3 Benefits of Mutual Masturbation

Enhance your pleasure by sharing self-service with your partner

We generally think of masturbation as a solo act, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. Mutual masturbation can enhance pleasure by incorporating your partner into your self-love process, and the following are three benefits of mutual masturbation that experts told me about.

“By observing the techniques they use…we can then replicate what we’ve learned.” — Amy Baldwin

Increasing Desire

What can be more alluring than seeing your partner embrace their desires — while touching themselves, for your eyes only? Mutual masturbation is truly so sexy that I don’t blame you if you embrace the moment and put on a show just for your significant other. Knowing that the experience is just for you to savor can only be improved by seeing your partner pleasure themselves — it’s the ultimate visual delight.

Many people find that they often get swept up in sexual practices that focus on the penetrative aspect of intimacy. Mutual masturbation is an excellent chance to distance yourself from this habit, while helping you to change up your sexual routine and even engage in intimacy more frequently, which can only further increase your libido and fuel your desire for your partner.

-Mia Sabat, in-house certified sex therapist at Emjoy

“What can be more alluring than seeing your partner embrace their desires — while touching themselves, for your eyes only?” — Mia Sabat

Trying an Exciting New Intimacy

Masturbation is usually a very private thing, so opening up and sharing your self-love routine with another person creates a bond of intimacy. It can be an exciting new thing to try. If things are getting a little routine, mutual masturbation can spice it up a little. If you have never tried mutual masturbation with your partner before, it is new — and new is fun!

-Searah Deysach, Sex Educator and Owner of feminist sex shop Early to Bed

“If things are getting a little routine, mutual masturbation can spice it up a little.” — Searah Deysach

Learning What Your Partner Likes

We can learn about what our partners like by watching them touch themselves. By observing the techniques they use, as well as preferred speed and pressure, we can then replicate what we’ve learned when we touch them with our own hands or bodies.

-Amy Baldwin, Co-Host of the Shameless Sex Podcast

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