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Ten Signs Someone Cares About You
In the modern technology world of DMs, text, and Snapchat how to know when someone genuinely cares about you.
With texting, DMs, and Snapchat being the main form of communication for young people it is getting harder to interpret and express emotions in communication. So how do we know when someone truly cares about us?
“When someone truly cares about you they make an effort, not an excuse.” ~Power Plug
Ten Signs Someone Genuinely Cares About You:
1. They remember small, but important details- your childhood memories, your favorite and least favorite food, your deepest fear, the person who hurt you the most, your favorite song. They remember these details about you because they care deeply about you.
2. They listen with the intent to understand. They truly care what you have to say. They stop what they are doing and make time for you. You are a priority in their life.
3. They ask questions about you to show they care. They go beyond perfunctory platitudes. They don’t start an email with “I hope you are well.” They ask, “How are you, my fiend.” You genuinely feel they enjoy spending time with you. You laugh together and cry together.
4. They make you feel good about yourself. They compliment you and lift you up in front of others. They never talk bad behind your back. They will send random texts or leave you random notes in your car or sticky notes on your bathroom mirror when you least expect it.
5. They will put up with you even on your worst days. This is the person who will show up with your favorite comfort food and movie and sit in silence when you are sad and just be there with you, go jump in puddles and be ridiculously silly because your inner child needs to play, or have a pajama day mid-week and call into work sick with you.
6. You can be yourself around them and feel completely comfortable with full acceptance.
7. This person can complete your sentences because they know you so well, not because they lack patience with you.
8. They know all of your darkest secrets but would never ever think of using them to hurt you.
9. You can agree to disagree and practice full forgiveness when you have an argument.
10. No matter how much time passes you can always count on them when you need them. They are there for you 99% of the time. You can feel their effort.
“Their effort will show you the position they want in your life. Not their words, promises, or intentions… their effort!” ~Rob Hill Sr.
When someone shows you these signs of truly caring, hold on to them. Reciprocate the feelings and you are sure to have a long-lasting friendship. These are special qualities.
I feel lucky to have a handful of really good friends at this stage of my life. I have many great acquaintances, but only a few people that would really go to bat for me and vice versa, and I feel really good about that. When I occasionally do an inventory of my life, it is typically those same people who are always there for me. It is truly a beautiful thing. Periodically, someone new will come or go. I will do a medicine-for-my-soul housekeeping and cleansing, but most of the time it is a similar group of people.
Take Away
I would strongly encourage you to be a good listener and be a loyal friend because what you give is what you will get in life.
I am Libby Shively McAvoy and I have survived both physical and emotional abuse. I deeply believe emotional intelligence is a valuable tool for healing and can be used at any stage in life. I overcame PTSD through a variety of healing modalities including therapy, hikes in the woods, yoga, meditation, self-help books, learning and practicing emotional intelligence, and helping others. I still have setbacks occasionally, but I am thrilled with how far I have come and if I can help inspire and empower even one person through my writing then I feel I have done my job well. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. Please comment, clap if you enjoyed this, and sign up for emails to stay in touch!
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