Blue pill or Red pill
3 Brutal Truths About Attracting Love
There’s no turning back once you know
Which One Do You Want?
Blue Pill: Believe whatever you want
Take the blue pill and you wake up in your bed believing whatever you want. You can keep believing the old way of attracting love works. You get up and go outside searching for the one. You search and search and you attract who you are.
Attracting “the one” wasn’t easy, so you hold on to it even after realizing it’s not it, but an embodiment of what you truly feel. But you are desperate for love so you hold on tight, place them on a massive pedestal and you screw it up. You start to believe love sucks but you repeat the process over and over again until you’re drained out of love.
If you take the red pill, you stay in wonderland and allow me to show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
Red Pill: Down the rabbit hole
There are some concepts that cause many of us to create resistance when it comes to finding love. It has caused me a delay in my search for the one, so I looked for a better way.
We are told that we have a soulmate. A twin flame. The one person that completes us so we go out looking for them.
The problem with this method of attracting love is that trying to look for love outside of yourself is like going around looking for a soul because you can’t see your own soul. You see everybody with a soul (mate) and it makes you feel like you don’t have one. You say, “I want a soul” forgetting you already have it.
Just because you don’t see love doesn’t mean it’s not there. It just means you are looking for it in all the wrong places.
Here are the 3 brutal truths about attracting love:
1. You Can’t Attract Love
Wait. Before you start freaking out, hear me out.
When we are trying to attract love, we’re coming at it from the mindset that we don't have love. When we think we don't have love, we attract wounded partners. When we already feel whole and complete, even while single, we get a reflection of love, even if it’s in the form of temporary situations.
Taking the red pill immediately opens your mind to the fact that every person you attract is just a reflection of you.
We don’t attract love; we reflect love. Replace the word attract with reflect and it changes the dynamic on finding love. You can’t attract something you do not embody — you attract and reflect what you are.
To attract love, you must embody love. You attract fear if you embody fear. You attract kindness if you are kind. When you have unhealed dramas and traumas, you attract a person with unhealed dramas and traumas. When a person is desperate for love, they attract someone who is also desperate for love. You attract a reflection of yourself.
If you want to attract love, you must first reflect it. If you manage to attract love when you're not, it turns toxic and you end up ruining it vibrationally because you’re not in alignment.
Stop looking for the one because you are the one and the one you are looking for.
2. It Won’t Come if You Don’t Let Go
When we stop trying to attract love a lot of times, that’s when it comes in. This is because when you’re trying to attract something, you lack it. When you try to attract love from a place of lack, you attract a lack of love.
To reflect and attract love, we must let go and embody the love that’s already inside of us. In that way, we put ourselves in alignment to receive love.
The moment you let it go is the moment it comes to you.
We cross paths with the people we have soul contracts with, but those magical encounters happen unexpectedly. It happens when we are not looking. It happens when we’re having fun. It happens when we least expect it and that’s when it’s the best! Most people find love when they’ve given up on it and that’s because they’ve released all resistance and vibrationally, they’re in alignment.
To reflect and attract love, you must let go of your attachments to people even when you really, really like them.
When we hold on too tightly to people refusing to let go, we are trying to control it. When we try to control, we are saying that we don’t trust the universe to bring us what we want. Then it’s not natural.
When you really want to reflect and attract love, you must forget the love that’s outside of you and focus on the love that's inside of you.
Send your requests over to the universe and then let it go. I don’t mean let it go in an egotistical attempt to trick the universe, saying you don’t want it when you desperately want it.
No.
Let go, live your life fully embodying love and trust that it’ll come no matter how long it’s taking.
If you are having a hard time letting go, that’s because you believe you must control the situation or you’re already attached. You believe that if you don’t try hard, you’re going to lose them, but the truth is that when you want someone too bad, you push them away.
You can’t force love.
You can’t force someone to love you. You can’t control someone loving you but if you let them go, you allow them to be free to choose or not choose you, and in both cases; you win. If they choose you, that’s unconditional love and the best energy for love. If they don’t, then they’re not wasting your precious time. But letting go is the only way to know.
The moment you let it go is the moment it comes to you.
3. The Pedestal Belongs to You
We’ve been told we only have one twin flame and when we believe we’ve found it, we put it on a pedestal. When we believe we’ve found the one, it’s normal that we want to hold it up to the light so we can see, admire and adore it, but that destroys the relationship before it’s gotten the chance to begin.
What was supposed to be a beautiful thing becomes toxic and one-sided where there’s one person standing up the pedestal feeling high and mighty looking down on the person standing below.
To reflect and attract love, we must stop putting people above us because we are already whole and complete and we don’t need anyone else to be. You may want a person, but you don’t need them. Needing someone so badly is often a childhood trauma where you didn’t get the love and attention you needed from your parents, so you look for that love and attention in romantic partners. In that case, shadow work is necessary.
You may want to reflect a divine partner, but you don’t need it to feel love. You are love. You aren’t desperate for love and attention. Instead, you allow it to come to you.
When we believe we’ve found the one, it’s normal that we want to hold it up to the light so we can see, admire and adore it, but that destroys the relationship before it’s gotten the chance to begin.
Final Thoughts
The blue pill represents comfort, a lack of awareness, and resistance to change.
The red pill is the truth, and the truth is not always comfortable, but the truth is powerful and liberating. It frees you from the pressures of life.
The red pill opens your mind and your eyes to these truths:
- You attract a reflection of yourself. You can’t attract love if you’re not love. You embody, reflect, and then attract whatever you are.
- Forcing things never ends well. If you want love to come, you must let it go so it flows back to you. Then you know it's real.
- Remove people from the pedestal and climb on top of it. The only person that belongs on a pedestal is you! And the birds!
You are the one you’ve been searching for. Find and love yourself first and let love find you.
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