Life Lessons
How To Use Communication To Not Be Used, Defeated, or Divided
For a family or work team
With everything, not just communication, I coach my clients (and work with my family, too) on certain life concepts and truths that help elevate us beyond the regular scope of an average person and the traps, if you will, of an average person. I’m unsure about you, but I do not have time to play around and always get caught in snares. I find ways and ideas that will allow me to mountain climb when the mountain is against me.
Communication is a key aspect of life. But it can also navigate us past trouble that is out for us. Allow me to introduce you to deductive reasoning and the working backward approach.
Deductive reasoning is taking a broad truth about something and measuring it to something else. An example would be saying the sky is blue because of water; therefore, the sky for planets without a massive water percentage is not blue. The working backward approach is a problem-solving approach where you start at the end and work your way back to the beginning. An example would be wanting to retire with $600,000 in savings. Then, work your way back to see what you should save per month now and what employment avenues you need now to improve the monthly savings.
So, how can I use this and communication to serve my family or work team better?
The concept is simple.
Let’s Take Friendships at Work
Deductive reasoning shows
- There is always a reason a person says “hi” to you
- Men couldn’t care less about your engagement or wedding ring
- Falling into the trap of the man at work always engaging in conversation can lead you to know that he only wants you for one thing. You’ll be waking up alone still, or you will be alone when he moves on. You do not want the man who always says hi.
- No matter how deep in work you and them are, you are both sexually compatible and the male brain will forge that truth and make them regret every day not having you
- Having rapport or sharing a traumatic event with men builds their attraction
- A lot of times, men at work want to know what you know, then use it and pass you
- And many more….
The working backward approach shows
- Men have a sexual preference over friendship
- Men securing a sexual life is priority
- Men working their way to the top of their field, is shared in that elevator
In the working backward approach, all you need to do is start at one of those places and work back, and that will tell you what their next move will be: smile, favors, conversation, flirting, etc. Whatever they deem that you will respond to, they will use. But they may not like you, or they may, so it is important to know their end game before making a call.
Let’s Take People Attacking You
People attack you at work for the same reasons a family member of yours attacks you. Deductive reasoning has shown that kings have been betrayed more times by people they knew, than anyone else. This same truth runs through the stories of the CIA time and time again. Flip the one closest to the target. Even the KGB and every other intelligence or counterintelligence agency out there does the same thing. They want to know your every phone call, email, action, and thought.
Your family will be threatened by [fill in the blank] to turn on you, or they will see a grand opening (financially, love relationship, or position) if they pass you.
Communication
When communication is set, meaning when you and your team or family vow always to tell the truth, nothing can squeeze in and have leverage. With honesty and intelligence, nothing can shake you. Naturally, I am not saying to be courageous. That has not come out of my mouth. I said, “Communicate.”
The person poached or threatened will agree to the terms of whatever and you will also agree to the same terms. Your forced “terms” do not override marital vows, ethics, or anything else. For example, if someone forces me to say "2+2=5,” I will. That does not mean I believe it; if anyone watches that on TV and believes it, that shows who they are. A pawn with no original thoughts. If it does not violate my faith or family, I will live to see another day, and will work to take them down.
To go further, I am saying that with this level of communication, you and your team or family can play those who think they are playing you.
This has happened to many people, including very wealthy people. A millionaire or greater may secretly play out a person to rise against them with law enforcement, the media, etc. But what everyone did not know was that the whole real team knew everything law enforcement said and could never catch them. Sooner or later, law enforcement will know their CI (confidential informant) is one on them, too.
No one has power when that communication is set.
- Your wife is threatened and she agrees to persuade you to leave your job
- She records you saying you will comply (because you both have already had this conversation)
- When she meets with the crooks again, they are met by an attorney general, their team, and law enforcement
I’m also not saying you will always have a clean break, either. But you will always be impenetrable and incorruptible. That is the greatest win.
Cheating
Additionally, when your spouse brings up a coworker wanting to have relations with them, they are likelier never to cheat.
Granted, you will have to have the wherewithal not to get jealous. Being jealous is a virus that begins division. Being jealous means you are unsure of what your spouse will do if given the chance.
To take this further, if your spouse takes the opportunity, there are many things you and they need to talk about. One being, why are they not satisfied with your level of attractiveness? (Seems like health or mental health is something to work on). This brings us right back to the point of today’s article. Why do people talk? To strengthen their position. Right. Now, use it to build an empire. Those who are not supposed to be with you will fall off.
To not tell a spouse about a potential attraction or sexual affiliation means you are unsure that you are where you want to be. I want to see you in the life that you will die for. Don’t you? Doesn’t that have more meaning?
Children
When a child tells their parents that an internet stalker has their information, that child is 100% safe at that time because there are dozens of ways to combat that situation. There may be embarrassing information leaked, but that situation is over and no further damage can occur.
There are ways for children never to be put in a bad situation on the internet. One being, rarely being on. You can’t see a message if you are never on.
When this situation happens with an adult, law enforcement can easily get them to meet and, at that time, grab up the perp. Some may say, “What if they notice law enforcement and are not seen?” At that point, they will need to gamble. No one knows exactly what the FBI knows if they showed up in order to see FBI. If they are smart, they will cut ties. The gain is never worth it. There is nothing worth spending even a year in jail.
Kings
If families of kings were in communication with the king about the problem at this level, things would be different. The king and the family members would bring up false information to kill the opposing force. The family member would say something like, “The king will be with so-and-so at this time, and they will be occupied for a few hours, and I have set up training for 35% of the troops, and they will be indisposed. Great time to strike.” Then, when the opposing troops enter the castle, as talked about, a trap will be set, and 35% of the so-called “occupied” troops are actually flanking and sent to shut down escape routes, and some are sent to secure the king and his family, who are nowhere to be found by the enemy.
The only issue is the greed or hate of someone in the king’s family. That person should have been flushed out of the family. Like yours, if you have a family willing to work at this level, you will all be happy and secure for years to come.
Teamwork
The only catch is, everyone must want to be on the same page. If someone has a better reason to be with someone else, it is the Special Forces principle to show them the door. That is the same for people who work for me and my family alike. If work is not fulfilling their obligation to my wife, she will find a company that actually wants to grow. Too easy. If someone in the team is not working, they are looking for something else or they need help.
Issues
When you do not have this communication, life will keep knocking you out of the way, like football linebackers or hockey players. Even goals can be pushed aside as you try to fix something that should not be broken in the first place. You’ll be wasting time.
Who has time to waste in this life?
Conclusion
Always communicate with and work with each other. There is power in that communication.
I want this for you, your family, and your work. Many businesses do not adhere to their plans for the same reason. The linebackers keep knocking them down.
This principle has a place in every part of life and every position (including tiers of government and power).
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