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indset is essential. If you do not agree with my following explanation, you will not be able to level up. It all starts with a<b> growth mindset</b>. We need to believe that we can improve in just about every way. Physically, financially, and socially. Of course, everyone has a different genetic potential. No question about it. Unfortunately, not everyone will be able to look like Brad Pitt, Chris Hemsworth, or Zac Efron.</p><p id="13d6">But don’t you think you could be a little more athletic, a little more charismatic, and a little more confident?</p><p id="bbe5">Unfortunately, many people have a<b> victim mindset.</b> They see themselves as victims, maybe because they did not win the genetic lottery, and feel attacked by what should be motivational statements like these.</p><p id="5497">But everyone has a choice: make the best of themselves or complain.</p><p id="5500">Choose wisely.</p><h2 id="053b">Building the body</h2><p id="0e9f">I think it makes sense to start here. Because going to the gym gives you confidence that you can use in other situations, such as social interactions. For me, at least, it worked well in that order.</p><p id="4eec"><b>Socrates</b> already knew back then how important it is to hit the gym:</p><p id="3bf9" type="7">It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable</p><p id="7771">If your main goal is to become more attractive to women, you should work on the so-called<b> V-taper.</b> This means you should aim to achieve a brought shoulders and a narrow waist, which requires a strong upper body and a low body fat percentage. You can read more about this topic in this article.</p><div id="4588" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-most-attractive-male-body-type-and-how-to-get-there-2105fec7636b"> <div> <div> <h2>The Most Attractive Male Body Type- and how to get there</h2> <div><h3>These things will make your attractiveness skyrocket</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*hZ09qszJiBGuVHrb)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h2 id="83ab">Improving your social skills</h2><p id="808b">The same as with your look applies in this regard. Some people seem to be naturally blessed with charisma, others are not. While I can’t complain too much about the former, I had to work a lot on my social skills.</p><p id="399b">The best thing to do is just to do it. Learning by doing. In the beginning, you’ll suck if you’re like me. Embrace the suck.</p><p id="4bbf">I was often out in bars with my friends and forced myself to talk to strangers. That way I slowly got used to it and became more confident. After I initially talked mainly with other men, I began at some point to talk to girls. Gradually I got better, less nervous, and learned how to flirt.</p><p id="7a5b">Social skills are, as the name suggests, skills. And by definition, skills can be learned.</p><figure id="5f50"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*hIWvmSnF8lzj2T9G"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@alexvgr?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral"

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How To Become The Most Attractive Man You Can Be

Level up.

When I was a kid I loved playing video games.

Especially games, where I had to complete missions and level up my character, were the most fun for me. I also used to do a lot of sports. Through this, I quickly learned how powerful targeted practice is. I’m sure that with some effort you can improve in just about anything if you try hard enough.

As a teenager, I started to combine these two things. I started leveling up in real life. Just like before in the video games.

Leveling up my real-life character

So I started working on myself. Self-improvement, if you will. A big weakness was social skills as I used to be shy. With some encouragement from friends, I talked to more strangers, including girls, and became more confident. I also worked on my body and built up muscle mass. These changes increased my success with girls tremendously. Although that wasn’t even my primary goal. But things didn’t always go so well. There were also phases in which I tried to be more active with girls but still had less success.

Chasing vs. attracting

What I experienced is a mistake that I think we all make at one time or another. We finally want a girlfriend. So we try to present ourselves better, rack our brains over our next picture on Instagram, sign up on dating apps, and text more girls on social media.

You are basically chasing.

The problem is that all of this takes a lot of time. I know some young men who spend several hours a day swiping on Tinder just to get a match every 2 weeks.

This distracts from the really important thing: actually getting better in real life. By that, I mean becoming fitter, smarter, and more charismatic. Maybe earn more money. If the women you’re interested in are all rejecting you, you have to become a better version of yourself and start to attract. Your Tinder Bio is not the problem. Trust me.

I don’t want to attack anyone who recognizes himself. We all make this mistake, and I’ve made it long enough myself.

Putting in the work

Be a little stronger, dress a little better, speak a little more clearly, aim a little higher- Jordan Peterson

The well-known psychologist Dr. Jordan Peterson gave this advice to young men who have problems attracting women. I think he gets to the heart of the matter.

The right mindset is key

The right mindset is essential. If you do not agree with my following explanation, you will not be able to level up. It all starts with a growth mindset. We need to believe that we can improve in just about every way. Physically, financially, and socially. Of course, everyone has a different genetic potential. No question about it. Unfortunately, not everyone will be able to look like Brad Pitt, Chris Hemsworth, or Zac Efron.

But don’t you think you could be a little more athletic, a little more charismatic, and a little more confident?

Unfortunately, many people have a victim mindset. They see themselves as victims, maybe because they did not win the genetic lottery, and feel attacked by what should be motivational statements like these.

But everyone has a choice: make the best of themselves or complain.

Choose wisely.

Building the body

I think it makes sense to start here. Because going to the gym gives you confidence that you can use in other situations, such as social interactions. For me, at least, it worked well in that order.

Socrates already knew back then how important it is to hit the gym:

It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable

If your main goal is to become more attractive to women, you should work on the so-called V-taper. This means you should aim to achieve a brought shoulders and a narrow waist, which requires a strong upper body and a low body fat percentage. You can read more about this topic in this article.

The Most Attractive Male Body Type- and how to get there

These things will make your attractiveness skyrocket

medium.com

Improving your social skills

The same as with your look applies in this regard. Some people seem to be naturally blessed with charisma, others are not. While I can’t complain too much about the former, I had to work a lot on my social skills.

The best thing to do is just to do it. Learning by doing. In the beginning, you’ll suck if you’re like me. Embrace the suck.

I was often out in bars with my friends and forced myself to talk to strangers. That way I slowly got used to it and became more confident. After I initially talked mainly with other men, I began at some point to talk to girls. Gradually I got better, less nervous, and learned how to flirt.

Social skills are, as the name suggests, skills. And by definition, skills can be learned.

Of course, there are a few more things you can work on, like your financial situation or how you dress.

If you have spent some time working on yourself, your results on Tinder will be much better. But you probably won’t need Tinder anymore, because you’re compelling enough in real life.

Stop chasing and work on the ability to attract.

Summary

The best way to improve your success with women as a man is to become the best version of yourself. Even the best Tinder profile can’t compete with that. No matter how great your car or how cute your dog is in the pictures with you.

With these steps, you should be able to do just that:

Develop a growth mindset
Work on your body
Improve your social skills. Learn to flirt.
Improve yourself in as many areas as possible.

Thanks for reading!

Wait a second. You should get my articles in your inbox. Subscribe here. Maybe you also want to start writing on Medium yourself and make money. I made $3400 in my second full month! You only need a membership for $5 a month. If you sign up with my link, you support me with a part of your fee without additional costs.