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Why Do Women Alienate Children?
When My Mother Alienated Me From My Father, I Turned Against Her.
My mother tried to turn me against my father. She was angry with him for cheating on her. She could have left him but she choose not to.
It was very convenient to live with him: he provided for her, he spoilt her, he supported her and he was a very good father.
He asked her to go to counselling together, to work on their relationship. She chose not to. He planned romantic trips, she always found an excuse not to go. He tried to do better by her and it was never enough.
My mother was full of resentments.
I love my father. His presence in my life has shaped me into the woman I am today. He always thought of his children first.
My mother knew how much our father meant to me and my sisters. To punish him for letting her down she tried to alienate us from him. My sisters were alienated to the point where they decided that they hated both parents and moved away.
I was more resilient and I stayed with my parents. At times I didn’t speak to my dad because my mother told me not to, I used to keep secrets from him and only my mum would know of it, I would pity her so much because “your Daddy cheated on your Mummy” and I would be told to spy and check my father’s phone and report back to my mother with my findings.
During my teenage years, my father was my enemy. The real enemy was my mother though. It’s heartbreaking to witness so many mothers alienating their children because of their “hatred” towards their ex-spouses.
We all know the story: the couple separated and if the man ends the relationship quite often the woman will feel as if he “walked out” on her, she might get upset and will re-emerge years later with an agenda to destroy him, using their children as weapons.
Tragic.
What kind of women do this to children?
Women that alienates children are sick. They are either narcissists or suffer from borderline and other personality disorders. Many of them have “fake” suicidal tendencies.
Women that wanted to control their men and were unable to have no other option than to control the men partially through their offsprings.
Parental alienation should be punishable by imprisonment.
Who are the women that alienate helpless children? I noticed that these women are self-absorbed, and most centrally, they show deficits in their ability to listen to others. They need to feel right.
They focus only on what they want, feel, and believe — without taking others’ needs and wishes and ideas into consideration. Often these women think that there actually providing a “safe place” for their children by taking them away from their fathers, they even come up with false accusations that the father is dangerous (“evil”) and therefore the child should have reduced contact. They don’t understand one crucial thing:
Children need both parents.
The alienating mother doesn’t understand that — she is driven by an obsessive thought to destroy the man that she loved. Quite often these women are still in love with the man they have a child with and are jealous when they see that the man has moved on and remarried.
They are even angrier when they see that the child is happy with the stepparent.
The case of Betty Broderick is a great example — a scorned, angry, manipulative woman who “lost” her husband and did all she could to cause havoc in her ex-partner’s life until she murdered him and his new partner. There are countless mentions that Betty was “gaslighted” and was lied to by her husband and therefore she should be excusable. Do you know how many women sent supportive letters to Betty Broderick?
Thousands. It’s disgusting.
What if her husband had to lie to her because he knew that Betty was mentally unstable? And he had no other choice than to play pretend that everything is okay between them, knowing that she might do what she has done.
No, women rather see Betty as a victim. The same Betty who is enjoying her life in prison, receiving thousands of letters of support and eating free meals paid for by us. Her children though have suffered irreversible damage and are parentless.
Bravo!
Betty and similar women put children in between parents, making them effectively choose one parent over another. These women harm their children. They harm them because they use them to accomplish their own malicious agenda. Revenge comes above children…
Hell hatch no fury like a woman scorned…
In general, women react emotionally to things, whereas men process in thought. Women tend to be more temperamental and reactionary, can also easily get upset and wound up. Many seem to find the mere existence of men exasperating.
Society gives women a free pass, if something happens to them they usually have a support network of other women giving empathy and telling them it isn’t their fault. Even when it is their fault.
What drives women to alienate children?
I’ve noticed that the women who alienate kids are motivated by “revenge”, they feel hurt that their partner has moved on. Another motive can be jealousy — especially when there is a new sexy and fun stepmother present.
Some women just want to extort their ex-partners, they’ve realized that their ex is earning significantly more and they hope that somehow they would be able to receive some additional child support. Others can just purely think that they “own” the child and the child belongs only to them.
Therese are some of the main reasons why women tend to alienate children:
- To punish the ex for leaving them;
- To punish the ex for moving on;
- To punish the exes new partner for “taking” the ex away from the alienator;
- To prove a point;
- To get the ex back (somehow!);
- To make the ex “stay” in the alienator's life — beg for child contact and involvement
- To receive sympathy from others;
- To receive money or other benefits;
- To cause emotional and psychological damage to the ex;
- To “improve” their own miserable life by making other peoples life miserable
Parental alienation presents itself as a reluctance from the child to spend time with the parent without reason. Parental alienation is one of the highest forms of abuse. Parental alienation is common in our society.
We need to keep raising awareness about this phenomenon and speak out on this top because the children are unable to. I forgave my mother for whats she did, in the end, she has hurt herself the most, because I was one of the lucky ones, I realized what was going on and I turned to my father. In an ideal world, I would not need to choose between my parents.
Both mother and fathers matter.
Who matters the most though?
Children.
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