Family | Motherhood
By Jessica Lyon: Update on How I Feel Back at Work and My Husband at Home With Our Baby
Things no one tells you about regarding relationships
I know some women are very curious about my work and so my husband will not be reading this. We are alone, so let us enjoy our coffee time. And that is my first point.
1. Trust
I am trustworthy at work. My husband is trustworthy at home. My husband and I understand if other couples have trust issues, we are not blind to its occurrence. I’m not someone to really ask about that, I’m afraid; my husband is the psychological genius to talk to.
Either way, though. Me at home, he’d have to trust me; him at work, I’d have to trust him. I feel if I didn’t trust him, I wouldn’t in any situation. But he is a good father, and he loves our baby and me very much. He’s sacrificed a lot for this. For him to let me pay his bills along with mine was a big step.
My husband wakes up at 5:00 to exercise, sees me off to work, sleeps until 8:30 or so, comes on Medium, or works on another writing project after that until the baby wakes up, and then takes care of her until I come back home.
I don’t have a work spouse and will never have one.
2. Work
I work for a great company in Winston-Salem, NC, in their accounts payable office. I’ve worked there since May but had the baby at the end of July. The company’s been very nice about it. Before that, I worked at a credit union up in Pennsylvania for 13 years.
I am happy to be back at work. Love my company. My coworkers are great, and I have a great connection with HR and other departments at the company.
The Dilemna
But I’m a mother (that still sounds so weird). I miss my baby ALL DAY, and I would love to be home with her. I’ve never been in a catch-22 such as this in all my life.
After a few months of talking about the baby situation, my husband and I came to the conclusion that he would quit his job and stay home with our baby (I made more money, that simple, I’m afraid). The woman we had to babysit is still a teacher and, hopefully will be able to start early next year. Husband was accepted into a graduate program for the Spring, so the changes just keep coming.
I told my husband that for our next child, I would hope to stay home for a while. I am curious how many other fathers have stayed home. I’m rather satisfied with our situation. I would not trust my little one in daycare.
I’m looking forward to the next steps of the journey and pray we can navigate life’s hurdles. With my health, our baby was a miracle anyways, so I have that to be grateful for.
I look forward to hearing from other mothers and look forward to continuing to write on Medium, as I’ve jumped into my husband’s Medium account.
Thanks for reading my update! Thank you for the comments and stories of your own!
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