3 Ways to Place Yourself So You Effortlessly Attract Love

The butterfly can teach you many things

1. Be Still

If you wanted a butterfly to come and perch on your shoulders, you would have to be still or you’ll move and scare it away. But most of us can’t be still when we see a butterfly we love so much — the pretty ones that fly around us and the ones that flutter in our stomachs. It’s a great sight and an even greater feeling, which is why it’s so hard to be still.

When it comes to attracting butterflies, you must understand that you don’t control what happens or when.

The best thing for you to do is to be still. Be still and wait for it to come to you. If you’re not still, the butterfly energetically feels your need to catch it. It’s the same as the last person who seemed desperate for your attention. It scares you a bit and you go away.

Desperation is a turnoff for butterflies and humans. Instead of being desperate, be still. Take your mind off of the butterfly and focus on yourself.

Let the butterfly flutter around, and focus on being like a flower.

The flower doesn’t worry about the butterfly. It has never had to uproot itself and go chasing after the butterfly. It doesn’t care where or when the butterfly lands. It doesn't worry if it will come. Instead, it focuses on its own life, getting the sun and some rain, and basking in the glory of all of its splendor, and then guess what?

The butterfly just comes.

When you see yourself like a flower without a need to chase, you attract the things and the people you want effortlessly just by being who you are.

If you wanted a butterfly to come and perch on your shoulders, you would have to be still or risk scaring it away.

2. Don’t Chase

It’s your state of being, your energy, and your vibration that make a butterfly want or not want to come to you.

You can’t be surprised that you chase something, and it runs. That you chase someone and they run from you. That's just how it is.

Your desire to catch and control feels unsafe to the person you’re chasing. When your energy is too controlling, people run away.

Like the butterfly, the person you want can energetically feel your desire to catch and capture them. Jumping through hoops, screaming for them to please come, and throwing your hands in the air to catch them scares butterflies away.

When you chase another person, you imply that they have something you lack. You're saying they’re more attractive than you are. Your energy tells them they’re better than you. They feel your desperation and they feel superior. This gives them no choice but to look down on you.

Instead of chasing, forget about them and have fun. Leave the situation alone and remain in your core vibration.

Focus on yourself.

When you’re focused on taking care of yourself, it shows others you can take care of them. It makes people feel safe. It’s attractive.

Love you first if you want a person to love you. If you want them to see you, see you first. If you want to be with them so badly, learn to be with yourself. To be treated like you’re beautiful, you must feel beautiful.

Remain grounded like the flower.

Get yourself in flow states as often as you can by doing things you’re passionate about. When you’re indulged in your passion, people feel the passion. You’ll be surprised to see that they come to you.

If you stop chasing the butterfly, you might be pleasantly surprised at the beauty that appears in front of you.

3. Play a New Role

Everyone has a story they tell themselves about love and why they can't attract it. They always run or fly away. You have to try too hard. You’re not a very colorful flower. The people you want are always too busy to spend time with you. You think you’ll always be alone.

Your story is going to dictate the way you act.

You must become aware of the story you're telling yourself and how it affects your energy. It’s all about your energy and your vibes.

If your story makes you seem desperate, change it so it’s not.

You can totally change the role you play in your story. You must change it and play a better role where the butterflies come, and the person you want so much gravitates toward you.

The stories you tell yourself about love and relationships will have a powerful indication of how people relate to you.

Play a role where you are the attractive one.

Change the story so you’re a total babe and the prettiest flower out there. Embody that energy and others will feel that off of you. Butterflies come to you because you're still and not chasing them away. You meet people; you love them and they love you back.

Or maybe, in your story, there’s a butterfly in a chrysalis who is coming out to perch on you soon. Believe you’re worthy of love.

© 2022 Kimberly Fosu. All rights reserved.

Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.

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