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u like someone, and people are entitled to date more than one person as long as you are all on the same page. When it’s not OK is when one of you thinks you are exclusive and one is still looking around.</p><blockquote id="cc37"><p>‘You go on a date with a person, when you are interested in them and want to get to know them better. Dating is the probationary period where you figure out whether you two are suited enough to proceed to the next level.’ — <a href="https://www.myjoyonline.com/the-8-rules-of-dating-multiple-people-at-a-time/">Bonology, www.myjoyonline.com</a></p></blockquote><p id="b378">According to an article in <a href="https://globalnews.ca/news/3943295/dating-more-than-one-person/">Global.news.ca</a>, dating more than one person is the norm.</p><p id="8c31">Make sure you ask the question.</p><p id="d3ec"><b>What to say:</b> ‘I enjoyed the date. Are you going on dates with anyone else at the moment?”</p><p id="ad22">If you didn’t enjoy the date, don’t bother asking, you won’t be seeing them again and probably don’t care who they are seeing.</p><h1 id="0623">3. What are you looking for in a relationship?</h1><p id="7e2e"><a href="https://readmedium.com/how-i-found-love-by-narrowing-my-dating-criteria-76cf20ea5c91">This one is a biggie</a>. Some people either don’t know what they are looking for or are only after a casual relationship.</p><p id="309e">Ask the question and see what they say. Your date could still lie, but at least you’ve asked and made your stance clear.</p><p id="87aa"><b>What to say:</b> “What are you looking for in a relationship.”</p><p id="6267">It’s not rocket science. If your date says, “Oh, I’m not looking for a relationship,” that’s your answer.</p><h1 id="90f4">4. What are your plans and goals for the next three years?</h1><p id="544c"><a href="https://readmedium.com/five-reasons-you-need-to-know-your-values-and-goals-before-looking-for-love-da52918bbf56">You need to know this</a> so that you are not wasting your time. If your date wants to move the country next year and keep bees, you might need to know this.</p><p id="fffb">If you want an ongoing relationship, you need to ensure that your date’s goals and yours are aligned. Or at least not opposed.</p><p id="8084"><b>What to say: </b>‘Tell me more about yourself. What would be your ideal life?’</p><p id="de16">If your date brings up the bees and relocating to the

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Four Essential Questions To Ask On A First Date

So you can decide if there will be a second one

First dates are exciting, and it’s easy to get carried away, especially if there is a spark between you. But if you don’t know your date very well, there are some things you need to clarify.

When I started dating I assumed everyone was like me — single, wanting a relationship and honest. I found that was not always the case.

Find out whether your date matches what you want, or you could be in for a lot of wasted time, not to mention heartbreak.

But what should you ask? And how should you ask it?

Read on to find out.

1. Are you single?

What! Not single! Why are they dating?

It’s hard to believe but not all people on dating websites are single, and that guy or girl you met in a bar might not be either.

I’ve been on many dates with guys who say they are separated but still living in the same house as their wives. And I know plenty of women who have found their husbands on dating websites.

‘Married men report the highest rate of infidelity in their 70’s’ — Infidelity Statistics on Men, Women and Relationships by Gabrielle Applebury, www.divorce.lovetoknow.com

It doesn’t hurt to ask. If your date is a cheater, he may lie, but at least you have asked the question.

What to say: ‘I don’t ever date anyone who is involved with someone else. I just want to check you are single and free to date?’

If your date is outraged by the question, he’s either very naive or dating someone else. You can always explain that you’ve been taken in before, so you’re double-checking this time.

2. Are you dating anyone else?

Dating is for seeing if you like someone, and people are entitled to date more than one person as long as you are all on the same page. When it’s not OK is when one of you thinks you are exclusive and one is still looking around.

‘You go on a date with a person, when you are interested in them and want to get to know them better. Dating is the probationary period where you figure out whether you two are suited enough to proceed to the next level.’ — Bonology, www.myjoyonline.com

According to an article in Global.news.ca, dating more than one person is the norm.

Make sure you ask the question.

What to say: ‘I enjoyed the date. Are you going on dates with anyone else at the moment?”

If you didn’t enjoy the date, don’t bother asking, you won’t be seeing them again and probably don’t care who they are seeing.

3. What are you looking for in a relationship?

This one is a biggie. Some people either don’t know what they are looking for or are only after a casual relationship.

Ask the question and see what they say. Your date could still lie, but at least you’ve asked and made your stance clear.

What to say: “What are you looking for in a relationship.”

It’s not rocket science. If your date says, “Oh, I’m not looking for a relationship,” that’s your answer.

4. What are your plans and goals for the next three years?

You need to know this so that you are not wasting your time. If your date wants to move the country next year and keep bees, you might need to know this.

If you want an ongoing relationship, you need to ensure that your date’s goals and yours are aligned. Or at least not opposed.

What to say: ‘Tell me more about yourself. What would be your ideal life?’

If your date brings up the bees and relocating to the country, you can ask follow-up questions. That way, you can see whether it’s just a dream or if he has the beehives on order and already owns the land.

Summary

Dating is to find out if you are suited and whether a long-term relationship is viable. It’s OK to ask questions but make sure you don’t make your date feel uncomfortable.

Bring up the questions subtly, or you might frighten off someone who is a good match for you.

If you are going to spend your time and money going on dates with someone, you need to know they are worth it.