A Combat Veteran’s Letter to Female Friends: The Reasons I’m Friends with You, part 1, 2, & 3

Transparency beyond expectation: inside information

DISCLAIMER: There is a reason why this is 20 minutes. I have pulled all three parts together. Everything you need to know in one sitting and I leave no room for 1) gray areas 2) assumptions and/or 3) misinterpretations. Also, with this 20 minutes, questions that would have been received after each part, now are not asked. I add in here an introduction, my bio, and clear written arrangement of parts. Lastly, I put all the parts together for people to not have to go back and find the other articles. This article is not something you separate anyways. And to make it shorter would make it less accurate.

INTRO: This is the hardest thing I have ever written for public use. Many women will thank me and many men will hate me because women now have all the inside information. P.S. All men that engage with you properly will not fit in these bullets, thus will only put positive comments in the comment section. Let science separate men from guys.

I have read what you all wrote for a decade now and I have listened what you think I am. I think is important that you know every possible thought that runs through my brain like a cute little lizard running through rocks; he pauses to stare at you. Like a hard stare, one that if a man did it, it would be harassment.

From the day I was born you were talking about this and I am almost 33 years old. My life will feel meaningless if I read one more of those articles in this lifetime. Allow me to show and guide you in the man cage. I have put the animals outside on the football field, gave them some cupcakes and beer, it’s safe to come in here. Come on in. And girls, share this. This should be given to every girl as she enters high school. For a generation the same things keep being written — when you could just pass things down the generations. Even 1 million shares of this is not reaching 8% of women. Then once in a while there is an article that is very exuberant about one girl’s guy friend — how wonderful, you found the introvert Autistic boy who actually wanted a nice, friendly friend to talk with, good for you.

BIO: I guess I should write a short bio for those people who feel like I’m not qualified to be a guy friend. Ha-ha. I was going to just tell you to look me up because I hate talking about myself, but that feels sort of rude, you might miss a detail, and I’m sure you wouldn’t look me up anyways. So, you ladies get to know more about me than I have verbally told anyone, ever, and probably will ever. Me: I’m Josh. Grew up in a small town in Northwestern PA. Back then I attended Praise Fellowship Church in Russell, PA. Military Police from 2007–2012, two years in Korea, one deployment to Haiti in 2010 (where I did personal security for Sean Penn, two comedians, and some of the Miami Dolphin Cheerleaders), and a deployment to Kandahar, Afghanistan in 2011 (where my unit was awarded a U.S. Army Valorous Unit Award). Liberty University Alumnus (B.S. in Criminal Justice: Criminal Psychology). Been 100% biological male for almost 33 years and running. Wrote some short stories on Amazon. Founded a little military-focused nonprofit in North Carolina and an LLC that works with it. Worked as a Youth Care Worker for teen boys (most of them were surprised at my level of intellect in gender studies — I mean, real gender studies). Worked in a high-pace insurance office. I guess I’m still part of the Wall Street Journal Young Professionals Network. Former member of the Christian Association for Psychological Studies and the American Psychological Association. Certified life coach since 2017. Studied some positive psychology offered by UNC Chapel Hill and the Science of Well Being offered by Yale University. Have the Certified Nonprofit Professional CNP designation and mental health QP designation. Currently enrolled in Biohacking Your Brain’s Health offered by Emory University. That’s it for now, I’m starting to feel weird.

Are you ready?

Okay. From this point on you are inside my male brain. Welcome. From this point on propriety has left the building, faculty have abandoned you to the guest speaker, and I am given the floor with no boundaries. Grab a coffee or wine, let’s go!

I guess you have not read the book The Male Brain by Louann Brizendine, MD (studied at Harvard Medical School & Yale University School of Medicine — I know, right! And that is her being humble, imagined if she flexed). If your information source can’t beat this woman, I don’t want to hear it. Men: she still wins against your 1 little life experience called existence. Go back to your video games, you will not like this.

FRIENDS: the great debate concluded

The indirect sources off the top of my head: Dr. Nicola Gates (woman), Dr. Louann Brizendine (woman), Dr. Christina Mancini (woman), Dr. Jordan Peterson, FBI and CDC sexual assault statistics, the Great and Wonderful Elisabeth Elliot (woman), and science.

***Parental Advisory: at your discretion. Personal liability is not on me.

OUTLIERS: There are outliers everywhere for everything. Outliers are not defined in any statistical significance — as seen in education facilities, vehicle and road laws and manufacturing, general national laws, marriage (natural selection), psychological studies, Wal-Mart job applications, and literally everything else per Ph.D.’s, politicians, churches, and billionaires — you know, the group that builds countries. Even Jesus did not play games with thinking He was an outlier. He did not tell physics “you know I’m Jesus, right?”. Divine intervention isn’t something to gamble with, that is actually sin for Christians (to calculate and assume a spiritual activity using works and beliefs outside the Written Word of God is witchcraft).

There are different kinds of outliers:

• Some guys are not attracted to women due to a chemical imbalance in the brain.
• Some guys have the abnormal ability to turn on and off when it comes to visual stimulation — still a chemical imbalance. If I were female, I would SO NOT gamble with that. But hey, you do you. There are no healthy men in mind and spirit that do not think about you. The more they work, the more they want and need you.
• They might not actually sleep with you because of life goals, but if I was engaged to you and you said to me, “Oh, this guy’s life plans and goals are moving in a different direction, he would not sleep with me, so it’s ok” — Okay. Here’s the question, “Do you give him a neurological chemical reaction?” If so, I guess we’re just gambling with his stress meter and when life throws him a curve ball and reroutes his “goals”, you will be his first phone call. “Why?” You may ask. We just covered this, you react his chemicals which makes him feel good, you’re female. If I feel hurt emotionally, of course I’ll reach out to a female over a guy, if that’s an option. Each and every time.
• Why do you think women nurses in Vietnam had great success with having the soldiers who were dying in the medical tent, with dying peacefully? OR, more peacefully than they would have if a guy was holding them. Because of their presence and they held their hand. If the dude did not have any hands, the nurse would put her hand on his chest or something to let him know he wasn’t alone. That is a sensual chemical reaction in and of itself if a woman would be by your side in your worst circumstance. That’s a feeling of love for men, which is why when you add a guy on your Facebook he instantly feels a connection with you. You responded to a male initiation. You girls can categorize men, I, for one, will never do so and would never think of doing so even if it was possible.
• “Mating” games fade with age, too. Friendship is more likely.
• Also, cognitive ability is on a scale and those on lower end will be more able to be friends.
• You can be friends with depression, sure. When I’m depressed it’s possible. If I have a masculine identity issue, sure, yeah it’s possible.
• If we were at church we have “Christian” boundaries which will look like I’m friends with you, but I’m not, you’re friends with me if anything. It took me a year just to ask your dad to take you out. You were surprised when I did! So, was I friends a year ago?? I don’t think so, I was a ninja. You never stopped to think that all that time I could not have cared less about friendship, only friendship in relationship. Church teens are like a soap opera.
• You can be friends long-distance — wait, hold that thought, when did I date last, again? Maybe you’re friends with me, but is that mutual? I don’t tell you anything. What makes you think we’re friends? I’m just not mean. Maybe I’m trying to get my name and books over in your country? What gender is best to be friends with for that? Ha-ha! I hear your brain gears turning as you think about your Instagram influencers who put on “clothes”, but are not really clothes in a biblical sense, and hold up a book and all of a sudden it’s on the best seller’s list.
• I have been legitimate friends with women before — when we were in different seasons in life and I did not want to lose any MORE time than I already had from my past relationship. But… and this one is for guys, her and I might have started out seeing if we were compatible. Just FYI when she says “he’s a friend” what she might be leaving off is “… after we realized we did not really like each other enough to date”.

You, for the most part, have to be “in the mood” or “revengeful” to get “going”, if you know what I mean.

Whereas guys…

Here is a bullet list of why I am not your friend by the dictionary definition of the word “friend”:

• First, women can be friends with men. Your brains are way more complex. You compartmentalize things that men just can’t or can’t without a lot of effort (we will get into that in full visual detail soon — pun intended).
• Outside of business and relationship, if I don’t have many friends there may or will be one or two females I do things with or due to social distance I’ll get depressed, just you like you. However, we could go a month without talking and I’m okay with that. Heck, even a lifetime. I just needed a friend for that day to go bowling with. Thanks for coming. Seriously, thanks!
• Next, if I am friends with you I WILL NOT tell you why up front. Here is why: 1) I keep some doors cracked for some alterations in our friendship — or yours… lol. For example: “Netflix and Chill” when you had a breakup — if it has not happened yet, it will if you have a break up hahah (you know I will be in the car and heading your direction in freaking seconds even if you say you want to be alone). You know, just for moral support to help you through this really rough time… Haha!! And if I have the courage to actually try — just because the dude chickened out, doesn’t make him a guy I want around you. He might have not made a move yet, because he’s making a move on another friend at the moment. Give it time, your time is coming. 2) Another example: “daydreaming” (he can take screenshots on Instagram after you accepted him on your private account, download Facebook pictures, take sneaky photos and videos when he’s with you, etc.); no reason to tell you, nothing to see here. 3) Another reason you defend my friendship is by the time you had a breakup I may be in a relationship, so I can’t have you, but sure enough I’d be thinking “what if?” because I was patient for this long, maybe years. 4) ALTHOUGH I might be a freaking jellyfish (coward), that does not mean I am not thinking and hoping one day I’ll be a man. 5) It’s not romantic to disclose and reveal my dark side to you before you are attracted to me. Is it? Is it, really?
• Next, I have no respect because it’s 2020 and I get everything from the internet, so why not from you if you choose to be more than friends at some point? So, let’s just be friends and see what happens. This is what I would say in my mind, “I have many female friends and every so often I ‘get one’ and she calls what we did just a one-time thing, as if I was an object to justify the deed, then she categorizes me back in the friend zone. Okay, good deal, I’m all for it. Whatever you have to view me as, as long as you don’t answer your phone until we’re done. I might even turn your phone off when you turn around or are in the bathroom, maybe put it in a different room”. Unless I am an outlier and do not find you sexually attractive I will most-def break our friendship for “that stuff”. Make no mistake. When you initiate “it”, it’s on — honestly, sex versus just talking to you as a friend? Sex versus video games? Sex versus missing one bible study? Sex versus talking about your ex? Sex versus controlling my chemical reactions that I’ve been controlling for maybe years with you? I’ll take sex. If you initiate it I know you will not blame me. So, us being friends has no downside, so why would I tell you why I like hanging out? That is a horrible sex or relationship-investment decision on my part. There’s a reason why I chose you to be friends with and not others in our group.
• Next, business — have you worked in corporate or executive or business travel? Shoot, I don’t even care if you are married, ha-ha!! That is the best thing for us, we do “it” and you go back home and think nothing of it, neither spouse needs to know because it’s not like we will ever see each other again. That legit happens all the time. I can say in full confidence to my spouse, “I did not have sexual relations with anyone I work with”. If you are on a business trip to my company, you make over $20,000 a year, and hit a 4 out 10 on the Hot Scale you are fair game to 99% men in that building even if you wear a trash bag over you and use a paint sprayer for your makeup. If you say yes to go to lunch when we are “business cohorts”, I bet you I try once business is completed, if you haven’t bolted off. Even if you did bolt off, no worries, I’ll send you a follow up email :) Furthermore, when we first meet at the company, “Sushi?”, yes, just one word, that’s all I need to get you to lunch — because if your brain is not turned on by me you thought nothing of it. However, the moment your shoe hit the floor of the building, *boom* sinful planning in my head. “So, how long are you staying in town?” “Where are you staying?” “Oh, I see your ring. I’m recently separated, good luck to you. Do you like Mexican Food?” “Hi, you caught my attention — or maybe I say hi to all 17,200 employees every F-ing day, because that makes sense” (“hi” by a man who is not your point of contact or at the front desk means “I like you so far, as long as you don’t have STD’s I’m ready right here, are you? NO, well how long then?”).
• Let’s get more into psychology of business. Men need that valorous mindset. When they feel like they are in a good place, any woman in a lateral or lower position can be targeted a dozen times a day. We see this in Hollywood with popular people not being able to handle stress or cannot handle their attained fame and they get caught doing things. We, as a society have lost the definition of success. Popularity and money are not success. Success is using your strengths and skills to attain a certain planned result. Success for Christians is using your strengths, skills, and the Holy Spirit to attain His planned result.
• Next, ever heard the terms: Business is sexy. Intelligence is sexy. The word, Sexy. What, are we talking just after marriage I’m attracted to you and can’t think straight? That might be women you are thinking of. The idea behind the word sexy is “instant turn on” — that’s what men mean when they say it. Catcalling? Same thing. There have been men who proposed to women on Instagram because she made a Trump video lol….. *shakes head* What are we doing? (Yes, I may have asked if this certain lady had been proposed to — she laughed and said yes. Why did I think about asking her, you might ask, because I’m a psychological specialist. I already knew guys did.

• Next, if I do not find you sexually attractive, of course we can be friends. That is, until I begin to like your personality. (harsh? might be. However, a man I can’t tell you the truth about that because you really care about how you look. NO MAN will ever say you’re not attractive because we will labeled as “mean” or “rude” — but just because you don’t know what we are thinking doesn’t mean we are your outliers. I will apologize for that one being harsh, but I needed you to know the truth. That’s what this publication is for. I SERIOUSLY want to help all of you — now if I can just get you all to stop getting into relationships with narcissists, pill heads, overbearing jocks, etc., we would be golden).
• Next, I am a man, I am attracted to every quark of femininity and female component that natural selection dictates (to know what kind of women according to a professional, check out Dr. Jordan Peterson and Dr. Louann Brizendine — combined experience of 60 years studying these topics). Versus your 0.0 years studying the male brain.
• Next, you crying can turn on my sexual drive — even at a funeral! Friends? Is this your idea of friendship? lol. Yes, at a funeral. We are talking brain chemicals, not ethics, chemicals. Men have to live a life of discipline and self-control every time we leave our freaking home. Our fight NEVER ends. Our drive can even get a boost during conflict, ever heard of David in the Bible? Can I tell that to my female friends? No, I can’t tell you! I can’t even say that in public, I risked putting that on here, or some idiot will pull out a DSM on me and play doctor. Of course, that depends on who died and how much nature loves you (meaning, if you are 10/10 and if you accept the console warmly). Just ask widows how many new guy friends they attained within 6 months.

How are you all doing? Let’s take a Yoga minute. Again, I just want you all to know us men and be able to look behind the curtain of our brain. Okay. Let’s keep pushing.

• Next, I can get turned on by your smell. Not stench, nice sweet signature scent even after the gym. I know you’ve seen pictures of a suit tie wrapped around a man’s eyes. You know, when you walk by a man and they turn slightly to see you, then turn quickly back around because the visual did not match the nice smell? That is science. Or when you bump into a guy at the gym he says, “I’m never washing this arm”. It was funny in the movie, but guys were like, “I can relate”. Again, most guys know enough about propriety to always say the right things to keep you.
• Next, if I was blindfolded, nose squeezed, and had earplugs in, then you sat on me. Optimism will find its way.
• Next, every quark of yours screams to my neurological chemical reactions “you’re getting older and I am fertile” — even if you are not fertile in reality.
• Next, after a gun fight in Afghanistan I might think of you instead my girl because I’ve seen you sweat, fight, and expel much raw emotion; maybe even 10 years later her and I get divorced. Obviously, I can’t tell my female friends, “Hey, yeah, my marriage isn’t working out because we can’t get along because of the connection I had with someone else and I was found out” First thing you would say as a female friend, “that’s creepy”.
• Next, I am single so there is no one who will know and see those “little signals” of attraction I have toward you. You’re never going to test my authenticity. You might protect me, though, and my friendship. lol. Honestly, if you see me as a friend you will not think about testing me.
• Next, empires — king: male, queen: female. A male lion takes over your territory, kills the current king and marries her. Any questions? Except in America because we have 911. There are many countries that do not have 911. If guy friends do not exist globally, then it’s not even a 1st-world thing. We’re just softer.
• Next, We met and hit it off years ago and I thought in my little head that you would be “easy”. If I am your best friend, will you believe me if I choose to tell a few white lies about men — maybe I will nudge a little about your husband. Test out some division techniques. I mean, I’ve earned your trust and your ear, I’ve been friends with you longer than he has. He doesn’t treat you well, you deserve better — translation: “I deserve you”.
• Next, if I message your Facebook, there’s a 95% chance “I’d do it”, I might just be seeing how your next season works out because we have mutual friends and I would hate for them to look at me differently — or to miss a chance with one of them. Also, I need to know your quirkiness sometimes if I haven’t met you in person. Nonetheless, I will more than likely be weird, but that doesn’t mean we are friends. You would never tell anyone about me, even some of your girlfriends have sent you a message, “who is that guy on your Facebook?”. Let me answer that. I am here because I feel connected with you, we are basically family now, you are basically a vlogger to me even if you’re not a vlogger. Ever wonder why many women keep their profiles private? That’s why. Any woman who opens up personal information, men subconsciously think “that’s relationship stuff”.
• Next — on your end. The female end. Do you forget about people you love? Do you forget friends? So, if I lost my head, will you and I still be better friends and will I keep your trust more so than your childhood guy friend who you have more time with and he is just a ray of sunshine in front of the curtain (behind the curtain, uses women)? In your heart, do I have all of you? Marriage is mind, body, and spirit — and I need them all for relationship. Your mind will go to your friends and if there is a guy mixed up in there we might be only 2/3 married and that guy might start trying to divide us. Will he know things before me? (even if you work together). If we are talking in person will you check his text message (or if we are at a date)? Will you quote him in our house when we get into an argument? (That’s how other male lions get shredded in reality. One look from him or one response by her and he’s freaking dead. Not America “dead”, but legit DEAD, with blood, guts, and eyeballs all over the field). If I am your husband and you have guy friends you don’t know whether they want to sleep with you or not, I will not sleep at night. It’s not in my brain chemicals to not feel defensive over you, so you defending a guy is like me defending a random girl on the street and leaving you hanging (that’s how it feels). Can I be friends with women just as your guy friends are? I know I’m visually stimulated and all that, but I swear to you the Playboy model and I are just friends. Because she already said “no” before you and I met, ha-ha, but you don’t need to know that. If I am attracted to you, so are they. 2+2=4. If they can be friends with women as stunning as you when they are single or with someone they think is less attractive, I can be friends with women who you think are hotter than you — think about it. IF you say “no” to me, you must say “no” to your guy ‘friends’ — at the end of the day, God made us the same and that is: men designed to marry a good woman. I will be flabbergasted to know why you need more validation that you’re a turn-on and find the need to NON-DIRECTLY tempt other men, because why, exactly? I know you don’t mean to be attractive (aside from business attire and dates that is), but you are even when you just roll out of bed. God made you to react our chemicals and God made the male brain to respond exactly the way it does, so what’s the value?? How do I feel thinking he probably has done the dirty thinking about you? I can guarantee none of you asked — because he’s a friend, that never even crossed your mind.

So, that is my value to you? Okay. Oh, wait! →

• Next, if you and your husband or “boyfriend” have a bad relationship, we might be friends and I’m too nice to say anything. But you brought me in the friendship and I could tell you needed someone, so I decided to just be here for you. I might still try a little something in a later season, but right now I’m not attracted to you or even care about our one-sided friendship.

Look, sometimes it’s not that I went out of my way to get her. It’s just that if the opportunity arises with someone that I am really attracted to, it’s like a supernatural force pushes me forward. I’d go crazy if I don’t jump to it. It feels like natural selection has picked me. I’d never give up a good long-lasting relationship for her. Unfortunately, sometimes the good long-lasting relationship if found in her and not you. Whatever is best, naturally, for the future wins the long relationship.

Whew!! Now, you are out of the male brain

Ladies, pick one from the list that would be describe your guy friend. He is one of those. Roll the dice.

Seriously, roll some dice! Then ask yourself if you can live with that.

INTERMISSION: If you have not completed a “guy friend test”, I DO NOT AND WILL NEVER BELIEVE YOU that he is an outlier. I’ve been that “guy friend” a couple times. I’m coming to you with inside information.

So, what is a guy friend test? You can 1) initiate a simple kiss, 2) legitimately try to stimulate desire even in public, just to see if there is a hesitation or compliance. Hesitation means confusion, and confusion for basic “initiation” is not “I think we’re friends so I can’t” for men, it is “Oh, no. I can’t blow my cover because she’s testing me. But, is she for real? Can I have her?” — that is why he does not respond immediately. He knows he can’t lose the test and he will kill himself if this is a legitimate Days of Our Lives situation and he says “no”. If he does say, “Woah, we’re friends” (which is an incomplete thought, BY THE WAY), then say to him, “okay, but can we?”. If you won’t sleep with your friends because you are not into them sexually, then your friends won’t sleep with you, because friends are “not into you, sexually” as you just said — right? So, test them! Prove your hypothesis. Some wives and women I have relationship-coached in the past before the LLC, I’ve asked them, “Would you test your guy friend?”. They all said “no”, 100%. I asked next, “Do you want to know if they want to be with you intimately?”. They all said “no”. I asked, “would your husband want to know? Is that you hiding something?” Ladies, that is called being ignorant, by the dictionary definition. Ask Siri, “Siri, what is the definition of ignorance?”

Don’t be them.

Don’t worry if you lose a guy friend over the test, you are the female, so he loses out, not you.

Again, if you and I are friends, why would I blow my cover? I’m waiting patiently, no rush. You’ll be here and I’ll wait for some sort of division in your life.

Footnote:

You don’t need me as your friend. Or I, you.

Friendships are the foundation for marriage. Where are all the good guys, you ask? In your friendzone! If all the guys in your friendzone are guys you would never really give yourself to, ever, keep searching.

If we are true friends, when was the last time I went on a date?

I have heard of the Billy Graham rule — wasn’t originally impressed. Let me go through it again and you can look it up if you wish, also:

• Neither of those Bible versus defends opposite-sex friends — one verse reads, “And let us consider how we spur one another….” — men are visual, women always spur us visually, 100% of the day. Just take a gander at the fluctuation of business attire from men and women: Skirts. Low cut tops. Completely see-through heels (or shoes) some heels have literally one 1/16 in. strap and that is all. Sleeveless tops with just a jacket on. Attire designed to bring out the female body. For men it’s all shoes or boots (because no one cares about men’s skin). It used to be long socks, now we are sneakily putting in low socks — hmm. Getting more skin in there. It’s all about the shape of your body and skin. Men react to your shape, too. The world has always known men sin visually. Check out some YouTube videos about men pranking men by bending over with leggings, when the man wearing leggings turns around and catches the other guy looking at his butt (that is the same for all areas, even hair, ears — it is all you, the whole woman). The term “beer glasses”, even. Human Trafficking photos of children online. Women social media influencers. College boys seeing a woman from a distance and they make bets on what she looks like closeup, turns out she was old enough that they never talk about this event again with each other — why? Point is, men sin before they even know who it is — it could be a man, 14-year old girl, dead person, Silhouette (you have all seen a woman-shaped sticker before), desktop graphic, animation, a friend’s wife, the word “nude” — the brain reacts out of perception of women. It doesn’t even have to be an actual woman. The brain will correct itself and he will get embarrassed, because the world would hate all men if they knew that the male brain tries to find women all the time. Your guy friend has found a woman ha-ha! You. Women are not like that. And society loves to react men’s chemicals! Most women are walking marketing strategies — if you know it or not or if want to be or do not want to be one. Women like to look good, subconsciously, because that is how God made the connection between men and women via attraction. Women like to be beautiful and men like you beautiful, too. You like your jeans and men like your jeans, too. You like your nails, men do, too. You like your eyebrows today, men do, too. There is a chemical reaction to every atom of femininity, even to the things you don’t like about yourself. Like I said, if the man does not find you attractive, good-to-go. Billy said the same thing in Bible verses.
• His next point, “Friends shouldn’t be best friends”. Right. Can you women promise me on your Marital Covenant, your heart will not slip up on this ever? I can promise I won’t, I don’t need opposite-sex friends at the expense of a wife. I don’t find it valuable. A good wife is the most valuable relationship on earth. Again, this not business or clients, we are talking actual friends that you can cry with.
• “Your spouse should bless the friendship” — per Billy. Yay, Billy!!!! Glad you brought this up. Okay. I don’t bless it at all for any reason. Any questions? If you have a guy friend who needs something, he can text or call me. Any questions? If he can’t be friends with me, he is a thorn. Better yet, do you really love me? Or are you in the love with the idea of love and I was at the right place at the right time with the right hair and smile? If you love him, marry him. If you love me, this should be easy. Pick a love of your life. I want you happy! If I don’t like him, but you defend him, you love him. Are you ready for a Biblical relationship that develops into the beautiful empire of your dreams? Then only defend men in the family and your 1 guy. If you feel the need to defend a man, you’re 1/3 married to him, because that’s what unity looks like. I think you will actually feel better and have less stress if you have 1 guy friend, your man. The thing that is beyond your control is you respond to masculinity just as God designed. When you are only responding to one man, you will feel freer. Because your heart is not being pulled in different directions, but is growing and becoming 1 with God and your man.

Some women will say, “I can be friends with a guy.” Yes, I know. But, remember the male brain of your male friend:

Look, sometimes it’s not that I went out of my way to get you. It’s just that if the opportunity arises with someone that I am really attracted to, it’s like a supernatural force pushes me forward. I’d go crazy if I don’t jump to it. It feels like natural selection has picked me to go after you. Unfortunately, sometimes the good long-lasting relationship if found in you and not the girl I’m talking to. Whatever is best, naturally, for the future wins the long relationship.

However, the more men are taken by you, by all of you, the more faithful men will be. If his every orifice is smitten, you have no problems with cheating. That doesn’t change his past or other areas of relationship, though. Be the best nature has to offer.

One time I did a social experiment on one woman. I saw her and said to myself, “I think she will pass the test. She seems like she would.” I walked by her when she walking also and said “Hello!” She did not respond, did not look, she did not hesitate, she had no care in the world, just kept walking. I was overwhelmed, seriously. I said to myself, “That was so beautiful. So freaking beautiful. That is commitment. That is not giving ANY space for division, now or in the future. That is mother-flabbergasting Shield Maiden! She understands the male brain. Don’t give me an inch unless you are giving me the go-ahead to ask you out. The male brain is too easy — regarding women, that is.”

Let me know your thoughts!! Let’s dialogue!!

Your Special Friend,

Josh :)

Men, you can send me a PM at [email protected] if you have any comments and I will publish your comment, give women some space to engage with each other about this topic. If they want men to respond, they will ask; they are adults. Please, legit, give women one time to not have you here clicking on their stuff and saying “hey, what’s up?” Commenting on their thread reply is just like saying “hi” to the woman in the cubicle or at the front desk. Even when you give a thorough response 95% of the time. You are not responding to dialogue, you are responding for male validation. I know you want to be the male lion in the field roaring and peeing on everything. There’s no male lion here. All women. I’m just the author with ALL the ORIGINAL CONTENT. Bug off and publish your response to my post on your page — don’t forget to credit my information for my thoughts

Have you had a rough love past?

Read my post on how to approach that!