3 Signs It’s Time to Let Go of That (Twin Flame) Relationship

The universe will not bring them back

1. They Don’t Respect You

Is there a specific person for your soul to be with? Probably not. If that were the case, then if one person makes a mistake and chooses the wrong person, then everyone else’s choice is wrong.

Think about it.

The moment you call someone your twin flame meaning they are the one for you, you automatically place them on a pedestal.

People we place on pedestals are the hardest to get a hold of. You must go above and beyond to get their attention. It’s draining and if you’re able to get their attention somehow, there’s a disconnect. Because of the pedestal you placed them on, they are higher than you and so you give them no choice but to look down and disrespect you.

One of the hardest lessons you will learn on your spiritual journey is knowing when to let go.

Many believe that when you identify someone as your twin flame then you must hold on to them no matter what.

It’s really interesting the levels of disrespect many of us tolerate because we love someone to the moon and back.

If only love alone was enough.

Nobody wants the person who loves them the most. The one with the most love to give is the one who is taken for granted. The one who has the most love for another is the one who is disrespected the most.

But disrespect is where you draw the line regardless of the magnitude of love!

If your twin flame or this person you can’t let go of is cheating on you or is in a relationship with someone else, or lying to you constantly or forgetting to return your call, won’t text you back because they’re “too busy;” if they’re abusing you, or simply not giving a fuck about you, where is the respect?

A person who truly respects you will do none of those things.

They will not turn their back on you and run from you as if you’re dangerous or scary. They won’t run leaving you guessing where you stand. They won’t run and have you chasing them for years knowing damn well that it will never be you.

The person who respects you will face you, look you in the eye, and tell you that they do not want you and if they do, they will tell you that without playing mind games.

The only person who will play with a heart in their hands is a truly wicked person who doesn’t care how it hurts.

The person who is for you will not lie, ignore, or abuse and they will definitely not be married or in a relationship with another person. Getting involved with a person who is involved with another soul is the silliest thing you can do for your soul consciousness. Why create soul ties with different soul streams? Don’t fall for that no matter the attraction. Why create bad karma for yourself? If you break a home, yours will be broken. It’s the law! “You reap what you sow. What goes around comes back around. To every action…” you get the point. You may think they love you for cheating on their partner but no. They have no respect for both you and their partner.

When you keep tolerating a relationship where you’re not respected, after some time, you lose respect for yourself. You let yourself down every time you allow another person to mistreat you.

Many twin flame experts will tell you that your twin flame is helping you heal and so you have to just heal and learn to love yourself and the universe will bring you two together.

No.

You’re already hurt, and your so-called twin flame is making it worse!

Many will argue that the only reason a twin flame must cause you so much pain is because of the lessons they have to teach you.

No, and yes.

Everybody you cross paths with has something to teach you. We live in a universe that is one and connected. The idea that you are an individual being is an illusion. When you reach this level of spiritual awareness, you realize that everyone and everything is your soul mate or twin flame because in a universe that is one and connected, all there is, is you. So there will always be another person to teach you.

People can teach and help you heal in ways that are gentle and loving. There is nothing divine about disrespect.

The only reason you will allow another man or woman to disrespect and mistreat you in the name of love is that you have no respect for yourself, and so you mistreat yourself.

It’s true.

As you spiritually evolve and your eyes open and you start to heal your wounds, and you start to really truly love yourself, there will be no way you will allow another person to treat you like you’re no good!

There will be no way on earth, in heaven, or in hell!

When you’re growing and evolving and you’re involved with a soul who is not showing you respect, you’ll start to feel the discord. You will start to feel like, “Nah, this isn’t right” and you’ll start figuring out how you’re going to let them go.

And that would be your intuition trying to tell you something. Listen to your intuition and give up the thought that the universe is going to bring them back to you. That’s crazy! The universe is not crazy.

The universe will not bring you someone who disrespects you so stop wasting time wishful thinking.

2. Your Intuition Says Let Go

Your intuition has already told you many times that you have to let go of this person, but because you have so much love for them, over and over again, you’ve tried and failed.

You really try.

Maybe you’ve been doubting yourself if things would change and they would see your worth. Maybe you think it’s truly meant to be and what’s meant to be will be.

It won’t be if your intuition says let go. Stop doubting and start seeing reality for what it is.

They run from you because they don’t see your worth, but that doesn’t mean you’re not worthy.

The moment someone sees you as not worthy or good enough, that should be motivation enough to let them go.

Don’t allow your fear of thinking you will not find another person to keep you in the wrong situation. Don’t let your fear of the unknown keep you trapped.

You may be afraid of having to meet someone new and starting all over again. You may be afraid of having to let go of the familiar and stepping into the unknown. So even though you’re not really happy with the familiar, you hold on because you’re afraid.

But don’t be afraid.

You will find another person if you desire, but you must first let go and trust the process.

Trust and truly understand the process.

A soul is just a spiritual stream of consciousness, and streams do nothing but flow. Metaphorically speaking, those we call twin flames and soul mates are just streams of consciousnesses of our soul that branches out to have other experiences. But it’s plural. Streams. So there isn’t just the one. There are many others. There are many other streams that will feel like home once you meet them. So if this one you’ve met isn’t recognizing you as a soul mate and is disrespecting you, you have to be willing to say, “Go on then’’ and make way for them to flow past.

Don’t hold on to someone who wants to be let go. Make way for them to flow off so others can flow in.

The best one for you is the one who sees you and immediately sees your heart. Then they see your worth and they know they want you in their life. It’s the one who is ready to commit to you. The one who wants what you want. The one who doesn’t make you chase after them because they don’t want to tire you.

If you’re chasing after them, it’s a huge sign that you must let them go. It gets tiring, and it’s truly painful when someone you love runs from you.

If being involved with this person brings you more pain than pleasure; if they cause you months of pain and bring a day of happiness, you have to let it go.

It’s not worth it.

When they’re gone, you know they’re not worried about you, but you can’t stop thinking about them. They are perfectly fine living their life without you and there you are unfulfilled and unhappy day in and day out.

You must be strong and let them go.

If they can’t love you, you have to love you. Your feelings matter, but all that pain? It’s not worth it. It gets to a point when you just can’t hold on any longer because holding on hurts just as bad as letting go and holding on stops you from growing.

We come to the earth to heal, grow, and evolve. We came to learn to break free from unhealthy attachments pattern and so there will be some unhealthy relationships that will be presented to you so you can break free and grow. In order to be healthy, you have to learn to let go of those unhealthy patterns when you see them, no matter how difficult.

After a point, these types of attachments become a stronghold that holds you hostage. You have to break the bondage and free yourself.

Maybe you’ve held on for years because you really believed that it was meant to be, but enough time has passed and there are no signs that show that a reunion is close. There is nothing easy about it, but you have to give yourself closure and move on. Don’t even seek it from them. When you decide to move on, they may come back because it's a pattern, but it's a toxic pattern to put an end to.

Listen to your intuition. It’s your inner compass, and it was right all along.

3. They're Not Aligned With You

There are many streams of the same soul, but if one stream runs into another, it would have no awareness of it unless it was spiritually aware. You call them your twin flame or soul mate because you are spiritually aware. They run away from you or reject you because they are not. And there is nothing you can do to wake them up unless you were God, but you're not.

Being spiritually aware isn’t even enough. You have to be positively aligned with them and them with you.

If the person you are calling your twin flame refuses to see and commit to you, then they are simply not aligned with you, no matter how perfect they are.

Most of us think that our twin flames are just perfect. Everything they do is perfect and you want to make them feel you can be perfect for them. So when they are coming over, you go above and beyond to get yourself and your place ready for them. When you are with them, you have to compose yourself in a way this perfect person will love.

Tell me that’s not draining, especially if you’re perfectly imperfect and terribly aligned.

If you are a person who doesn’t care about stepping out without makeup and you feel heavy wearing it; if you are a person who can sleep with your apartment looking a bit messy, how do you expect to be with a person who is just so perfect and you must always be perfect for? You are not aligned with such a person. You will not feel free to be your true, authentic self.

In order to be truly happy and fulfilled, it’s important that you feel free to be who you truly are.

With the right person, when you feel like wearing makeup, you will wear it. When you don’t, you won’t. When you don’t feel like getting a fresh haircut before going out to meet them, you won’t. When you feel like it, you will. And no matter what you choose to do, they will accept you just the way you come and you'll be comfortable because they will make you feel so.

If you can't be comfortable around them, if every word you say to them must be perfectly picked out so they can see how great you are, that's a sign that you must let go.

One thing I know to be true on the spiritual path is that you must be willing to shift and adjust your beliefs as you evolve. When it comes to spending your life with someone, instead of keeping blind faith that the universe will bring them back to you, use wisdom and discernment as to what is God’s best for you.

If God wants to bless you, he sends someone. If the devil wants to distract you, he also sends someone. With everyone person in your life, you must figure out who sent who.

God's best will not come to disrespect you. They will not make you question yourself. They won’t make you feel small. They won’t see you and run. They will see you and stay. They will love and accept you. They will love your imperfections and kiss your flaws. They will love you on your bad days and love you even more on your good days. You won’t have to be anything other than who God created you to be.

But when you’re confused about your twin flame, remember this: God is not the author of confusion. He won’t confuse you when he sends someone. If you’re confused about the whole thing, it’s the biggest sign that you have to let go.

In order to grow, expand and evolve on the spiritual journey; in order to receive the things that are truly meant for you, you have to make space for them. In order to make space, you have to be willing to release anything that isn’t positively aligned with you.

You have to let go and let the right things come.

For God to send you the best, you have to be willing to let go of what you thought was the best. And no matter how heartbreaking it is, how confusing it seems, and how uncertain the future looks, do not be afraid.

You have many other soul streams, and one of them is meant to be aligned with you. The moment you meet, they will immediately recognize you and you will too.

Don’t chase, love.

You are love. Sweet like honey. Become like a tree and be still. Be still and the butterfly will come.

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Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.