to attract and please women. And there are a lot of men who spend a lot of time either reading such material to be pleasing in the sight of women or men who may identify as incels or whatever and are angry that they aren’t pleasing or acceptable in the eyes of women.

But who died and made women God? Because at the end of the day, if you are spending all of your time trying to gain the approval of a particular being and live your whole life based on being acceptable in the sight of said being, is that being not your god? Why is it that society has trained men to want the approval of women so bad?

The irony is, some women don’t even like men who need validation from women. Perhaps it reeks of low self-esteem or something. But even if it’s not a self-esteem thing and it’s just the natural desire for a man to want a woman thing, it still seems that many men have made women their gods by making them their main purpose and focus in life and, as a result, are miserable as hell!

Look, this should probably go without saying, but women aren’t perfect beings. In fact, a lot of them are pretty messed up. I mean when you have a group of people who typically push for marriage, who then often cheat within those marriages, and THEN who initiate most of the divorces, you already should know that you’re dealing with a demographic that can be quite unstable. No, this may not be all women, but it’s enough. And when you worship any mere human and give them that much power, will they not abuse it? Men in society spend all this time trying to be LIKED by women while women more and more seem to hate men.

Do you know what the irony is? A lot of women may be more attracted to men who are actually true to themselves, who are authentic, who do their own thing, and who couldn’t care less about being liked by women. Granted, those men probably still shoot their shots and show their interest in women, but being attractive to women isn’t the end all be all in their lives and they probably wouldn’t be mentally or emotionally destroyed by not being liked by certain women as long as they feel they are being their best selves regardless and living according to their values.

Don’t get me wrong, you should probably seek to be the best version of yourself. You probably should seek to improve your lot in life, whether it be financially or otherwise. BUT only for you, not because you think that increasing your lifestyle or becoming a so-called high value man is going to attract more women into your life. And I know this next idea goes against the grain and goes against a lot of men’s alleged self-respect or whatever, but if being with a woman is that serious for you, you’d probably be better off just getting a prostitute every now and then and being done with it so you can go about living your life until the need arises again.

There are men out here who would probably be perfectly happy living in a one bedroom or a studio apartment with a video game system, going to work every day, and just living life, but because some woman or some women are saying that a man should make a certain amount of money a year, should have a certain type of living space, certain ambitions, etc. in order to be “attractive”, some men would bust their tails and work super hard their entire lives in order to obtain that certain lifestyle, not for themselves, but just in order to be “attractive” to women. Is that not the same as worshipping women? Is that not the same as making women their gods!? Why else would someone go through hell and high water to change their whole life only for the hope of gaining approval or being considered attractive in the eyes of a demographic that can be fickle anyway?

I could go on and on, but I’m not trying to make this article too long. Suffice it to say, if you live your whole life trying to be deemed “attractive”, to be liked by people, or to gain other people’s approval, not only is it like making those people your gods, but it will probably make you miserable as well.

Be the best you can be, take care of yourself well, be the best person you can be, and, not to be preachy, but I strongly suggest that instead of focusing on trying to gain the approval of women or mere human beings in general, you should focus on being pleasing in the sight of the REAL GOD instead.