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God Put a Value on Beauty

The evidence is all around

Photo by Garon Piceli: https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-wearing-white-top-852793/

Beauty

Since God created it all and He is the one who made women beautiful by creative intellectual design, by the evidence, and He made the brains of men to respond by mere visual stimulation (plus an array of other ways), we can clearly see the correlation and what He intended. Through His intention, we now put a value on it, too.

All nature responds to beauty

Women themselves

To talk further, women like to be pretty, and men like them to be pretty, too. It’s a natural occurrence.

We see around us that some women work for years and years, hours a day, to “look better”, in their own words, but due to genes, they don’t think they will ever make it. But, we also see women who don’t give much effort, just skin and bones by genes, and in the comments on any given picture, we read, “flawless”, “beautiful”, etc., and nothing on the woman who is giving her all. Sometimes they are anorexic or have been starving themselves, as brought on by parents sometimes or lack thereof. This is commonly known as the beauty industry.

So then, according to everything, physical appearance has a place in the definition of beauty/woman.

Models

We also see when a woman, mostly models, look “more feminine”, seen not by only the general public but also by the modeling company as beauty. The more femininity, the more value.

We see women, mothers, and single women alike who, when they project a lot of feminine power, get a lot of attention from both women and men, and for different reasons. There are times when children respond appropriately to femininity rather than their fathers. And that is just fine; it’s within the bounds of the psychology of children.

Nature responds to femininity. Femininity has a place in the definition of beauty. Or the beauty industry wouldn’t be making money off it.

What beauty aspect do you resemble?

It is a gruesome and ruthless natural selection property that physical beauty is the most powerful force in nature. When women of beautiful physical appearance lose power, it was because they lost value / their beauty when they made an error somewhere for some reason — like, going to jail for breaking the law. The way society viewed them changed. Any negative attribute takes beauty/value away.

But, what describes or what is the description of a beautiful woman in addition to physical appearance and/or femininity? Each one is considered beauty in its raw form, but the more points of beauty one have is the level that men, women, and nature will gravitate toward them.

A model is only beautiful in a still photo or a short marketing and promotional video with no speaking part.

Well, let’s get into that. This comes from the perspective of psychology and health science. A model is beautiful (or she is supposed to be), but she is not beautiful in every venue, such as cross-country running or swimming. After 1/3 of a mile, she will not be beautiful anymore. Her grace will have left the building, and she will be lesser than others. Her attitude or ability will ruin it. She will lose the attention of others.

We’ve seen in high school when some young ladies embarrassed themselves, and they tried to make up for it; they compensated and turned all the boys off. That’s why giving time to respond appropriately is part of the definition of beauty, too.

There are runners who keep their beauty even after 20 miles. Guys would want to walk up to them and ask, “can I get to know you?” How? Easy, they haven’t fallen on their face or embarrassed themselves as models would have. Models have to stay in their world. Even if the model is rated 9/10 and the runner is only 7.5/10 on a physical scale, that runner is going to be up to 10/10 when the world sees her in her place. She loves running, and her passion and experience will make her attractive. Passion is part of the definition of beauty.

Beauty has a grace factor, as well as feminine conduct, passion, confidence, and a smaller human physical stature that reacts the male brain chemicals are factors. So far.

Just like that, we can see it all. Nope, not at all. There are more variables.

Because I’ve seen women who have lost one or more of their limbs who are still healthy and looking good, according to hundreds of thousands of people, including men — mostly men, still chasing after them.

Then, we see that there are women who do not look physically attractive and can run a marathon. That is true, too. Men will evaluate skill as “attractive” but not a facet of beauty by itself. A runner still needs facial appearance, passion in a feminine way, health, or feminine grace. Just one in accordance with its placement when the physical attraction is not all the way there for it to work.

Louann Brizendine, M.D. is one of my influencers when it comes to the brain; and both, male and female. She is a neuropsychiatrist a the University of California, San Fransisco. She worked at Harvard Medical School and she studied at Yale School of Medicine. She is the founder of the Women’s and Teen Girls’ Mood and Hormone Clinic at the University of California. Dr. Brizendine explains in Brizendine (2006) that the physical attraction to women that men have, visually, is hardwired; and that attraction is a male brain scanning for fertility (p. 63). To read more about what she says about that, please read her book the Female Brain. Health has an outward appearance.

So now we see the picture clearer; there is a definitive definition and example of beauty.

Photo by Pixabay: https://www.pexels.com/photo/adult-beautiful-body-coffee-301320/

As seen in the photo above, people will see her as beautiful, even with really tall socks and a t-shirt. Most women probably will not see it the way men see it. Anything that reacts to male brain chemicals is sexual to the male brain, regardless of what women see. The woman in the photo doesn’t need to prove anything beyond the visual perception of beauty — what we see is: physical appearance, health, grace, confidence/relaxation per gender, femininity, and something we haven’t covered yet — the power of mystery and unspoken language to men with using clothing to react male brain chemicals. But, when it comes to beauty, not all women can pull this off, so other women will have a checklist of other beauty options available to them. It’s up to each woman to choose her level.

There is an unspoken “I’m calm, collected, and I’m a very nice person to talk to” coming from that photo. Are you a nice person to talk to? Do you know someone who needs to go to boarding school or just learn to build the greatest empire they can within their biology and not care about others’ chitchat or what the TV is saying? Beautiful women also appear stress-free — and that is what babies need while they are developing inside the mother — a calm mother.

A woman who is relaxed in her zone and comfortable expressing herself is seen as beautiful. And the shorts pose a mystery, even if women did not intend it.

Now, we get into something else that someone had brought up to me previously, as well.

Men have different types of women they are attracted to. Yes, that is true. But, these men are still attracted to the beautiful statistical woman as described above. Women of all countries can be 10/10, statistically. Even some men who do not find Indian women (for example) attractive could most definitely find at least one that is. It’s just the beauty checklist — the male brain.

And a lot of the different types of women that they are interested in, they are only interested in because of culture, like rap culture, for example. Most men not present in rap culture do not even glance in the direction of these women. Actually, they are repelled by them. So that is not an example of beautiful, statistically. It’s just status in one culture. Projecting clout that’s not there, in reality, is not healthy femininity. And neither is being “bad”, physically tough, or angry for no true reason attractive.

Power

Since we know that beauty is the most powerful force in nature worldwide, women will have to hold that power globally, in rap culture. Some women on Instagram might have 100,000 followers, but that is less than .01% of men worldwide. With a closer look we see that those 100,000 have similar interests. However, there are women with 10 million followers only due to their facial beauty. They are not singers, they’re not celebrities, etc. The reason is they have not embarrassed themselves in areas they do not belong in at this time. Thus, they have kept their power. Without femininity or other areas men and the world see as beautiful, they cannot move beyond their culture. And aggression and someone who compensates for her depression are not part of beauty.

When a beautiful political woman is in politics, she can gain much ground. I’ve seen one get away with taking a selfie in a meeting while standing in front of the room. A lot of the men are smiling for the picture because they will definitely play along, of course. I’d like to see a man try that. But once she stumbles, her “physical appearance” / her power decreases.

Confidence plays a part in beauty. Confidence in self, confidence psychologically, and confidence regardless of what is going on around them. Just like that woman with the selfie in front of congressmen and senators. But, confidence misplaced is not attractive and shallow confidence (like with 90% of “Instagram influencers” who force confidence and try to convince us of their confidence).

Lastly, skills. When it comes to women’s skills, we see that being a part of beauty as we see employers hiring women for specific roles they want a good face at. Women who are great at communicating, dress the part, and have the confidence to rise above their peers will be seen as beautiful. Watching a woman dominate a PowerPoint, oral presentation, etc. is wonderful.

That is part of the reason why those women are married within 2 years. Natural selection says their value is high.

Conclusion

The attributes of beauty I’ve observed and studied are:

  • physical appearance (smaller in stature and facial) (and a feminine grace in physical appearance)
  • health
  • confidence in womanhood
  • intelligence
  • grace in conduct and speech
  • femininity
  • passion
  • skill and ability

Most things we can come up with will essentially fall into one of these categories. These are also facets that when a woman falls flat in one area, she will have to rebuild from scratch. Men will have to erase that memory or replace that memory. When we see an actress getting on drugs, she loses the attraction she once had, and then she loses her value in the hearts of others. We just feel bad for her at that point. Well, honestly, some guys don’t feel any compassion for her.

Now, some may bring up known weird singers that bring in the attention of men. Those situations are not correlational. Just because men find someone who they foresee as “easy” and safe (the men have nothing to lose by using them), and she’s a 5/10 on the scale, based on psychology that doesn’t mean there’s value there. The men who do not care about adding to her pain can be called a few things, but calling her beautiful is not one of them. If a man will not sacrifice what he currently holds, there is no value there. Just a free meal.

That’s the point: will men sacrifice?

Is your son going to sacrifice for the right lady, one with all the traits? Or will he be duped by perception or false appearances?

Do you agree that there is power and value in beauty? Cleopatra, no, nothing there?

What makes men beautiful:

Reference

Brizendine, L. (2006). The female brain. New York, Morgan Road Books.

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