My Wife isn’t Fake or Plastic
And that’s what I love about her.
Now I get to brag about my wife for a minute.
I was single for seven or eight years (aside from dating several times) before my wife came along — but, we actually met in 4th grade. So cute. Along those seven or eight years I dated a plethora of people, which never checked the boxes for me. And trust me, you never let any box go unchecked. That’s the box that comes back to bite you.
I am sincerely grateful my wife did not fall into the pit of insecurity and permanently alter anything that was natural.
She’s not an Instagramer who looks good only if she doesn’t smile and doesn’t move, and when she smiles or takes off her mountain of makeup that was put on at a detail shop. No one wonders why she took up Instagram instead of modeling. As everyone knows, it’s obvious I’m not against touching up, but I’ll put it this way: I tell clients that whatever they do for someone or showcase to them, is the normal standard. I’m good with my wife going to a detail shop, but it’s the expectation that’s what she is telling me that I will wake up to.
My standard for significant other was not a tall order.
It was — and is:
- natural
- confident
- learning what works best for who she is, in regards to appearance
I can tell when something is off. Botox. Surgery. Guys with makeup. My inner man was to get teleported to a new location immediately.
So, I understand that the aforementioned might work for some, but this isn’t their Medium story. Write a story. What works for you? But for me, none of that works and does anything for me.
Lastly, it’s also normal to ask for help. Psychologically. That’s a standard of mine, as well. I will not live with barriers between our closeness. I’ll just pack and leave. If you are working on it, not a problem. I’ll stand by you to see it through. But, not getting help and not working hard is not “working on it”. I see a psychologist and my wife used to see a therapist. I work in mental health, nonprofit management, and writing; and my wife works in Accounts Payable after working in banking for 13 years.
You are worth more than you think.
This is just a guess, but maybe you:
- are too hard on yourself
- and don’t know where to start
And that’s okay. But, don’t change yourself, add to yourself. Especially don’t change yourself if you do need therapy. Changing before therapy will 100% go the opposite direction for you. And I’m sorry to say this, but I’m not talking about community clinics, social service companies, or the like — I work in those clinics. Neither my psychologist nor my wife’s former therapist were from those clinics.
I guess, to note (since we’re on the topic), my last relationship, she paid for a therapist, too. She actually paid a good penny for hers. Hats off to her, much respect. She worked in supply management.
It’s normal to get help, even if you think you’re at 100%. I will always have a psychologist to call. Always.
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