These 10 Simple Exercises Will Stop You Freezing Up Around Women
It’s incredibly common to be nervous around beautiful women — and the truth is that these nerves might not fully disappear.
You can still create a meaningful connection, even if you show some nerves.
However, it’s important to control them so you’re not a quivering mess in front of her.
Here are 10 tips to help you do that.
1. Obey the 5 second rule
The longer you wait to make your move, the more time your brain has to make excuses.
Get in the habit of counting down from 5 and saying hi before you reach 0.
2. Just say ‘hi’
Our brains have filters that prevent us from looking stupid. These filters block us from saying ‘hi’ to a stranger.
But what happens when we’ve actually introduced ourselves?
Now we’d look stupid if we don’t keep talking…
Our brain recognises this, opens up and provides you with things to say.
3. Change your definition of success
One of the main reasons we freeze up is because of the overwhelming expectations we put upon ourselves.
Lower these expectations, so that saying ‘hi’ is a victory for you. Anything else is just a bonus.
4. Surround yourself with supportive friends
Find friends who support this notion that saying ‘hi’ is awesome.
People who belittle you for talking to girls aren’t really your friends. They’ll only serve to make you more nervous.
5. Admit you’re nervous
The truth shall set you free. Admitting your flaws can be extremely powerful, especially if you’re not ashamed of them.
6. Start small
If you have to, start by asking for directions or the time. Once you’re used to that, approach and open the conversation with a compliment.
7. Make friends with attractive women
You’ll soon realise they’re just dorky humans who make dumb jokes and wear silly socks.
8. Meditate
This will help you stop listening to the unhelpful voices in your head. Headspace is a great meditation app for beginners.
9. Work on your self-esteem
This is a huge one. If you honestly believed that she’d benefit from meeting you, you’d be far less nervous. We do a lot of self-esteem work in our one-on-one coaching sessions.
10. Exposure therapy
The more you expose yourself to something scary, the easier it becomes to handle. Exposure therapy is used to help cure phobias, and it helps with approaching women too.
If you need more tips to keep your cool around women, see my free e-book How To Conquer Social Anxiety






