9 Ideas for Holiday Romance
As the holiday season winds down, you can still turn your romance up
The holiday season is coming to an end, and chances are, you could probably use some time to just relax and enjoy your partner. In order to give you some ideas, I interviewed sex and relationship experts who offered their recommendations on how to infuse a sense of romance into the rest of the holiday season.
Set a Sensual Scene
Create a sensual sanctuary for you and your lover. Think about using your five senses and get creative with holiday classics. Sight: Use dim lighting or candles. Sound: Create a sexy holiday playlist. Smell: Consider scented candles or body oil with a scent you both enjoy. Taste: Serve dark chocolate, strawberries, grapes, or another sensual food you can both enjoy. Touch: Take your time! Touch your lover and enjoy the sensation. You can use a prop if you like, like leather or a feather, to create additional sensations. Maybe even blindfold your partner so they don’t know what’s coming next.
-Dr. Britney Blair, Co-Founder of the sexual wellness app Lover and Founder of The Clinic, an independent mental health clinic in Northern California
Heat Up the Kitchen
Holiday baking can be fun, but while the oven is on 350 degrees, and you need to wait 30 to 45 minutes, this is the perfect time to invite your partner into the kitchen for some fun sex time! Spice it up by using those kitchen counters, kitchen floor, etc. as great places to have sex with your partner. Having a change of scenery can spice things up just by having sex in the kitchen! Want more creativity? Look to some whipped cream or frosting to use as a tool of increased pleasure.
-Dr. Michael Stokes, LMHC, Rhode Island Sex Therapy LLC
“Want more creativity? Look to some whipped cream or frosting to use as a tool of increased pleasure.” — Dr. Michael Stokes
Set a Holiday Atmosphere
One idea would be a holiday-themed sensual massage where you sip some eggnog, light pine or gingerbread cookie candles, wear a Santa’s hat, and listen to holiday music — all while taking turns giving and receiving a sensual massage with coconut oil.
-Dr. Wyatt Fisher, author of marriage book Total Marriage Refresh
Try Sexting
Due to the pandemic, many people will spend their holidays away from their partners. Sexting is the right way of sparking some flames and decreasing holiday blues. You can send your partner a message about how you love their lips on your neck and see where it will get you.
-Nikolina Jeric, Founder of 2Date4Love.com
Make a Sexy Wish List
Agree, as a couple, to make a sexy wish list for the holiday season, detailing both romantic gestures and sexual acts that would be enjoyed. Try to include small things in the list — things that can be snuck into busy holiday schedules. Exchange the lists and have a blast surprising each other with treats and surprises leading up to the year’s end.
-Simone Collins, co-author of The Pragmatist’s Guide to Sexuality* and The Pragmatist’s Guide to Relationships
Exchange Intimate Gifts
Exchange intimate gifts when you’re alone. Even if you can’t use them at that moment, it’ll be something you can look forward to later. This might be lingerie, an erotic game, or a sex toy.
-Kayla Lords, sex expert at JackandJillAdult.com
Cook Together
A great romantic gesture is to cook each other dinner, and make some eggnog or a hot toddy, and then put on mood lighting. Doing something romantic with each other in a sexy ambience sets the stage for intimacy — especially with something as sensual as taste! Let dinner be the foreplay to your evening.
-Rori Sassoon, Co-Owner of matchmaking agency Platinum Poire and author of The Art of the Date
“Giving a foot massage where the giver can only do what is directed by the receiver is always a fun, stimulating exercise.” — Theano Evagelou
Enjoy Outdoor Winter Activities
Outdoor winter activities can make for the best lovemaking. Have you been sledding since you were a kid? Sledding is a recipe for hot sex because it triggers that primal survival instinct when we brave the elements. Think about it, you’re outside in the freezing cold, climbing up a hill. Your fingers get numb and cheeks are burning. And you get the adrenaline rush of sliding down the hill. Then you get to come in from the cold, share a mug of cocoa, take a hot shower together, and cuddle up naked in bed.
-Christine DeLozier, L.Ac., author of The Diet for Great Sex
Give a Foot Massage
Giving a foot massage where the giver can only do what is directed by the receiver is always a fun, stimulating exercise. First off, it starts to create connection because the receiver has to express their needs and desires and the giver can only do what is instructed and ask probing questions to help further open up that dialogue and guidance. What is so beautiful about this is that it translates into sexual play, as it establishes comfort and safety to express needs for pleasure.
-Theano Evagelou, Certified Authentic Tantra Practitioner and Relationship Coach
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