All These Podcasts with 'Alpha' Males Are Only for Clout.

Not to find a real solution.

I'm tired of these supposed men putting down other women for views and engagement.

Have you come across videos on either Tiktok, YouTube, Instagram, etc., of a bunch of different guys (at this point, I've lost track of how many there are) talking about what women should and shouldn't do to be happy but also what they should and shouldn't do to attract and keep a guy?

Some of them truly infuriates me.

These 'red pill' guys scare the crap out of me because of how they view women and their roles in life, but also how they see themselves and have absolutely no accountability or self-awareness.

Here are a few things I've noticed they do practically every time they film a podcast episode, and frankly, we, especially women, are getting tired of seeing the same routine play out over and over.

They don't have a dialogue or listen to what women and the female guests they host are trying to say.

Although I understand many of these girls are exactly that, girls who don't know better, the way these guys communicate their message is often very disrespectful and doesn't help or change the issues they are supposedly trying to address.

I understand that aspects like modesty and submissiveness are important for a man, but the way these guys talk sounds like they want a dog rather than a woman.

Accountability is crucial to being in a relationship, which goes both ways.

You hold your partner accountable, and they hold you accountable — it's called communication and compromise.

These guys talk as if the only correct way for a woman to behave is to obey every command her man gives her.

I don't know what world they are living in that they think they will find a good woman who respects herself yet will bow down to a man like he's a king and she's a servant — spoiler, she doesn't exist.

A woman with a good head on her shoulders has respect for herself and knows what she wants and doesn't want in a relationship.

Just like men want to be respected in the relationship, women want to be respected too.

We want to be seen as capable, intelligent human beings who can make decisions without having to run every single one by our man first.

We also want a man who understands we're human, we're not perfect, and from time to time, we will make mistakes, just like he will, because we are all human.

In most circumstances, you will need to discuss decisions with your partner. Odds are you're both being affected by it.

If a man behaves in a manner where he's looking down on you, constantly correcting you, and putting you down for sharing your opinion, that's a trap, and any good woman with self-respect will run far away from a man like that.

These guys refuse to put themselves in these girls' shoes to understand how they ended up where they are.

They refuse to provide an emotionally safe and secure environment where these girls could learn something valuable.

The kind of girls I see on these podcasts are girls who, unfortunately, society has failed. I'm not saying everything that's happened to them is someone else's fault, but I can have empathy and understand how they ended up where they are.

The reality is sex cells, and the majority of these girls have worked or worked in one of the many sectors of the sex industry.

Not every woman turns to sex work out of want. Some of them do it out of need.

The absolute lack of empathy for these girls sometimes kills me.

I understand some of these girls need a real knock on the head to hopefully wake them up, but treating every girl that comes across that podcast this way? In my opinion, that will cause more harm than good.

Empathy is key to having a vulnerable, open, and honest conversation.

If these guys were trying to positively impact these girls' lives, I would think they would ask more questions to understand these girls' mindsets and see if they want to be helped.

Maybe they would offer resources to help them get out of the sex industry.

I would think they would respectfully and empathetically tell them that there will be consequences to the decisions they're making now.

Unfortunately, most of the time, I see these guys telling these girls they will never find a man who values them because of their mistakes.

If you're told your future is already ruined by what you've done up until now, how does that encourage you to want to change said future? It doesn't.

There's no self-reflection.

I've heard these guys constantly talk about women and what they're doing wrong, blah blah blah.

Do you know what I've yet to hear? Stories about them and how they changed their minds or learned something new and realized how they were going about things wasn't the best in the context of a relationship.

You know what's funny? These guys are not even married. Most, if not all of them, are not in committed relationships.

Why would you give so much advice on something you don't have?

Am I an authority on the subject of relationships? Yes, to a certain degree.

Why do I say to a certain degree? Because I'm not a psychologist or counselor or hold any certification that says I'm a professional at giving relationship advice.

But you know what I have? Over a year and a half of experience in a serious, committed relationship.

Does this mean I have some worthwhile information to share about the subject? You bet it does!

These guys don't. Now I'm not saying there isn't truth to some things being said.

What I've noticed, however, is the majority of what these guys share are opinions and preferences.

Opinions and preferences are the least important to consider when choosing a partner. They're also not that important when you're already in a relationship.

You know what's important? Character, values, core beliefs.

If a man's core belief is that a woman must obey her husband/boyfriend without questioning some of his decisions, that’s a red flag.

Do you know what this signals to me? A man who is unwilling to learn from his mistakes, whose ego is so big he cannot and will not accept direction from someone with a different perspective.

That's starting to sound a little like a narcissist, and we know having a healthy functioning relationship with someone like that is impossible.

A relationship is about action. It's about having difficult conversations and figuring out if what you both want individually is something that you can both share.

It's about looking in the mirror and being honest about what is and isn't working.

It's about willing to change because a relationship will challenge almost everything you know and believe.

It's about willing to keep growing and fighting for a future together because lasting relationships don't happen for no reason.

They happen because two people choose to commit to each other. They decided to commit to a future and refuse to give up.

That's how a long-term relationship is acquired.

You don't sit in front of a microphone and criticize the crap out of young girls, who, unfortunately, are making bad decisions and don't realize the consequences.

Instead, if you're genuinely trying to help, you share stories of what you used to believe, how you were challenged when you got into a relationship, and actionable steps on what has helped grow you as a person and solidify the relationship.

Thank you for coming to my rant.