THIS Is Why You Feel Shy and Anxious Around Women

Understand this fear so you can overcome it.

Every man logically understands that it makes no sense to fear talking to women.

In most cases, the worst thing they can say is no.

Yet, so many men remain afraid to speak to a woman they find attractive.

The fact that these women are small and harmless makes it more frustrating.

This guide will explain why this innocuous fear appears and how to overcome it.

Your self-esteem plays a huge role

If you have low self-esteem, you’ll naturally expect a worst-case scenario from potential interactions with women. If you don’t like yourself, why would she like you?

This mindset is what creates fears of a woman calling the police, alerting an angry boyfriend or whatever else.

But it runs deeper than that.

Because these types of men have a fragile self-image.

• If a beautiful woman is nice to them, they’ll feel good about themselves.
• If a woman is mean, they’ll feel even worse.

So, there are high stakes in this approach for these men. It runs deeper than them landing a date or not.

These high stakes naturally create fear among low-confidence men. They assume the approach will go badly and know they’ll feel worse if that happens. So, their brain creates symptoms of fear to stop them taking the risk.

Men with high self-esteem understand the value they have to offer women. Many expect an interaction with a beautiful woman to go well. At the very least, they assume they’ll be able to handle whatever happens.

More importantly, a bad interaction is unlikely to affect their self-esteem. If they get rejected, they might assume it’s something they did wrong, rather than something inherently wrong with them. They might believe they’re simply not that woman’s type. In many cases, it’s simply that the woman isn’t emotionally available at that time.

None of these are reasons for men to feel worse about themselves, and high self-esteem men understand this. They also don’t need approval from women to feel good about themselves. So, they see approaching women as a win-win. They either land a date or they end up with exactly what they had in the first place.

Desperation plays a crucial role too

Low self-esteem men often believe a girlfriend would turn their lives around. This desperation creates a high-stakes moment whenever they approach a woman.

This is especially true when a guy like this considers talking to his crush. There’s every chance he’s been fantasizing about his perfect life with that woman by his side. And these fantasies make the stakes even higher when the moment comes to actually ask her out.

High self-esteem men have often built lives they enjoy, regardless of how many women are in it. They may or may not already be dating someone casually. So, the stakes for their overall life when approaching a woman are low. This is what keeps their fear and anxiety low too.

This means they can focus on connecting with a woman, rather than overcoming their nerves and impressing her.

Inexperience also plays a role

I mentioned a woman calling the police or her angry boyfriend earlier. These nightmare scenarios have NEVER happened to me or anyone I know.

The thing is: when you’ve never tried something for yourself, you have a poor radar for what could happen.

The more you practice it, the less nerve-wracking it becomes.

The first 10–20 times you try to flirt with a woman, it might be scary. High self-esteem men face this fear in their teenage years and get it out of their system. Low self-esteem men cave in to their fear so it remains with them.

Here’s the solution

Eliminating approach anxiety requires a lot of work on yourself.

You’ll need to improve your self-esteem and build a life you love, regardless of whether women are in it.

But there are also clever little tricks you can use to bypass approach anxiety. You should use these to start approaching women NOW.

You’ll prove to yourself that they’re nothing to be afraid of. It puts you to the front of the queue for their attention and shows that you’re braver than most of the guys in their Tinder DMs. Even if you’re a bit nervous, this can be enough for women to give you a chance.

If you wait until you’re at 100% confidence to start approaching women, you’ll always have an excuse not to do it.

And there’s no reason to wait.

The more you approach women in the real world, the less nervous and the more skilled you’ll become at it.

You got this.

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