How to Make Sex With a Condom Feel Better

It doesn’t have to feel like a compromise

I wasn’t expecting sex with a condom to feel different, but it does.

I gave up on condoms ages ago. I was in a settled, long-term relationship. We were both clean and even though going without protection meant risking a pregnancy, we both wanted children. Starting our family early wouldn’t have been a big deal.

In the end, the pull out method served us just fine. We had our first kid only after planning for it.

We loved our little family so much that we decided to grow it.

Then we had another kid after that. And one more after that one.

Now, with four young children and both of us working, we’ve got our hands a bit too full. There’s no way we’re going for a fifth.

For the first time in more than ten years, we have to be careful again.

We could do natural family planning. After trying to conceive four times, I’m intimately familiar with my ovulation cycle.

But that’s not enough. Biology being what it is, my desire to get fucked happens to be at its highest when I’m at my most fertile.

And I definitely don’t want to go back on any kind of hormonal birth control. My body is already out of balance, the last thing I need is to mess with its chemistry.

So, I ordered condoms.

Truth be told, I was really curious to try them again. It had been ages since a condomed dick had been inside me and I couldn’t quite remember what it felt like.

That haziness was gone the moment my husband sheathed his cock and thrust it inside me. The feeling I had forgotten was back and it felt incredibly familiar.

But also a touch disappointing.

The sex was fucking great, don’t get me wrong. But I could tell that there was something surrounding his cock.

It wasn’t quite as soft. It wasn’t quite as warm. And maybe there was a psychological element too — just the fact of knowing that our parts weren’t rubbing directly against each other.

I wish I could say it was the same, but it wasn’t. It isn’t really a big deal, though. Using a condom is never going to keep you from having good sex, tons of pleasure, and powerful orgasms.

That’s especially true if you use them right. There are a few things you can do to make sex with a condom feel much better. It won’t be exactly like getting fucked raw, but it will be so close it will barely matter.

Make Sure You Have the Right Fit

Getting the right condom size is the most important step you can take to make sure the condom gives you the protection it should.

It’s going to help it feel better, too.

The condom should snuggly encase the cock. It shouldn’t be loose or too tight.

Sadly, the problem here is often ego. I’ve known a few guys who insisted they needed to use extra large condoms on their average-at-best cocks.

They needed to believe that their dicks were big, even if it meant an increased risk of a pregnancy and less comfortable sex.

But even guys who are fine with wearing condoms of any size still face an obstacle. They might know their shoe size and what size pant they wear, but they might not have a clue how to figure out what kind of condoms to buy.

Thankfully, there’s a really easy test. Anyone who wants to figure out their condom size just has to stick their hard dick inside a tube of toilet paper.

Sounds like a weird thing to do, and I guess it is. But it will give you a good idea of your size.

If it fits in the tube, go for regular sizes. If there’s some wiggle room, smaller ones will work better. And if it doesn’t fit at all, that’s when it makes sense to buy large.

Try Different Types and Textures

To make sure you’re enjoying as much of the warmth and sensation as you can during sex, try different brands of thin condoms. Stick to the ones that let you feel the most.

You can also experiment with textured condoms.

I personally haven’t felt much when I got fucked with ridged and ribbed rubbers. But some people are really into them, so it’s worth trying a few to see if you can get extra stimulation from them.

Make sure you’ve got some regular condoms on hand, though. Some women find the nubs and bumps irritating instead of pleasurable. If that’s the case, you’ll need a backup.

And it’s best to avoid textured condoms altogether for anal sex. Because there’s no natural lubrication, that irritation is more likely to happen. It doesn’t matter anyway — anal feels really fucking good without them.

Use Lots of Lube

Most condoms are pre-lubricated, which is great but not usually enough. Sex with lube is always better, and that’s especially true when you’re fucking with a condom on. Because it’s not as soft and you won’t get to use the dick’s natural lubrication, you’ll need more lube for a condomed cock than a bare one.

Start by putting lube on the inside of the condom to make it more pleasurable for him. You just need one drop of it for that.

Then add lube to the outside of the condom. Use a lot more than you put on the inside, though. Slather that sucker with as much lube as you want. The wetter the better.

Whatever you do, though, don’t use oil-based lubes — either the commercial ones or natural ones like coconut oil. They’re not compatible with condoms because the oils can deteriorate the latex, which could cause the material to tear.

You can use water-based lube. It’s all-purpose and good for almost anything (except fucking or masturbating in water). If you don’t know where to start, try Jo H2O, Sliquid H2O, or my personal favorite Sliquid Sassy (it’s designed for anal sex but safe for vaginal play and it’s nice and slippery).

Silicone-based lubes work too. They’re condom-safe like water-based lubes but they’re slipperier, last longer, and feel better overall. You should only avoid using it if you’re going to be using silicone sex toys during or after sex because silicone lubes can ruin them.

Make Sure She’s Really Wet First

Foreplay is fucking great. It feels really fucking good on its own. It gets you extra horny. And it makes sex feel even more intense.

And it’s a good idea to have lots of it when you’re going to be using condoms.

The most obvious reason is that it will increase vaginal lubrication. That means you won’t need to use as much lube or need to stop and reapply it as often.

Even if you’re using lube or she struggles to get wet even when she’s incredibly turned on, it’s still going to help. More foreplay is going to increase her arousal, which is going to make her more sensitive.

The hornier she gets, the more pleasure she’ll get, and the less likely she is to care about how the condom feels.

Use Flavored Condoms for Blowjobs

If you’re only using condoms as birth controls, then this isn’t really an issue. But if you’re worried about sexually transmitted infections, then you should definitely slap a condom on that cock before putting it in your mouth.

I don’t think enough people do this. But ever since I heard the words “throat herpes” I’ve regretted the risks I took giving bare blowjobs as a teenager.

I know why people are reluctant to wrap a dick before blowing it. Condoms don’t taste very good, and even though very few people suck cock for the taste, that balloony flavor isn’t ideal.

Keep flavored condoms handy to make blowjobs taste better. Better yet, get your own flavored lube so you can use regular condoms for blowjobs, or reapply some when the taste wears off.

You’ll have to keep regular condoms on hand, though, because most flavored condoms and lubes shouldn’t be used for vaginal sex. Flavored lubes are usually made with sugar-based sweetening ingredients, and those can lead to infections when they’re used in your pussy.

If you want to suck and fuck worry-free, try Sliquid Swirl flavored lubes. They have no glycerin or other sugar-derived ingredients and they taste really good too.

Safe Doesn’t Mean Boring

I’ve never heard of anyone actually preferring sex with condoms.

It’s not something anyone does for the sheer sensation. It’s something we do to avoid risk.

But that doesn’t mean it’s terrible or boring. If you use them right, condoms don’t have to make a huge difference.

No one should settle for less pleasure. So, if you’re going to sheathe that cock, make sure you also lube it up, ramp up the foreplay, and have an amazing time.

Oh, and don’t forget to stick that dick in a toilet paper roll first. It’s awkward, but nowhere near as awkward as trying to use the wrong condom size.

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